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I think an enema would me yuckier then just doing it. And as for planning, that kind of ruins the moment. Just know that it's a possibility, and when you're hot and wet, direct his penis into your anus SLOWLY. You'll be fine!

LOL!!!

YES, THANK YOU!!! I got the pleasure of having a massage (I very seldom get them) but it was hubbies idea and so I told him to use he new stuff.

Or have your hubby help.

Tyger, how often do you shave your "coochy". I get stubble on my legs fairly quickly. I shave them every other day, but if I had time and patience, I should be doing it every day. When I used the buzzers to trim my pubic area, I didn't get it down to the skin, didn't want to, but left about 1/4" and my husband said it was "pokey". I know his stubble is like sandpaper on my skin and drives me insane, so I didn't want stubble bothering his penis. EEK!

Ugh, the thought of using a razor on my "coochy" just makes my skin crawl. How do you avoid nicking those sensitive areas?? I got my free sample today, and might try a trim, but not sure I am brave enough for the whole thing??

I have experienced anal a few times, and never once have I seen the slightest bit of "yuckiness". I have read posts about using a condom so that clean up is quick, but I never noticed any mess in the first place. One thing I have noticed, if he cums while in your ass, you will have some messiness from the semen coming out, and I have had some air trapped in there, so had some release of air afterward too, but it's not bad or yucky.

you may be able to feel your muscles clamp down onto it, and not release until the orgasm subsides, This is what I have occasionally leading up to the "big one", and then afterward, if we continue, I will continue to have them. I thought to be multi orgasmic women were having the BIG ones multiple times, I couldn't see how anyone could have those more then twice and be able to walk. I have been, only a couple times in my life, been able to have two of the big ones in one session, that's very rare for me. But the little ones leading up to and then afterward are pretty nice too. Thanks again for your wonderful wisdom! Glad I asked.

OK, I have never thought about this before reading here and am now quite facinated about multiples and have been trying to figure the whole thing out. Howard posted about being able to rub/touch his wife's hand and she would orgasm, that's interesting to me because I think my whole idea of what an orgasm is, is wrong. I have also read his posts where he says 8 or 10 or 20 orgasms and wonder how in the heck that can be. So here's my question. I have basically ONE major orgasm per session. It's the repetitive type that sends multiple shudders over your body. But on my way to the big one, I have these little feelings that the only way to explain it is they are one shudder at a time where as the big one is a lot of repetitive ones. So are those little ones orgasms too, just smaller ones? Is that what Howard's wife would have had, is a little one?? Because I honestly can't imagine myself walking down the street and being able to continue to stand when I have a large one. :s

No I wouldn't send my husband away from me, and no I wouldn't ask a hooker for sex tips, both ideas are just ludicrous IMO.

I was on depo for almost 3 years between my 2nd and 3rd and have been on depo since my 3rd was born, which is 8+ years now. I LOVE it! I have read others accounts that weren't as lucky as I have been, but I don't spot at all, don't have my period and only have the mood swings every three months when I am coming off the shot and ready to get my next one. I had problems taking the pill, it would make me nauseous, oddly enough, I also get horrible morning (all day) sickness when I am pregnant. The pill is estrogen and the depo shot is progesterone if I remember correctly, so they work differently and I have had ZERO side effects to it. I can't even contribute my weight gain to the shot, just laziness. I would suggest you have her talk to her gynecologist about her experience and she may not want to get it again??

OH MY GOSH, maybe there's hope for my husband after all!!! I am so happy for you, I know I would give anything to have my husband open up like that with me. ENJOY YOUR NEW MAN!!!!

I am in love with Howard.

That's funny! I have to remember that one.

Welcome! All I wanted to say is, it's never too late. I just introduced my husband to some more frequent sex and more exciting stuff and he's been doing fairly well handling it. I think I shocked him a bit, but I just pulled back a bit and stopped introducing so much so quickly and that seems to have done the trick. Others will have great advice, I can't wait to read the answers!

Hi Kandace. Welcome.

Thanks as usual Howard. Now tell me why sometimes after my husband cums his testicles are more swollen and hard then other times?? Any significance to the pleasure or is it worse when they are like that? Or nothing at all? And also, while I am asking odd things, why would sometimes he hold his erection longer after cumming? Always wondered, but never had anyone to ask.

Good info Howard. I don't make him wait, it's just how long it takes sometimes. But making him wait will intensify the orgasm? Or just more semen?

It's a TREAT for me!!! I love my husbands penis and his cum and love to watch him touch himself. BUT... he doesn't do it nearly enough. In 21 years my husband has cum on my stomach once and on my face once, both within the last year. He, I believe, thinks it's "icky". I don't think he thinks there's anything sexy about it. He has commented before about my wet spots on the sheets and how he doesn't like to touch them. Uh... sorry to disappoint him, but that's part of it. If he didn't unload his in me, they would make a mess too. LOL! I just think my husband needs to lighten up a bit. Dang I think he's a prude.

As far as whittiboo's hubby goes. Well, if he can't give you a good reason as to WHY he won't, then, I wouldn't give in to his oral demands either. Turn about is fair play. And an "I dunno" isn't a reason, it's an excuse. From what you've told me about your husband, he sounds extremely selfish and arrogant. And it sounds like he couldn't give 2 cents as to what you're actually feeling, but only HIM. But that's just me. Sorry if that comes across harshly. I just get irritated at partners that get their rocks off, and can't care less about their so-called loved ones, and then "wonder" why they're upset or depressed all of the time. If one wants to have a truly fulfilling sex life, it has to be a win-win situation. Meaning BOTH parties want to please each other, and are willing to try new things. I have never asked him why he won't, he just really never did. He has a few times in our relationship, but it wasn't very good for me, and I, really never having had it before, couldn't instruct him how to make it great. I LOVE giving him a BJ, I wouldn't stop that for anything. He isn't arrogant or selfish, far from it, he's a very generous guy, just doesn't know what do to and I think he's intimidated by my past "experience" (which really wasn't experience at all). He told me last week that he didn't know what to do (just sex in general) and I told him, "then LEARN". I will say, last night he did attempt to go down on me, again, it just wasn't great for me. Perhaps it's me that just doesn't like it?? But at least he tried.

Have you asked your consultant for ideas, they should have loads of them, either ideas that are handed down from consultant to consultant, or from doing other parties and seeing what those hostesses served.

Ahhh... maybe one day my husband will be so open.

You hit the nail on the head about his fears. I think it's because he "thinks" I am/was experienced because I had sex with others before we were married and he was a virgin. My "experience" was with teen boys who knew nothing about intimacy, just getting off, so I am not some "experienced person" like he thinks I am. You're also right about being turned down. As with many other couples, we got into our rut, and because sex has never been great, I never set it as a priority and really could live without it and wasn't giving him anything. But I put the blame on both of us for that. His advances consisted of putting his hand on my shoulder and that was his idea of "foreplay" and if I didn't respond and jump on him and fuck him, well, he was "rejected". I have shown him, I have taken his hand, even went as far as to hand him the little vibrator recently and showed him what to do with it, but unless I show him every time, he just doesn't do it. And that leaves me feeling like I have to beg for him to please me, either that, or I have to take matters into my own hands and please myself with him. He still isn't confident enough to just go for it and try something I have shown him in the past. Even with positions, it's me that has to decide what position to do. I think with our discussions lately he might be close to understanding that he isn't just there for me to USE, but I want him to get involved too. I hope so anyway.

He works all day, has to be mr. charming to all the folks whose homes and businesses he has to visit, he works with toxic chemicals as a pest controller, and fights traffic getting home every day. He is going to be tired. Make him lay down and take a nap when he gets home, while you and the children clear the place, and fix dinner. Then wake him for dinner. How hard would that be to do? I understand what you are trying to say, but really, my husband leaves at 7am and usually is home by 1 or 3 at the latest. He does drive around all day, but we live in the country, up near Lake Tahoe in California, I wouldn't necessarily consider his driving bothersome or difficult due to traffic. He is alone all day, no boss breathing down his neck, and no annoying co-workers. I think his biggest issues with work is that he's tired of it. He's been doing it for 13 years and it's just the same 'ol thing day in/day out. I think he hates it, and that makes it even harder to do. Attitude is very important, make the best of what you got, don't make it worse by hating it so much. He does rest when he gets home, I always make coffee and sit down in the front room with him and just visit, make the girls go outside or downstairs. I always make dinner (except here and there when nobody is really hungry, then we just find something to eat) but for the most part, we always have dinner together, a nice home cooked meal. Our kids aren't in any sports or groups or anything, so we're usually just home as a family. I keep our house pretty tidy, having it on the market for nearly 3 years teaches you cleanliness. I am not fond of people making love just before bedtime. The need for sleep, the exhaustion, always seems to hurry people into just " fucking " and not making love. Zero foreplay, little touching or cuddling, no talking , no flirting, no grabbing each other's butts, or rubbing your breast against him, or grabbing each other's family jewels, not teasing, playing double entenderes, just quick, and inadequate in and out fucking until he gets his rocks off, rolls over, and goes to sleep. That makes intercourse simply a sleep aid, and not making love. There is a huge difference. THIS is exactly what I need to get through his head. He thinks intimacy is just "getting it over with". He rarely touches me outside of the bedroom, no cuddling, very little talking, flirting... HA! I wish! I just think he's insecure about himself, or just doesn't know how to be intimate?? Yesterday he came home, I had been on the phone with his bosses drunk wife because he finally told his boss yesterday that we're moving (more importantly WHEN) so the bosses wife calls me, drunk as usual and UGH, she just doesn't stop talking and really wipes you out mentally. So anyway, he gets home, he had a hard day because he did have to talk with his boss, then went to the dentist about a tooth that has been bothering him (he HATES the dentist) so he was mostly withdrawn and really just wouldn't connect on any level. I left him to rest on the bed awhile why I got some things done, and he went and showered later and came out in his boxers. The girls were all downstairs, he just came out to hang up the phone. I told him to come over here, (I was sitting at my computer looking on Craig's list for an RV) and he said, "why? are you going to get me?" and he wouldn't come over here. I was just going to kiss him and maybe lick his cock, but he wouldn't come over. *sigh* I told him later that he never really even talked to me or touched me all day, and then to pull away from me when I want to give him attention. I knew he wasn't in the mood for sex, which is fine, but there's no reason we can't still talk and touch?! All our intimacy problems, I believe, are centered around his insecurities as a lover, even though he has nothing to worry about and I ASSURE him of that every day. I also am getting annoyed that I spend hours touching, licking, massaging him, just being intimate, romantic, and turning him on, and we do have sex and I enjoy it, but I just feel like he's "letting me do everything, and letting me fuck him" that he isn't participating, just there with the erection.

Well it's only happened to me once, and I loved it, it was very exciting to me, partly because he was masturbating, and I find that to be a huge turn on. I don't think I would like it every day, but as a special treat.