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I understand the texture issues, I have this thing about creamed corn (shudder) - really anything kind of pureed like that. It is a mental issue, I'm not really 100% sure what did it for me - and no, sometimes I still can't swallow, and that's ok. When I know he's getting close I usually try to focus my mind elsewhere, do some relaxation breathing in/out my nose, if he's touching me - concentrate totally on what he's doing and how it feels. You have to distract yourself. When you feel him start to cum, just start swallowing - maybe if you don't hold it in your mouth at all it will help (it helps me).

I second the bikini zone shave gel, plus it's cheap and you can find it at any drug store if you run out. I prefer a man's razor for shaving down there, I find that they generally have a smaller head than most women's razors which makes it easier to control and also to fit without having to play contortionist.

I've taken a bullet in my carryon before (for short trips with no checked bag), but if I'm going on a longer trip I pack the "supply" in my checked baggage (remove the batteries, you don't want your bag to be "tagged by the bomb squad" because one accidentally gets turned on and your suitcase starts emitting vibrating noises ). Honestly I've never worried about them in my checked suitcase, TSA people have seen everything... who cares. I will point out that there is a new TSA battery rule that just went into effect - if you use lithium batteries in anything: "Effective January 1, 2008, the Department of Transportation (DOT) through the Pipeline and Hazardous Materials Safety Administration (PHMSA) will no longer allow loose lithium batteries in checked baggage."

I see you can get a sample size of Viva here on TT... I'm going to have to try it out on my next order, I definitely love the "cooling sensation" in general (versus all the "warming" stuff you see these days). Wonder if it would work or how it would feel on your nipples?? hmmmmmmm......

What about something like these?? http://www.rei.com/product/605887?cm_sp=pr...el_item*element http://www.containerandpackaging.com/item.asp?item=M006 http://www.containerandpackaging.com/item.asp?item=B454 (the lid is sold separately, look at the right side) I travel a lot for my job and don't always need/want the hassle of checking a bag - I always look for small things like these for my toiletries (ok, bigger than 1/4 oz, but I just wanted to show that they do MAKE the travel containers that small). I have never ordered from that second site, due to the fact that they charge you $10 extra if you don't have a $50 order.... but there are lots more sites out on google that carry these types of things!! I'm finding all sorts of links now... I'm just going to add a few more: (these are 1/2 oz but cheap) http://www.sks-bottle.com/340c/fin58b.html (here's the hinged ones again - not sure about how much they'd leak though) http://www.sks-bottle.com/340c/fin69c.html One more (try googling travel cosmetic containers), both .25 and .5 oz screw top lids here: http://www.maccosmetics.com/templates/prod...D=CATEGORY30184

I 100% agree about A&E! I ordered from them once, years ago... my order arrived in one of those yellow bubble mailer envelopes, which you could clearly FEEL through what it was (and the corner was ripped, probably from the mailman cramming it into my PO Box). Then a couple of days later I started to get the postcards and catalogs, which CLEARLY stated on them what they were and where they were from. If you have younger children who like to get the mail..... this is NOT a good thing!! I tried TT (very skeptically), and much to my surprise... "discreet" meant DISCREET... and I have not gotten one single postal advertisement!! THANK YOU!!

I agree... function greatly outweighs form! My first toy was realistic and soft "gel" like material, but currently my fav is a plain ole hard plastic vibe with some ridges on it.

Oh yes... I agree fully... I LOOOOVE it, and it works for me over and over and over until I just can't take it anymore.

I didn't know this was a true "game"... but I like it. We tend to do it most often when I'm tied up and blindfolded.... SO likes to make me beg, and beg a lot. No ideas about rules for said "game", I think that would be a personal preference or in the context of which you're "playing"??

Well... you mentioned that your SO has some that you think are attractive and would like to try... so why not start there? If they're not in a size that would fit you - go to a lingerie dept (or VS, or where ever) and find some that are similar to what your SO has that are IN your size. The folks at the store will have no clue that you're NOT buying them for a lady friend. If you're looking to shop online, there are a TON of sites - including VS and Freddies... wicked temptations... just do a simple google search for lingerie!

Role play... hands down... also enjoy some light bondage, but we continue the role play outside of the house sometimes (out at a bar or whatever).

YES!!! Holy moly, I am horny as hell after a good run! I've read in some of my fitness magazines that it has to do with the endorphin release that exercise brings.

AMEN!!

I met my SO online also, but not through a dating site. We actually got to know each other through a social/information message board (not unlike this one, but of a different theme). After a couple of months interacting through the message board we took it to email and IM and then a couple of months after that we went to phone. We ended up meeting a little over 6 months after we started the phone conversations... and the rest is history! (ok, well kinda - we actually lived 1500 miles from each other at that time, we did a lot of traveling back and forth for the year after we first met and then I finally relocated to where he was - that was 3 years ago)

I have no clue how "common" it is, if I had to guess there are probably a lot more men out there that think about doing it vs. ones that will admit it to their SO or even TRY it. I dated a guy several years ago that was into cross dressing, at home only. He initially approached the topic with me after sex one night, I had had on a piece of lingerie that he found specifically attractive, he told me so and jokingly asked if he could try it on. I good naturedly agreed and found it a bit of a turn on watching him try on MY lingerie and model it for me. After that he told me about his cross dressing, showed me some of the things he already had and asked if I would go shopping with him sometime. I was 100% fine with it, I actually found it quite attractive to watch him try things on and model for me! Does that help at all?

Very true... but it's even MORE frustrating when you try increasing the assertiveness and it seems to make things worse. My ex was this way, unfortunately. I've never had an assertiveness problem, but I tried taking FULL control over our sex life, and sadly enough I then became the only one initiating anything (and was turned down more times than I care to count). No idea what was going on with the whole situation, he would never "really" tell me why (always he was tired, not in the mood, etc.), but needless to say it's very hard on a person's self-esteem! (sorry, Howard, just interjecting my own story in the middle of yours! ) Good points, Howard, I've also wondered over the years if my ex was trying to make me the bad guy because he was too chicken to tell me he wanted out. Well, he got out in the end, after I left him. Of course we had other problems too, but the total lack of a emotional connection/intimacy/sex life was a major contributor. Maybe counseling would help.... if he will really open up and talk to the counselor. It didn't work for us, but everyone is different.

I love wickedtemptations.com!! They seem to have quite a variety and reasonably priced In general, I have a serious weakness for things that lace up (even just a simple chemise with side laces).

Precious... I think you have roughly described my first marriage! I don't know what was up with the guy, why he wasn't attracted, etc. I asked and I asked, and finally I had to accept that I would never know what was wrong. As the others have said above, getting married does NOT change things, it makes it worse in fact. Please don't think that as soon as "the wedding stress" is over things will change or that the honeymoon will somehow create an amazing romantic environment for you two. I know that's kind of harsh, and I don't mean it to be that way... but I learned the hard way. Please PM me if you want to talk, I've been there. hugs!

I'm a totally bald shaver (as is my SO, which I LOVE ). I've been doing it for well over 10 years now and prefer more of a shaving "cream" to a gel - by cream I mean the stuff that comes in a tube and looks/feels like lotion (aveeno makes a couple of them). I also 2nd using a multi-blade razor (Venus is a nice one). I just wish there was some product (that worked) that slowed the regrowth, shaving every morning gets tiresome sometimes (especially since my leg hair doesn't grow that fast, what's up with THAT?).

I am in 100% agreement with DirtyBlonde!! I met my current SO online... not even through a dating site, just a regular ole message board! Neither of us were even looking for "love"; we got to know each other over the course of a year (online, email, phone) and finally admitted to each other that there were feelings developing. A few months after that we met in person - and the rest is history. We were distanced by a couple of states initially, so there was a lot of travel in the beginning, but I relocated to where he was about 6 months after we first met. I also agree that honesty may be a problem with online dating, you really don't know if the online persona someone has created is "real" or not, but often you can tell after talking to the person regularly if they are being true or not. Heck, there's not even a guarantee that someone you meet in the traditional face-to-face method is "real", my XDH is the prime example of this (which is why he is now X ).

Yet another newbie... have enjoyed reading the forums for awhile, so I decide to join so I could participate!