Members its1013 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Everyone has things they don't like while having sex. There are probably times when you wish you could have declared your "bedroom no-no's" before engaging in sex with a new partner. Or perhaps when beginning a new fantasy.I know that in talking to my female friends, they quite openly state what their boundaries are in our discussions on the topic of sex and bedroom rules. But I'm wondering if you men ever make their fears or uncertainties known ahead of time with their partners.So chime in. Would love to hear what both sexes and folks from different orientations. I'll start.:1.) i hate the word cunt - love dirty talk but just don't like that word2.) can't stand that spitting stuff. there are nice ways to wet if you need to but the whole spitting thing is a HUGE turn off and ruins good porn scenes, too. - this has not happened to me but I'll nip that in the bud real quick if it does.Ok. Your turn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Actually we used to joke about what my no-no's were. When we first got together I was VERY sheltered. he had mentioned in an email about doing it from behind and I was very stern on saying absolutely not. I was automatically thinking he meant anal. Well being sheltered I found out later I was wrong. He writes me and tells me how he finds that odd as most women love that.Well in talking more I realized what he meant and now he jokes because not only do I love it from behind but I love anal as well. So I have learned I never say no. I told him I would always try something at least once or twice if I was unsure. I would not just dismiss something without trying it.Hell if I did there would be quite a bit of things that I would have never expereinced or realized that I truly enjoy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 I absolutely hate when a partner says they have never tried something and never will. Of course there are ways around all that BS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Another is a partner who is afraid to express themselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 If at all possible NEVER go to bed mad at your partner! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jhard Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 No farting in bed...especially in my direction! Does not include pussy farts, which are always welcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Everyone has things they don't like while having sex. There are probably times when you wish you could have declared your "bedroom no-no's" before engaging in sex with a new partner. Or perhaps when beginning a new fantasy.I know that in talking to my girl friends, they quite openly state what their boundaries are in our discussions. But I'm wondering if men ever make their fears or uncertainties known ahead of time with their partners.So chime in. Would love to hear what both sexes and folks from different orientations have to say. I'll start.:1.) i hate the word cunt - love dirty talk but just don't like that word2.) can't stand that spitting stuff. there are nice ways to wet if you need to but the whole spitting thing is a HUGE turn off and ruins good porn scenes.Ok. Your turn.Ditto on those 2. UGH saliva makes me gag! Ever make out with a dude who is just way sloppy EWWW! I don't like to be spanked other than the occasional slap on the ass in the heat of the moment.NO anal either... that's really it I cant think of anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Not only is spitting disgusting but I would think that would be a sign that someone has done a piss poor job on the foreplay end of the world! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Not only is spitting disgusting but I would think that would be a sign that someone has done a piss poor job on the foreplay end of the world!Or is just ignorant to any alternatives... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 I agree with all the above comments. As most of you already know, I also have come from a very conservative back round and my lists of no-no's was a mile long. Well we just don't bother with no's anymore, and if something happens that either of us dislikes, done..... Though most of the above mentioned has never happened.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jhard Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 I absolutely hate when a partner says they have never tried something and never will. Of course there are ways around all that BS.I am very interested in the ways to which you are referring, care to share?jhard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 If a partner has never had anal and swears that they would never try it I would begin with slipping a finger in while doing oral! As long as you don't have that bull in a china shop thing happening they usually come around to it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jhard Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 A friend of mine (mid 30's) was led astray by a 20 something year old gal. He did his best to stay clear, but after a few weeks of trying her car broke down and she needed a ride home and that was the beginning of the end for him. He did say that being led astray like he was is not all that bad (that gal rocked his world!). He could'nt live with the guilt so he told his wife. After she was done being pissed, she became the horniest wife in town, he can't give her enough! So now us fellas around here think that what he did is one way to cut out the BS that the wives tend to dish out concerning sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 A friend of mine (mid 30's) was led astray by a 20 something year old gal. He did his best to stay clear, but after a few weeks of trying her car broke down and she needed a ride home and that was the beginning of the end for him. He did say that being led astray like he was is not all that bad (that gal rocked his world!). He could'nt live with the guilt so he told his wife. After she was done being pissed, she became the horniest wife in town, he can't give her enough! So now us fellas around here think that what he did is one way to cut out the BS that the wives tend to dish out concerning sex. IDK if I would agree with that one. That line about "can't give her enough" may turn into a prophecy! I don't buy for a second that a 20 something affair brought his wife out like he believes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jj53 Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 DO NOT SAY YOUR SORRY FOR HAVING AN ORGASM AND CUMMING ALL OVER ME LIKE A FIRE HOSE. Just lay back and enjoy the way it feels, and let the pleasure wash over you, BUT DO NOT SAY YOUR SORRY!!!!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 My ex used to say thank you. Not big long sigh...............................oh.................... thank you, baby........................But like I had passed him the pepper. Always struck me weird Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted August 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 New rule: No grandkids sleeping in our room, they sleep in the bedroom next to ours with a monitor plugged in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 Here's one of mine that is always violated: just enjoy the afterglow, don't jump up, don't say: "I have to go to sleep now." Let me bask in the afterglow. No rules. It's All good. As long as consent is obtained before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vanilla_bean Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 Old rule: Stay the hell on your side of the bed.New rule: Never say never. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 Old rule: Stay the hell on your side of the bed.New rule: Never say never.as far as the old rule.....there is nothing like sleeping in each others arms......but to each his ownI definitely agree with the new rule that is my attitude completely Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 I absolutely hate pain. I hate my nipples bitten in any way shape or form, it will bring me from a fever pitch to a total turn off in 1 second.Don't start something and then don't finish. It's being a tease and it's mean.Don't lead me on, if you don't want sex don't act like you do. Just don't even bother going there. And my very biggest turn off, is a person acting as if they are bored and not into me. Don't crack jokes, during foreplay or tickle me or play juvenile games like wet willies or any of that crap. Do that shit out of bed.That's about the only rules I have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tmmc Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 No sex during the news...not that I want to watch the news but if I have sex with the news on I have nightmares. So I think the extension to that is I normally get the remote and turn the tv off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 Yes I should add, no tv or distracting things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 I would have to add I am not into pain or hard biting.....nibbling is fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members OPL Laundry Goddess Posted August 21, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 I also have come from a very conservative back round and my lists of no-no's was a mile long.Same here... it was all preconceived notions and society taught rigidity. Somewhere in my early mid 30s I learned to listen to my body, and that is when I started seeing sex in a whole new light. From then on, it was pretty much anything goes. We try anything and then make decisions about if we want to go there again.I will agree with you on the spitting... I HATE that in the movies. Really, there are so many other opportunities for lube, why be gross about it?He could'nt live with the guilt so he told his wife. After she was done being pissed, she became the horniest wife in town, he can't give her enough! So now us fellas around here think that what he did is one way to cut out the BS that the wives tend to dish out concerning sex.Don't let her actions confuse you... that is not a new freedom in her, its reclaimation. And tell him to be careful, if he's stupid enough to believe this has liberated her in any way, he's the one that will eventually be liberated, from his marriage!IDK if I would agree with that one. That line about "can't give her enough" may turn into a prophecy! I don't buy for a second that a 20 something affair brought his wife out like he believes.Ya, like I was saying... ~LG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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