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Yes, I have a good (w/o benefits) friend who lost her husband to suicide a year ago. I was best friends with both having been friends for 20+ years. She will call me and cry on my shoulder which I don't mind. She hugs, kisses, and touches me in ways I do mind. I have told her repeatedly we will Only be friends but that hasn't stopped her. She has a hard time taking NO for an answer. I don't want to lose her friendship completely, but I want to stop the physical stuff any advice would be appreciated. Thanks, Chuck.

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I hate to disagree with you, but you may not always know. My job requires me to be gone sometimes for weeks at a time. My ex and I had raised our children and were alone at home. We had a wonderful sex life and were soul mates, or so I thought. We had just moved back home and built our dream house and seemed like we were living the "perfect" marriage. I was completely destroyed when I found out she was cheating on me. She not only was cheating, but walked out leaving me over $250,000.00 in debt. You think you would know, but there was NO indication that there was anything wrong in our marriage. I"m sorry, but I don't thing you will always know, if you love that person you are not looking for those clues and sometimes we have blinders on for love.

God bless you. And please Lord keep these children safe. O'by the way you could turn the parents over to me!!!!!

I've tried to stay out of this but now I have to ask. Why is ok for a woman to use the "B" word or a black the "N" word but the minute a white man does he's ripped apart. I don't men in hate or in a negative way. If you don't like the word DON"T use it. If you do then it MUST be all right for me to use it when you are present, and we all know how stupid that would be!!!!!

If want to get married I'm more than available, ready, able, and willing.

I spent 20 years in the U.S.M.C. and retired as a CSM and believe it's no different now than then I heard the same thing many many times.

Girl, it could be worse you could be a married man then you'd REALLY know what long term NO sex felt like!!

Sorry to be so late with my reply, but I've been gone TRYING to make a living. So here goes. Hell fire Girl, this is not a friend!!!!!!! That old saying is true "with friends like this who needs enemies" If she were in deed your friend she would want what's BEST for you. She would stand behind you and support the decisions you have made. Sorry but this is No friend!! IMHO your ex didn't care all that much for you or he would have loved you the way you are and not tried to remake you into something he thought you should be. Hell he wouldn't have been happy with that either!!!!!!!!!!! Love ya, be happy in you'r own skin. Just my $.02 (which isn't worth a damn thing these days!)

I have been down that road b4 with a cheating wife and I never knew until it was tooooo late so yes I would want to know immediately!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Looking good! Do what makes YOU happy!!!!

Broken trust is the hardest thing to rebuild IMHO. I think the only way it can ever truely be rebuilt is if you have a very deep love for the other person and then it's still a long road back. I'm affraid that most time people just don't want to invest the time to rebuild trust in a relationship and it becomes to easy to find a way out than try. Goooooood luck hope all goes well, Chuck

Jenny, welcome to TT and thank you for responding I didn't mean to come off so stong and I'm glad you explained the situation in a little more detail. I agree he was a total jerk from what you say. I'm still old school, but was involved in multiple dating last year and I know under the best of circumstances that can be trying. Please be careful and for your sake and the children's practice safe sex. Best of luck to you, welcome aboard. And o'by the way even OLD MEN need sexual healing.

Jenny, I guess I'm old school, but first you were having sex long before you began to "like" him? Just what did you expect him to be you were fucking him and you didn't have any real feeling for him? You seem to think he was suppose to be Mister Wonderful, believe me he was probably using you just like you were using him. I' m not trying to be judgemental, but come on now. I think IMHO that there must be some kinda "liking" at least before there is sex or it's just plain ol' FUCKING and don't expect anything in return. I guess to sum it up we are humans IMHO not animals when you add sex to ANY relationship it gets complicated.

The same old story gone again and missed them. O'well I'm like "ditech" missed another one. hahahaha

My now departed aunt used to say" theres only two kinds Big ol good ones and good ol big'uns"

Well speaking from a man's point of veiw, yum,yum, yum, I love a woman with a little meat on their bones!!! You don't buy ribs that are just bones you want some MEAT on them!! Seriously now we men are not as superficial as woman believe we REALLY MEAN IT WHEN WE SAY LOVE YOU----ALL OF YOU. We accept the changes we see in the mirror, but our heart is still the same. Besides some of the world's most sexiest woman are larger ladies. I think Chris Rock's line is directly to the point, bigger white woman are ashamed of their bodies, large black woman know they have some FINE pussy up under that roll!! Don;t be ashamed be confident THAT"S what makes you sexy!!!!!!!!!!!!! I agree the doggie style is sooooooooo exciting to those nice rounded curved ass at work. YUM

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GREAT!!!!!!!!!!! So glad everything worked out and especially thankful your daughter's alright.

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YES, YES, YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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THAT'S RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!