pappyld04

Happy Birthday Ginger!!!

Don't know what resort you're from but i think I'd like to hit them slopes!!! LOL!!!

Welcome Haruko! I may be wrong but it seems to me that you may have a fear of telling your partner what you want or like. Do you and your partner have talks at all even when you aren't having sex? The orgasms are one thing that may take you some time to work around but the communication should be as open and honest as you can get it.

I don't know that there is a site for this one but a Catalog for T's called Transformations has many corsets, shoes, lingerie and a million other items. It may take a bit of looking to find an address but I'm sure you could at least get an idea of it's whereabouts by Googling. Other than this one you have a lot of others ideas to work with.

The two of you have 35+ years of what I assume is a great marriage, other than this little hitch in the git' along. I have noticed in the past that some people get set in a certain pattern that they think works for them and have a difficult time deviating from these patterns. If you were both fine with the patterns then I would not mention them but it seems that both of you are wanting something more from the union. I'm noone to tell you to communicate with your partner but it appears that it would serve your purpose much better if you talked about this with your man. There may be things that one or both of you want to try that just hasn't come out in the open yet. Everyone loves spice, darling, and I'm sure you know how to solve this problem without our opinions. Hope you can fix this minor pothole and keep on rolling down the street. Only this time with a smile!!!!

I think your position #2 might be a bit better if he trapped your far leg between his legs and use one hand to spread the other leg wide open then use his other hand for direct clitoral stimulation. And there is nothing wrong with one or both of your hands helping him. Pleasure doesn't have to be about hard work and sweat. The more you and he participate in the contact the more you both enjoy it.

I think a good starting point would be the sex toy area of this forum. There is a large amount of personal testing and trials by some of the people on these forums. You might want to tell us what the size of the one you bought was and what exactly your SO's complaint was about. Be it width, girth, length, or maybe even just an unnatural look to it that turned her off. These may be helpful in pointing you in the right direction.

Would there be any changes if you started in the bed? I may be looking in the wrong tree here but if not then I may have something to help you. Either way it doesn't hurt to ask. I have heard of similar things but not to same degree as what you are experiencing. And believe it or not it is something about their upbringing. I'm not talking about abuse or anything like that it seems to be a matter of their parents beliefs about sex sort of rubbing off on the kid. There may be some part of your brain that thinks that sex isn't proper or something to this effect. If nothing else seek out a good reputable therapist. Not for meds but to find out what exactly is causing this problem. You seem to be willing and open enough to find out why and if we can't steer you right then we should at least ask you to try a therapist. Sorry I wasn't more help.

Can we spell O-U-C-H-?!!! I do tend to agree with the ladies here that if a person feels self-conscious about anything it will be picked up by those that he/she associates with. As for a man's POV, I may be prejudiced but I've never seen an ugly one. ALL men and women are different, but that says nothing about who's ugly or not. If you enjoy the way your body looks and feels then the hell with anyone who thinks otherwise. More power to you for having the confidence to say you love yourself! That is something that a lot of people either cannot or will not do. So consider yourself one up on the ones who aren't happy with what they were given!!!! BTW, if the ink shop just down the street from the bus terminal is still there please do me a favor and tell them that even after 20 years I still love both of my tats I got from that shop. I cannot recall the name but it was only a few blocks away and on the same street. I would very much appreciate it!!!!

I know you realize how sexy an attribute like shyness can be with your SO. I'll bet he'll tell you that was one of the first things he caught. I wonder if there may be something more to your inhibitions. If you are afraid of the relationship itself, or of what he may think of you or whether you may smell bad, please do yourself a favor and get over these thoughts. Grab that man by his ears and show him how to pleasure you. You'll be thanking each other in the end. But in the meantime you'll love every minute of it. There is a sexual charge with letting go and showing him. And don't be surprised if he wants to do the same thing with you. Since this is a new relationship, I think there should be a bit better communication about sex and everything else that you two are going thgough and what you both expect in the end. Many times this van help a man or woman to relax if they know they are both working toward the same end. If he did this for you once you van bet he found nothing wrong with doing it. Just RELAX, enjoy, and communicate with your lover!!!! One more thing, if you have never been on the recieving end it may take some time to get used to a man giving you that sort of pleasure.

I am sending this to twisted woman who raised us. She'll love it!!!!

Sorry guys/gals I've forgotten the major part of this one!!!!

I feel for you girl! As an animal lover I will say there are times I've wanted to kill one of them. But, as I distance myself from the situation I realize that what they do is ou tof love more than anything. Thank god I never had to face this problem with my snake. She might have won. We started with exotic animals many years ago and the more you get to know them the more you realize that we created this problem ourselves. I know it sucks but we do rely on them for companionship also. My gf hates when I get a cat that loves belly rubs because she will not so it for them but gets mad when they only come to me for attention. It's a give and take. But I personally think we get more than we give. Try and remember this when this stuff happens.

Cowboy or Colorado Kool-Aid are just a few of the more common names for this volatile ass-kicker. It was a staple in our HS days. Also great for spiking watermelons. My Sr. year I would go to my gf house and drink it straight out of the bottle. Not near as good as the real deal. But with a J or 2 you could almost forget the taste. Now if you want one that will really kill you try Mad Dog 20-20 (Orange Jubilee). That is the absolute worst hangover I've ever met. And it lasts for about a week. Now for the guy who chewed his arm off so he wouldn't wake her you might suggest to him that he chew the other one off in case she goes looking for a 1 arm man! LOL!!!!

I've made a million put will give only a partial list to work over here. One of my biggest is that I am very blunt about relationships. It's all or nothing with me. And that tends to scare a lot of girls. That's OK, it probably wouldn't go far anyway and I'd rather know now if there are glitches in the system. I used to be Mr. nice guy, and as many times as I've heard, I've not met one yet that really wants that. A lot of the girls who wanted to date me were somewhere in mid-limbo with the X. This I do not tolerate. I tell them straight up that I will not be fighting with the man on the sly. They must absolutely break it off with the other man before I'll even consider it. These are probably considered more of a safeguard measure than a screw-up. But they have stopped a lot of problems that would have arisen at some point. A lack of proper communication has been one fault that I appear to have at least partially corrected over time. I find that some want complete details and others want the summarized version. It's just figuring out which is which!!!

I find the first paragraph to be a double-edged sword. Some SOs really do want that communication no matter how dull it may be. That fine or OK might send you to divorce court. One of the more popular excuses for divorces is a lack of communication. Although there are a million more this is where it normally starts.

We could argue the ups and downs of it for years but just because you don't complete the act doesn't mean it didn't happen. Stroking in front of your wife is still masturbating! I've never had a relationship that didn't include masturbation. Although I have been lucky enough to have had some lovers who love to help or do it for me. One of my Xs would jack me off every night at least once. She loved it ALMOST as much as I did.

Due to my upbringing my brothers and I have always loved and respected our mother. But thank God she was never like that. She worked her ass off to raise 3 pretty irritating boys. Trust when I say we were a handful. For this selflessness on her part we respect what she has accomplished and more than likely would not think of "correcting" her. But if she is out of line we do express that to her. My mother would kick my ass if I treated my gf as my maid or servant so she would never be one to baby us and let us think that this would be appropriate. She does not involve herself in our relationships unless there is something that needs to be pointed out. Then she will tell you just how it is.

I see there are many here that also pisk up on the accents. I don't even know if it's so much of an accent but the voice itself. When Alannis Morrisette came out with her Jagged Little Pill album I had never seen her picture but her voice could almost give me a hard-on. Another that I find very appealing is a Brazilian accent. Since I have dated women of many races, age, shape, size, etc... and they are ALL BEAUTIFUL to me!!!! I've only met a handful of women who I couldn't find at least 1 good quality. The ones I find worthless are the angry, mankind-hating, all about my pity-party type of woman.

I think by us not knowing him or his issues, you are a better judge of this than we are. But, I see you gotten some very good direction from the other posters also. You might think about the issues and decide if you are willing to deal with this problem. I know I've seen a lot of immature men who play that I've been burned game. If it's not just a game then it may take a bit to overcome it. Just by opening up I believe is a small sign that he is coming around. I think we've all been in one of those relationships that makes us question whether it's worth it. Some people just have different ways of working through or even around these issues. It is only you who can see all the facts, therefore it is your call as to where it goes from here. If you love the guy and are willing to go slowly then maybe he will come to realize that all women are not the same. Good Luck.

While at a drive-in movie 20+yrs. ago I got a blowjob from my HS gf while leaning against my truck! Good thing it was a Rated R movie. Also had a gf who loved to play in full view of people at theatres, parks, bars, etc....

I think, for beginners, it is important to realize that the object is NOT to break your toy(s). If you go too far your toy is nevermore. Bodily fluids is another that should be spoken on also. If you are unsure of your partner either don't go there or at the very least protect yourself well. In blood play there are IMHO far more dangerous possibilities than other fluids. Bloodborne diseases run the gamut on intensity and availability. So by all means if you fear your partners past do not tread here, AT ALL!

About a year or so back I caught this movie on HBO or Cinemax? and mentioned it to my gf. She tends to favor this type of movie also. It will be in my collection one day soon. Although it doesn't delve into BDSM relationships on a deeper level it is still a great beginner guide to what it could be like. It's almost like a vanilla w/extra toppings sort of film!!!

Wonder if taxpayers funded this one?

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