Toys For Couples

[Ocean]

I'm new to actually enjoying sex and wanting it all the time. After six of years of my husband making me sick to my stomach I have moved on and have the most awesome boyfriend. We've both never really expeirmented and have talked about maybe wanting to. Advice? Ideas? Any would be appreciated.

Thanks :D

Ocean

[Mikayla1]

I'm new to actually enjoying sex and wanting it all the time. After six of years of my husband making me sick to my stomach I have moved on and have the most awesome boyfriend. We've both never really expeirmented and have talked about maybe wanting to. Advice? Ideas? Any would be appreciated.

Thanks :D

Ocean

I am glad you have found someone in which you want to experience the joys of sex - some people waste their whole lives NEVER finding out what good sex really is - it is most sad!

Anyway, are you wanting to know what toys are good for couples? Basically, any toy! There are many which are designed for use "together" such as THE DIVING DOLPHIN for example:

http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3520

Toys like this are designed to go around the man's cock and serve as a cock ring and then the attachment - the dolphin in this case - will vibrate on the woman's clit for some extra stimulation. This toy also has a bullet for testicular stimulation which is great for the man! I have reviewed this toy with my hubby if you click the link you will see the toy and the review.

Now, I am a firm believer that if you are giving your partner pleasure, you are pleasuring yourself - so if he is getting you off - he should be happy and vice versa! Ask him what turn him on - would he like to see you play with yourself with a vibrator? Would he like to do it? Is he interested in trying cock rings or vibrating bullets? Bullets are nice for couples because you can stimulate ANY part of the body and get super aroused!

I think most men would enjoy watching their woman insert a vibrator or a dual action and have a great immense orgasm - perhaps you want to experiment with some of those?

If you like, oral sex gels and lubes are great! Sex Tarts is one I LOVE - it tastes great, is non-staining, and really makes oral sex fun:

http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=4736

Maybe you want to try a little bondage - some handcuffs or some restraints - that can be super fun when paired with a feather or a little whip. TooTimid sells some nice beginner's soft restraints, handcuffs, blindfolds, anything your heart desires - if it desires!

I think the main thing to remember is to HAVE FUN - and pleasure each other - if you are doing that - it will all come together!

Happy shopping!

Mikayla

[Ocean]

Thank you. We'll have a looksie when he gets home. As for anything. I've always been way shy and not into trying anything then the normal missionary/me on top. I know he is/was very much into his porn not so much now but it makes me even more scared I guess you could say. I really want to please him. Oral is not something I have done...once but I don't much remember it. Its something he really really really wants and I think is hung up on cuz he won't really do much with me anymore *hence the wanting new stuff* Guess I'm just scared...we'll see I have a feeling coming in here is gona help. I really want to do it for him I know it'll bring us closer etc etc. I feel like an idiot talking here but hey if its gona help then off I go....

I look foward to reading thoughts and posting more as well.

[Mikayla1]

Girl, you have got to do the oral! I mean you don't "have" to - but you should! It is so enjoyable for him and it can be such a power trip for YOU! There is nothing like having your man's hard cock in your mouth - oh the power you have over him at that moment - he will do anything for you at that moment in time!

Don't worry about porn - porn is harmless! Watch with him - you may find that it turns you on quite a bit! Try to find something which is woman friendly. This is something that can spice up your lovelife a lot!

You will learn to not be so shy - it might take time, but I think being here on the site is a good first step for you! Remember, sex is adult play....so go play!

Mikayla

[Ocean]

Oh trust me it is something I want to do for him. Just I don't know what is holding me back I have it in my head to go ahead and do it that day then bam something stops me. **shrug** The porn I care but don't care about. I care cuz for some reason he just doesn't wana be near me at times. **shrug** but we're both way stressed out and will be for awhile. I always have in my head things to try and say but then it just doesn't come out. We didn't get to look at the stuff you suggested or the rest of the site because he came home from work, sat his ass in front of the computer and stayed there for 7 hours or so. We used to sit and eat dinner and watch game shows. Now nothing. I've tried to say things about it and talk about it but he gets defensive. I guess if I just dive in and give him what he wants things will change. Hes being just like a woman LOL

Thanks for the chats

Ocean

and btw I grew up in NW IN about 30 mins away from Chicago

[trina2008]

Ocean,

I have been you. Now I completely understand having a bad relationship and not trusting yourself to do the things you want to do. I was married for 10 years and had just plain married sex. If I asked for anything like to dirty talk and playing with my ass he was totally repulsed at the thought and just wouldn't do it. I closed up and just settled for a long time, that sex wasn't fun. BOY was I wrong.

I found a new guy and we are now married to make a long story short. My new hb is very open about sex and wants to try and do everything. In the beginning, he wanted oral more than anything and I was very unexperienced in the subject. I started out slow and realized how much he loved it which made me want to get better at it. Now if I just mention that I am horny he is all over me because he knows he is getting head. If the porn bothers you watch it with him. Hell put on something skimpy and lay there with him. Believe me he will take the hint.

The more you learn to trust him and yourself the better sex will become and the more you will be willing to experiment. Believe me it took just a little patience on my hb end for me to open up. But he just loves the rewards.

[Ocean]

Thanks guys

Howard I"m working on it I'm working on it. I'm starting to be happy with myself and in 33 years I never have been. I'll get him off it lol I'm not a football/puter widow. I sit with him and read or just snuggle or whatever. Its just the whole self councious thing getting to me I guess. But being here is gona help I can tell already

[Mikayla1]

On the COMPUTER for 7 HOURS????!!! Oh My GOSH Girl....get naked and sit your ass on the desk in front of him! There is nothing on that computer more enticing than a naked pussy or ass! Howard is right on - I would NOT put up with that if I were horny! My man doesn't pick the TV over me - but if he tried, I would strut my naked or half-naked self right in front of that TV, drop to the floor, spread my legs and say "down here" and point to my shaved puss!

Now, I realize that not all women can be as direct as I am - and you can start slow. I would suggest going up to him while he is on the computer, sucking on his earlobe, running a hand down to his crotch, giving him a squeeze and telling him you are going upstairs to get naked....see if he doesn't come a running!

You can do the oral sex - it is not hard to do - you just have to dig in and do it! Once you do that, he won't be on that computer for 7 hours - I guarantee that!

Good luck and let us know how things go!

Mikayla

[trina2008]

Ocean,

I totally agree with howard and mikayla like always. You just need to get over your fears and stop thinking and just do it. Believe me there is no football widow here. The game is on but I have all the attention. Just by doing oral. keep us posted.

BTW...I have been reading the posts on this site for awhile. I guess I just got enough nerve to start posting. Howard and Mikayla are usually right.

[Mikayla1]

Glad you are posting Coupleofmaniacs! It is good to have lots of opinions here! I don't know if Howard and I are ALWAYS right, but we do a lot of reading, and research and have a lot of experience between the two of us - plus, we like to talk so between those things, we usually have an awful lot to offer to people here!

Keep on POSTING...everyone!

Mikayla

[Ocean]

Yeah I've noticed they have lot of good stuff to say. I spent a good hour or so just reading yesterday. Was to scared to post Then I said F it if I wana get to where I wana be I gota suck up the scared/shyness and just post. I'm not sad I did. Still kind of embarrased you'd think after 33 years I'd be fine. Just this stuff has never been talked about while growing up or while married. I wasn't happy so I got out. Now I'm seeing that its basicaly the same so far and I gota gte bold or be unhappy again in a few years. When he first moved here everything was great, then I guess he got in the "comfy" spot and stayed there. WE WILL be talking this weekend while the kids are GONE I gota get this out in the open with him not just strangers. I KNOW that so its suck it up time and be the one to make that first move. We've talked and he wants to go shoppin' Maybe we'll goto the Hustler store downtown. Or the lil cheesy F street. Hustler I've heard is cool. F street is a lil sleazy like but whatever I'll be with HIM so it will all be good

[trina2008]

Ocean,

The kids are gone, the house to yourself and you have to have some fun. Go shopping, flirt all day. make him want to rip your clothes off and just relax. The most important thing is to have fun and relax.

[Ocean]

Yep they're gone 3 weekends a month and if there is a fifth weekend they are gone for that too. I have done my share of not having a life so "dad" gets them now. So yeah time to just jump right in

[Ocean]

OK SO I have Mikalyas suggestions in my cart along with a few others just for the hell of it like the dice n stuff he might be up for that ... hopefully Now hopefully I don't lose my nerve before he gets home * my card is in the van * I even added the 2 day shipping so it'll be here for the weekend wooohooo Its Now or Never time still gona shop though I think and I put in that free dvd a month maybe it'll help me out

~_~_~Ocean~_~_~

[crazy1]

Ocean, how did it go? I am waiting for an update, I love to hear how things are going. I am sure everyone is hoping for the best!!

[Tongue_Twister]

Yep, we'd love to hear what happened whether it worked out or not.

I had a lot of trouble bringing up new sex ideas with my partner at first too. I didn't want to come across too strongly, or seem like a sex-crazed nympho (either to her, and also to myself). As our sexual relationship blossomed and progressed (first sexual relationship for both of us), I gradually grew more comfortable, and started telling her what made me shiver in ecstacy and what was only so/so. She did the same, and with our mutual conversation, we both became much more open about our sex lives. This lead to a few new suggestions here and there, which we'd try once, and let each other know how much we enjoyed it, or disliked it. Now, although I am still always nervous about mentioning something new (and imagine she probably is too), we eventually let each other know about things we'd like to try. At this point, we're both willing to try almost anything once, and god does it feel good! I hope things work out for you. If not now, then in the future. You'll love finding out what you've been missing out on the rest of your life. If things don't work out with your partner, still experiment with what you like on your own. Buy the toys, test them out, explore every inch of yourself. In the end, if he can't accept your sexuality, then maybe he isn't the right guy. After all, your sexuality is part of who you are. It is not wrong, and actually sounds very healthy. Best of wishes!

By the way, I'm happy to report that I have found I actually am a sex-crazed nympho, and have just been denying it my entire life. Although we tire each other out here and there, my lover and I enjoy our sexual openness and can guarantee we've benefitted from it greatly. I hope you can do the same

TT

[me4now]

i new to this also need idaes on Gspot vibrators and remote control egg

[Mikayla1]

i new to this also need idaes on Gspot vibrators and remote control egg

Do you want just a G-Spot vibe or a dual action G-Spot? If you want just a G-Spot I have 2 that I love - the Jessica's Strobing Probe is GREAT or the Tera Patrick Ribbed G is also good - take your pick!

Now, if you want dual action - something to double team and do clitoral too - then THE WAVE is awesome....check out the Toy REview section here and read my review on it. Or, if you want something more phallic, the Glittering G-Spot is WONDERFUL TOO! Both get my approval!

Now, for remote control egg, do you want wireless and do you want egg or bullet? The simple silver bullet is great - simple, powerful no frills and cheap. There are more expensive eggs and wireless ones too, check them out and let me know what you are looking at and I will let you know if I have tried them!

mikayla

[Ocean]

Well we got in a huge fight at the bar *him being at the puter for hours on end amongst other topics* I left, walked home, lost the keys along the way, passed out on the front porch etc etc

Needless to say not much happened. I did tell him I was "planning to give you what you've wanted since you moved" that seemed to make him happy...then the damn fight. So instead of "planning" for me to just go for it, I'll let it just happen. If it does it does if it doesn't it doesn't. I had myself all worked up to go for it then lkjdfheaou LOL Sorry for the delay in updating, my net got shut off *damn bills*

Ocean

[Tongue_Twister]

Ocean~

I'm sorry you had such a crappy night No matter how things work out, you can be certain you'll always find plenty of friendly support here! We sincerely wish the best for you in all aspects of your life, sexual or otherwise. I hope you have a great day today!

TT