Muffy

Many times it is in what a man eats. Garlic or many spicy, highly seasoned foods can be a big diff. Try a change if you can get the food change for a period of time before the action starts.

Do you know or have you found your "G" spot?? If you have then play with it and teach him where it is. Go gentle and slow, this is in a vital and tender area. Treat it as such. Also you may play with your clit as you have sex with him. Ask Jen. She may have some good articles and be able to assist you.

Treat this giving head as if you were holding a candy sucker in your hand or a popsicle. You never try or attempt to swallow them whole!! work your way around and take it slow and easy. Go down to catch a drip here and there - go back and forth. Keep your hand on it for control. Some women can never swallow the whole penis. Everyones throat is diff. Use it as a sucker or p'sicle. It will give better results and more reaction over the long road ahead.

I have a close friend in the piercing buz. She said women of all ages get tongue piercings and also some think it is not so hot. As for giving head she said it is about 50/50. I take that to mean some men like it and it turns them on and others just the opposite. She said the biggest turn on for her is a labia piercing. It also tends to turn the partner on a little more. It is also an asset for both when performing and receiving oral sex. Myself I think tongue piercings are ugly but everyons taste is diff (no pun intended). As for infections it is best to follow the instructions of the one doing the piercing. They are nothing to play with and think they will heal overnight.

To lilmillie: Play it cool-there are plenty out there wanting what you have to offer. Check them or him out. Don't spread yopur legs for the first bimbo that sounds or looks good. You sound young so take your time and see what he has to offer in common sense and stability. Some are like rabbits-hop on-hop off and so long!1 When you look for jeans or a dress you don't pick the first one that catches your eyes. Take your time. Also not all towns have dance clubs. Most keep the corners well lit so - you be the judge ..........

Jen, I like everything you mentioned. Every woman is diff and what will bring one will not necessarily bring all. I like it and the thrill and goose bumps pop out when a tongue &/or lips explore up and down my legs. This is especially good when it is the inner thigh, calf and behind the knees. Don't rush as if going to the store for a loaf of bread . If you're having sex and giving a womaan oral sex pick a time when you have time. No quickies here to really get the job done right and bring a reaction from your mate. Men or women use your mouth, fingers and tongue in giving oral sex. They can &/all should work together. Most men and many women think the clit is that little puff under the hood. What you see and feel is like an iceberg. When it is tickled, licked or touched it brings out a sensation and enlarges the clit so it comes out of its hiding place from under the skin & hood and is (many women differ) huge compared to the normal clit withpout stimulation. I like the hood to be tickled and have lips, tongue and fingers on, around or over it to tickle or stimulate it. With me receiving oral sex is a combo of all the exterior kissing, licking and feeling and using the play around the outer lips along with the inner lips or labia. Also do not foget our breasts. They are sensitive and I love to have mine fondled, licked or held in any type of sexual activity. They all go together. Take your time and most important work with your mate. If one thing doesn't excite or give her the feeling of a possible orgasm then ask and try another approach. Don't forget the first though. Again what excites or stimulates one woman will not work or do the same on another. We are all different-remember that!! Follow what Jen said. She has some super ideas and can fill any of us on topics like this all the time.

If you have a good marriage and a husband that is not running around then forget the idea of even sleeping with her. In the same bed together could lead to to the beginning of s bi-sexual lifestyle. If your hubby found out you can lose everything as one has pointed out. A piece of ass or a behund the doors bi-sexual life can only lead to trouble. Take a good look at your ass in the mirror. If you like it the way it looks then forget this idea because if hubby catches you that ass you look at now will be lost in the turmoil and never look good again!!

There are the covers they use in hospitals under the sheets. They aren't too big but are available in most drug stores. Not too expensive either.

I hate to bust your bubbles but there are some new ones out. I saw one on AVN and decided to look for others. Guess what?? I am (or was) a waxer with aloe to soothe the areas afterwards. I found these new ones but do no know which to get. They all have big promises. If & when I get one I will let you all know. http://www.intimatepersonalshavers.com http://www.beavershaver.com http://www.swingerzone.com/shaver.htm http://personalshavers.com Take your choice and let the rest of us know. Oh one has a razor with a curved blade and not any more than a regular. There is also a spot on one that has a wax deal. It hurts cause they say it does. An after thought; I have shaved for years and finally come across something kthat is super. Instead of a cream or soap I use a generic KY jelly. It is smooth, you can see what you're doing and all isn't covered by cream.If it starts to dry just dab it with a very little water.

You may be considered to be legally blind but where I'm from, legally blind doesn't mean one cannot see any light. It merely means one cannot see clearly and the help of strong glasses still don't make all clear. The progressive or fast type of macular degeneration could be as bad where one sees light but it is only shadows. The slower moving type has a person with no vision in the center of the eye and only around the outside radius. That is somethng that should never hold up an active sex life. The bone trouble should be something to ponder. If it has reached the point where a break may occur then I can see to take it slo and easy. Many of the others may be overcome with proper diet, exercise and good advice from a person that is mnot in it just for a counseling fee. I would say that both of you have the prime body parts needed for one of the main facets of super sex. You have your hands, mouths, tongues and lips. What more is needed for good oral sex?? As for vaginal sex it is a try and try again as for positions that suit and work best for both of you. There are so many positions for you to try. If you're shy then you will be up the creek. If not ask a close lady friend about the diff positions. You may ask her to show you and in extreme circumstances go thru them with you. The same may hold for your husband although men aren't as close and talkkitive with each other as we women. In some cases I have known men that blabbed all the time about any and everything. I can't think of anything else at the moment. Let some of the other ladies chime in Good luck - hope that helped ...............

From your email I would say you are doing all the acts to keep him aroused and coming on to you. Get together and see if he will have a little input in this relationship?? It seems the way you feel now is you will lose him if you don't improvise and do or get something he likes everytime he comes over. Even though he is a new lover it should be a two way street with both of you working to please and make the other one happy. Talk it over and get his thouights. If he is a one way man and wishes you to do all the pleasing then it is up to you to decide if you should continue. Keep us informed. I will relate my thoughts and decisions at a future date. Good Luck ............

I am with Jen. I had them and could have done without. Now it is a thing of the past with me. No more since the era of so many doing it and here fuck, there fuckk, evrywhere fuck fuck and they wonder where the STD's are coming from. I don't want any passed on to me. Another way STD's get started is careless anal sex without "good" protection and good cleaning up and disposal after a session.

Jazzie the best thing to have as someone suggested is a "good" discussion on the pros and cons of whether it will be another man or woman. Myself I think you will be happier or I am with another woman. Who but another woman knows all the spots to touch and really send you than another woman?? You know your body very well and another woman would be the same and know where to touch you. It is up to you and the husband to decide. "Don't make a mistake and get another man and woman at the same session!!"

Crznby, just remember when doing anal always use plenty of lube, a condom for the male and rubber gloves for the woman. By a woman entering a man it is the "prostate" gland you tickle and be gentle with it. It will send him gushing if done correctly. Always use protection and lots of lube for any anal sex!!

If one has a large stool hard to eliminate itis usually called primary constipation and it will over time weaken the muscles &/or cause bleeding around the anal area. Use a stool softner to stop this and have regular movements with no grunt and groan.

All replies seem to be fine with the exception of all the candles. If one has ever been caught in a domicile or hotel that burned as a result of tipped or just candles they would be a no-no from this moment on. Try using the low glow plug in nite lights and they can be covered with a coating if too bright. Frosted bulbs or other colors may be used.

Bluebonnets hit the nail on the head or should I say the clit and G spot. To have a man who uses or gives plenty of foreplay is the best way to get worked up and really enjoy sex. Good foreplay can bring on orgasms by a single or many and it has a woman (me anyway) really ready for penetrating sex with a penis. Have him take his time with foreplay. He will get a bang or maybe a premature ejaculation before you really get into any penetration. I say go to plenty of foreplay prior to any sex. It is like an athlete warming up prior to an event. I know how I feel warming up prior to a workout at the gym. Iy loosens the complete body and you are warm and all muscles ready for a light or heavy workout with or without a partner.

Look around and ask on this site. If you're on the west coast the place is loaded with shops and also the larger cities in the U.S.have many. Look at Adam & Eve since they supply much throughout the U.S. All through FL and the south eastern states all the way over to AZ and NM. It just takes time to look on the net. Google it if U don't know where to go. Check on material, warranty and return clause. Sooner or later one will be there for you. All the womens and mens mags have ads by various companies. Don't pick the fly by night ones that are here today and gone tomorrow. Check Condomania. They carry more than condoms. I would start with this site (Too Timid)first and then check others.

If that is so then she may be in her mid 40's and having a menstrual problem or having first signs of that old change of life cycle that hexes so many women. Getting a checkup from a good Gyn or OB specialist (man or woman)that she likes and trusts is another way of possibly finding the reason. Lack of some nutrient that women need. There are many things and ways to go. If she has a good woman phanrmacist she knows and can speak with freely then ask her. Discuss the diet &/or supplements she may take to get her feeling up to par. It could be any number of things. If she can speak freely with friends and discuss such problems then do it. When doing this take thought and remember that what may help one female may be just the thing another woman doesn't need!! I have never been one to beat around the bush but get to the point by speaking out. Others I know never uttered a peep and always had problems such as the one you ask about. We all have bodies supposedly the same but women as well as men all react differently to our work, surroundings, diets, mates,sexual habits etc. See what Jen has to say. She is sharp. Do hope this helped.

There are other ways or methods of reaching &/or having an orgasm. Try to find your G spot and work, play, touch or tickle it. Look thru the diff columns and there are many suggestions of tickling or getting the clit to arise and have pleasure from it. Your clit is like an iceberg. Only a fraction of it is exposed under the hood. The rest is under the skin and when it is touched and reacts to a hand, finger, tongue or some other method it will pop out and you will possibly have an extreme orgasm. All women are different and we all react to different movements, touching, feeling with a different reaction. Some of us go wild with a kiss on the nape of the neck while it may leave others dead. If you have a girlfriend or man you have trust in then try different things on each other. It is better to usually have two women work together and leave the men out since they really do not know how you feel and just where and how to touch you. What excites one woman may not work on you or you may learn about a place or area to touch or feel that you have been ignoring. Not all or very few seem to use a dildo. Consider how many glass dildos are used and they have "no" batteries!! When you read all the ways the others have of doing things to get or receive an orgasm you may be number 1 on the list .

For those whom may have a quick or early blower there is one way to slow that. Stop your giving head (or vaginal sex) for a moment or two and place your first and second finger on the penis-one on the head and the other just past the crease where the penis meets the head. Lightly press with your thumb (on the opposite side)and two fingers (keep them close together but maybe a slight space between, but not too much) and let up then press again. Not hard though!! That penis is hard but remember it is only skin , filled with blood in three sections that make up the penis. By stopping and applying this light pressure it may stop any action for several minutes or more. It is also good to do or use when having sex and he is ready to come. This will give both a much longer period instead of a rabbit fuck. This method was done by the ladies of the night in Chicago many moons ago I have been told. Also remember if you are sitting on top and riding not to jump and let the penis come out on an upstroke & lose it and then come down on the penis since it or they will bend and sometimes serious complications may arise from that. Men may say they have a "boner" but it has NO bones and a splint can't be put on it if it is bent backward or too much one way or another. It will not bend and flex like a dildo!! Find a book at the library and see how the penis is made up and the three sections that it is comprised of and make it work so we all enjoy it.

SexyMuze how will you do this. There are rules of no passing addys e-mail or other and we may be from one end of the world from one another?? It's not as if we were all next door neighbors. Anything new or something we may not have seen is always welcome. What is Jens opinion on this??

For those of you who desire something new in the way of positions then go to: http://www.allposters.com They have a wall poster 24"w x 36"L for $8.99. It is #358496 It is called the "Periodic Table of Sex." A door poster #424995 for $16.99 is also available. It is 21"w x 62"L There is a March sale and all are 15% off and free shipping under certain comditions. If you get on their mailing list you will receive all specials as desired. They have thousands of posters covering all topics and made of diff materials. Their framing is HI so look for a place near where you may live. If your not interested at the time a letter may arrive, then "Delete!!" The wall poster is ideal for me. I mounted it on 3/8" foam board and backed that by1/4" tempered Masonite. A tape of any color may be put around the edges to cover open sides and ends. If any of you are into photography then you know what I'm talking about. If you have children then they can't be mounted or hung on any wall even the bedrooms. Use your own judgement. It will give you an idea of what can be done with two bodies, but don't try to do them all!! Lol, Lol.

A shower is an excellent method of overcoming the sweat and dread of the job that you dread. After a shower you may both be sweaty and it is not so bad. Try as Jen said and just take it slow and easy. There is nothing like a good session of sex with your OM when you are both sweaty and slide all over each other. You produce your own lubes and it may help you to overcome the sweaty body feeling. Just remember that sweat is a body juice and not harmful, especially after you both have a cleansing shower.

I have never had real dirty talking partners. I tell them how good it feels and if it is in a certain spot or area I say so. My partners always seem to be a little raunchier by saying you are the top fuck etc but no long speech and foul mouth. To me telling one another is sufficient and put actions where words aren't needed!