Cock Rings

[Craftylady]

I hope you all don't get tired of my questions!

Cockrings. Ok, DH loves the Clit Buddy, but to me it seems too tight. He said it's ok, but I don't know. He's a real novice with all this stuff, and is totally following my lead.

I've seen some sites that say don't wear it for more than 20 minutes, and some even say remove it before ejaculating.

Well, our playtime is lasting way longer than 20 minutes. And he says to come with it on and vibrating is the most amazing thing he's ever felt. He doesn't think it can do any harm.

Somebody set my mind at ease please! Should I consider getting him some smaller, stretchier rings to try and use a separate vibe, since he's loving that so much?

Also, rings that also encircle the balls. Is that a nice plus?

[sass]

Don't know, can't get my loving hubby to use his that long - even though I splurged and got a really nice expensive one for him.

My guess would be, though, that if it feels good to him - do it! I would think that if it were too tight, it would not feel good. Plus, I would think you would want it fairly tight has to not fly off at the wrong moment. LOL!

Never tried the ones that go around the balls, too. And I am not going to until my stubborn dear uses the one on that we have.

[mstrpink]

They do help. I enjoy using mine occassionally. The big thing is to not leave them on after the act since in essence it's like a turniquet for your unit. Make sure he also cleans it shortly after to prevent any bad juju from using it with you.

It should be snug to work correctly but if he's in pain he should stop using it.

[tootall]

I have a stainless steel one that wraps around everything. It really is different than the one you are using, and one that you need to be concerned about fit. If you can't get the steel ones off they need to be cut, and thats a trip to the ER.

The one you are using should not be a problem, if he says it feels good then dont stop.

I tried many different sized rubber orings before I found a size that was comfortable for me. Leathercreations.com was where I purchased mine. We like it and she asks me to wear it often. My wife likes the bigger more defined erection. It's hard to take the steel off before ejaculation. When I do cum it feels stronger and the first spurt will cross the room at times. WOW, sorry.

[Mikayla1]

The overall rule of cock rings is to not use them for more than 20-25 minutes and NEVER if it is painful. A typical cock ring does go over the shaft AND the balls, to aid in keeping the blood in the penis. Having this blood trapped for too long can cause serious injury, therefore 20-25 minutes is the maximum recommended time.

Now, some of the loose-fitting, very stretchy, vibrating cock rings that do not have to go around the balls and that are more for the woman than for any ED issues can be kept on indefinitely. As long as the ring is not snuggly fitting or going over the balls, they can stay on.

You can ejaculate with a cock ring on - it doesn't make any different and may enhance the sensation for him.

[Craftylady]

Mikayla, the ring on the Clit Buddy is just too small for him, I think.

It doesn't stretch much, and honestly I thought he was going to pop (not in a good way) the other night. After a while, I went down on him with it on, and his member was getting dark and felt cool. Of course, he was practically on the ceiling with pleasure by then, so I brought him off as quick as I could. He about fainted when he came, he said it was just mind-boggling.

I'm glad he loved it, but really I think this one has to go. I've ordered some sets of the narrow, really stretchy rings and one that is much thinner but still vibrates. This boy is loving the vibes!

BTW, he has no ED issues at all. We got the Clit Buddy on our first order about a year ago. It's been sitting in it's box this whole time, and just got resurrected for play a week or two ago.

Mr Pink, I'm not sure I understand this comment:

Make sure he also cleans it shortly after to prevent any bad juju from using it with you.

Can you elaborate?

And Tootall? No kidding about shooting Between that and the prostate massage I'm learning to perfect, we are sure making much bigger messes these days. It's just so much fun!!

[tootall]

It sounds like it is too tight. Cold and dark are not a good sign. Glad you are enjoying them.

[mstrpink]

Like any good toy it must be sanitary for repeated use. Unless he's wrapping himself up in saran wrap or you're dry like the desert clean the ring like you would any of your other utensils. That's all. Purple bags? Yikes. Try something bigger. I've found there are different ones size wise and I like them snug but not ballsmashingly tight. Think rubberband popping on your hands then visualize his package. Have fun!

[ladylove]

Our favorite its the 'amazing wireless cock ring'.. its VERY stretchy and the most comfortable he's tried.

The Amazing Wireless Cockring

[Craftylady]

Well, an update. Not all of it so good though.

We took our "sex-cation" last week and enjoyed it so much. But he developed ED problems.

I got several new cock rings for him: one was a set of 3 in different sizes, one is the Amazing Wireless, and one is a small one called the Hummdinger. The Hummdinger bullet quit after about 20 minutes The Amazing Wireless tore on the first try and the largest of the set of three stretchy rings works ok around his cock and balls.

But the whole ED is something new to us. We sort of half expected it, since he's taking two blood pressure meds plus Lipitor for cholesterol. I suppose maybe the combination of every-day sex plus the meds has gotten to be too much.

I still have some concerns about the ring. Our sessions are lasting an hour or more, and there's no way he should be wearing any ring that long. But he's having trouble keeping his erections. Even with the ring. So it's hard to convince him not to use them.

Also, he loves anal play, we discovered that much. I got the pink vibrating beads on someone's suggestion and wow, he loves them (I'll update that thread later).

So we had a lot of new and learning experiences last week! I'm still not sure the cockring is a good idea for him though.

[ladylove]

Have you tried Max Size Male Enhancement Cream. We've tried others with big claims, but this works for a while. Take a look. He also may want to visit a urologist or and internist to see if he's a candidate for some meds.

[Craftylady]

Ladylove, I ordered some a couple days ago, and it should be here soon.

GMTA

I'll let you know how it works for him.

And as for the meds, well, if you read the comments on the Marriage and ED thread, that's sort of his attitude right now - another pill to take care of the side effects of the "other pills" and where does it end...

I've told him and I really believe this: if he'd lose the weight by cutting out the carbs and the beer, the blood pressure and cholesterol will fall into line. But he likes to eat, and he loves his sweet stuff and his beer. He doesn't "do" moderation unfortunately.

[ladylove]

Ladylove, I ordered some a couple days ago, and it should be here soon.

GMTA

I'll let you know how it works for him.

And as for the meds, well, if you read the comments on the Marriage and ED thread, that's sort of his attitude right now - another pill to take care of the side effects of the "other pills" and where does it end...

I've told him and I really believe this: if he'd lose the weight by cutting out the carbs and the beer, the blood pressure and cholesterol will fall into line. But he likes to eat, and he loves his sweet stuff and his beer. He doesn't "do" moderation unfortunately.

I agree with you "clean eating" will help, but if that's not going to happen, try to get him to exercise, even if it a long walk after dinner. It may not help, but it certainly can't hurt to try.

Let us know what you think about the cream.

[chilipepper]

Well, an update. Not all of it so good though.

We took our "sex-cation" last week and enjoyed it so much. But he developed ED problems.

I got several new cock rings for him: one was a set of 3 in different sizes, one is the Amazing Wireless, and one is a small one called the Hummdinger. The Hummdinger bullet quit after about 20 minutes The Amazing Wireless tore on the first try and the largest of the set of three stretchy rings works ok around his cock and balls.

But the whole ED is something new to us. We sort of half expected it, since he's taking two blood pressure meds plus Lipitor for cholesterol. I suppose maybe the combination of every-day sex plus the meds has gotten to be too much.

I still have some concerns about the ring. Our sessions are lasting an hour or more, and there's no way he should be wearing any ring that long. But he's having trouble keeping his erections. Even with the ring. So it's hard to convince him not to use them.

Also, he loves anal play, we discovered that much. I got the pink vibrating beads on someone's suggestion and wow, he loves them (I'll update that thread later).

So we had a lot of new and learning experiences last week! I'm still not sure the cockring is a good idea for him though.

There are several serious issues here that are separate but connected if that makes sense. As an RN and 56 year old male I have several observations. Erectile Dysfunction (ED from here on out) has a number of causes particularly in American males, in that it is either a result of Corornary Artery Disease (CAD) or Diabetes (DM) or a combination of both. Previously, the psychological component was considered to be primary, but the evidence does not bear that out. Your man needs a full physical exam. If diabetic then meds will help, if CAD the same applies. The common meds for ED are either Viagra, Cialis, Livitra, etc. All have side effects, just depends on which med is best tolerated by him.

ED is all about blood flow, and Cock Rings are all about blood entrapment. Get your man a complete physical and workup for ED/DM/CAD. Once he's treated medically, then find your favorite Cock Ring and have fun. A sexual toy is no substitue for treatment of symptoms of a medical condition.

[Craftylady]

Hey chilipepper, welcome to the forum!

I hear what you're saying. He's pretty good about keeping up with the doctor's visits and all. I don't actually know when the last time he had an all-out physical, though. I'll mention it to him.

He has been told in the recent past that he was pre-diabetic. And he has done nothing to curb his sugar/carb intake, so he may well be there now. As for the CAD...well, let's hope not. I'll mention all this to him and see if he can schedule an appointment soon.