jennycherie

that does look like fun!

okay, it is cute, but if my kids saw it, they would totally take off with it! Not the end of the word for my youngest, but for the ones who are old enough to read. . . well, I guess it could be a conversation starter!

Yes, I think anyone can change at any time--there is always a chance for us to do or be better today than we were yesterday. That being said, if I were a single person, I would be very cautious about dating someone who had cheated before (assuming I knew) simply because it seems risky. Are they still thinking it's okay to cheat if it's justified or have they had a change of heart and won't do it again? I've seen my sister-in-law burned SO many times. . . but she has dated men who were still married (yes, separated but still legally attached) and it never seems to work out. In her experience, the guys she has dated who were cheating on someone else by dating her have ALWAYS cheated on her as well. Frequently, they tell her they are separated (just waiting for that divorce to get finalized!) when they have no intention of divorcing. So, while I do believe people can always change for the better, I think one has to be very, very cautious.

welcome! look forward to getting to know you!

welcome!

if she is really horrified, then it is probably something you need to talk about before surprising her with it. I used to be extremely opposed to this type of play until one night, my husband was fingering me and letting one finger kind of drag behind so this it lightly went across the back end. After feeling that, I just wanted to feel it again and became much more open to that kind of play but we had to talk about it first, and move very slowly.

I think the biggest mistake I made, particularly early in our marriage, was not being understanding or open enough to my husband's needs. I'd get upset with him for masturbating or looking at porn, but I wasn't 100% available to him. What was I thinking?

Welcome, Rod. I am so sorry for your loss. Being intimate with your wife is a healthy way of pulling together and dealing with such a huge loss. That seemed like the only way I could comfort my husband after he lost his mother. Take care,

Okay, I am also a teacher and I would not want a visible hicky, just because I don't want to get into chit-chat about my personal life with my students and there is no way they wouldn't talk or ask about it. Of course, my students are older (college) than sixth graders, but still. Now, I do enjoy a hicky on some place that I can hide. . .

welcome! this is a great website with great articles in the sex ed. tab and a great, lively forum.

I understand that you aren't generally interested. . . but once you start foreplay, do you become interested? If so, maybe it's just a matter of choosing to do it. Sure it's not a priority for you, but it is an important part of a healthy marriage so you can still CHOOSE To do it anyway, even if you're not already feelin' randy.

that is really cute for a vibrator!

okay, that just might interest my hubby. . . I keep telling him to wake me up if I am too sleepy--I WANT him to wake me up but he thinks I sleep too deeply. Maybe this would help

If it is important to you to also orgasm while he is inside of you, have you tried adding the toys to intercourse? A vibrating bullet on the clitoris during PIV sex is a great way to orgasm during penetration.

okay, my parents have a farm with loads of chickens and this one really tickled my funny bone: Farmer John was in the fertilized egg business. He had several hundred young layer hens and eight or ten roosters, whose job was to fertilize the eggs. John kept records and any rooster that didn't perform went into the soup pot and was replaced. That took an awful lot of his time so he bought a set of tiny bells and attached them to his roosters. Each bell had a different tone so John could tell at a distance, which rooster was performing. Now he could sit on his porch and fill out efficiency reports by just listening to the bells. The farmer's favorite rooster was old Butch, and a very fine specimen he was. But one particular morning he noticed old Butch's bell hadn't rung at all! John went to investigate. The other roosters were chasing pullets, bells-a-ringing. The pullets, hearing the roosters coming, ran for cover. To Farmer John's amazement, he saw Butch hold his bell in his beak, so it wouldn't ring. He'd sneak up on a pullet, do his job and walk on to the next one. John was so proud of Butch, he entered him in the county fair and Butch became an overnight sensation among the judges. The result? The judges not only gave Butch the 'No Bell Piece Prize,' they also awarded him the 'Pullet Surprise' as well. Clearly Butch was a politician in the making. Who else but a politician could figure out how to win two of the most highly coveted awards on our planet by being best at sneaking up on the populace and screwing them when they weren't paying attention!!

lol

have you tried just some anal play to start with? I was opposed to this until one time, when he was fingering me, my husband let one of his fingers kind of drag behind so while his fingers were going in and out of my vagina, another finger was kind of dragging across my tush. It was such a turn on that it occurred to me that anal sex might be enjoyable as opposed to something to endure so my husband could enjoy it. If you try anal play (just like touching on the outside and maybe inserting a well-lubed finger or small toy) and enjoy it, chances are you will enjoy anal sex as well. Read Mikayla's article! It is great!

too funny!

If it's really important not to get pregnant, why wouldn't you just use two forms of birth control--like the pill and a condom? Since it sounds like you are not married yet, a condom is a good idea just to protect against STDS but also as an insurance policy for the pill. on a related topic, has anyone ever heard of using birth control pills to control PMS or cramping or heavy, painful periods?

I'm just guessing but I don't think my husband will care for this one

Welcome Nic - -hope you like it here!

great article, as usual, MIkayla. very interesting

Welcome kinkyhusband. My hubby and I have been married 11 years also (though we are getting close to 12!).

I read somewhere that eating pumpkin seeds would increase ejaculate but I don't know if it is entirely true. My husband does feel like it helps some and they are a tasty snack to boot!

cleopatra, I'm sure the more experienced people can help you more than I can. I'm not sure I understand--you're having normal penis-in-vagina intercourse and you keep accidentally pushing him out? I can't say that I've ever experienced that. Are you really tense? Could you do the opposite of kegels and really practice teaching your muscles to relax? Maybe deep breathing??