Members SensualWoman Posted January 16, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2010 Okay, this has seriously been ticking me off! I have talked, I have explained, I have shown, I have given articles to read!!! But he just doesn't seem to understand what to do with fore-play! He just goes straight for my pussy or boobs! And not anywhere else. I mean c'mon! There is a whole body with erogenous-zones, not just one or two. He has been trying, but then just stops. GGRR!! Another thing is when he plays with my pussy, he just circles my clitoris. Which is fine, but... That's it? You can do MUCH MORE WITH IT. I tell him all this, have again again in fact. We have amazing communication. But he just doesn't get it or something. It has done a number on our sex life... Because I don't feel like I'm getting enough so I just end up not giving enough on my end. I get off on my own usually because there is no getting off during sexual encounters with him usually. WHY CAN'T HE JUST UNDERSTAND!!!!???? I really didn't think that he would be so... Thick? I am not trying to put him down for everything, just fore-play. It is SO BORING. What more can I do????!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members taylorblu Posted January 16, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2010 when you have sex, is he in a hurry ? (for example, going to work, run errands, etc) sometimes, my h & i really want each other, but there isn't enough time, so we get right to it. perhaps you could arrange a "sex" night. you could also tease him w/your boobs & pussy (it could get intense for him so he touches you all over) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 16, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2010 Try playing a game with him. You are to be in control, and he is to do nothing without your instruction. Now you can tell him what to do and praise him when he does it well, and figure out what to do if he doesn't. this serves tow purposes. You get to show him what you like and how, and he gets to see your reaction to it; And when he gets positive one he's going to want to do it again. Could work. What do you think? Have you ever tried that? Would he be into it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted January 16, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2010 honey I hate to break it to you but some of them just never will get it! There's just some kind of mental block there or something and all the love, all the communication, all the whatever anyone tells you to try just isn't going to make any difference. They either are into it or they're not. And don't blame yourself....these kinds of guys could be with the hottest porn star or model on earth and their response and ability would still be the same. It's their issue not yours. Now I'm not saying not to try all these things...you guys are still young so never say never....but if you've given it all you've got and he still doesn't come around I strongly advise you to Run Forrest Run!!!! A lifetime of that shit will break you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 16, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2010 It is true, some men NEVER get it. Truly. They just go for the gratiuitous boob grab, then play with your pussy (in not even a terribly imaginative way) and then, 'ready now?' UUUGGGHhh so frustrating! Before you run for the hills, I suggest a few things. First, the next time you are having an intimate night, suggest he lay on the bed. Give him one HELL of foreplay. You know, tease his nipples, his neck, kiss his ear, his thighs, lick his balls, give him a slow, slow, S L O W and very deliberate handjob. Really make him ache for it. Then, when he makes a comment on either how great that was, or why you did all that, tell him - THAT is what I WANT TOO! Some men need....well, demonstration.IF that doesn't ring home for him, and LL's suggestions don't help, and he won't read articles (I particularly think my article on giving great oral sex would be great for him to read) then you might have to think about giving him a little show. Let him watch you seduce yourself. I am telling you, men are visual, and they need visual aids! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members thurisas Posted January 17, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 17, 2010 Have a little fun with it. Two words. Treasure Map.1. Take ten kisses down the spine from top of neck to between shoulder blades.2. At shoulder blades take 3 quick nips at each side...careful not to nip TOO hard.3. Draw hands up waist and massage deep at upper ribcage. Be careful not to jump too far toward the front.4. Well...you get the idea.The beautiful thing about treasure maps is that if you follow all the directions, someone gets booty and if a mistake is made, then you start all over again... and that can be good too. Randy. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SensualWoman Posted January 18, 2010 Author Members Report Share Posted January 18, 2010 Thank you so much for the advice!! As it so happens, not long after I wrote my rant we had freaking AWESOME foreplay!! I don't know what it was, almost as if he just KNEW or something, because he definately went beyond.^^ And he is into fore-play, but it seems that he will only do it if I ask most of the time. LL: I actually have done that before! He got it for a little bit. I do have a feeling that he understands now. He is not bad in bed DURING sex, and I would never leave him over such a small thing that might just need some time. MK: I DID have him read your article! And another from a sex book. I also had him read some of your entries on your blog, since your husband seems to have a VERY good grasp on it. And he did follow what he read for a bit. But he wasn't doing it the right way or something, because it wasn't that great. BUT! There are some things he has perfected. I believe that the foreplay will get interesting again! Here's hoping. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members crossroads123 Posted January 20, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 20, 2010 Tie him to the bed and DEMONSTRATE what you want on yourself and him! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted March 24, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 Tie him to the bed and DEMONSTRATE what you want on yourself and him! +1WHAT HE SAID!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted March 25, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 So...After 2+ years, has he learned anything new... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted March 26, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 26, 2012 Have you taken his hand and literally shown him what to do??? It's sounds as though you might need to. If you have, simply refuse penetration letting him know your not ready yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kace Posted March 29, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 This isn't just a guy thing. I'm a guy and I'm the one that wants to take time and savor the experience. Find a time where you can eliminate all other distractions and just bluntly show him what you like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members wendybird74 Posted March 29, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Okay, this has seriously been ticking me off! I have talked, I have explained, I have shown, I have given articles to read!!! But he just doesn't seem to understand what to do with fore-play! He just goes straight for my pussy or boobs! And not anywhere else. I mean c'mon! There is a whole body with erogenous-zones, not just one or two. He has been trying, but then just stops. GGRR!!Another thing is when he plays with my pussy, he just circles my clitoris. Which is fine, but... That's it? You can do MUCH MORE WITH IT. I tell him all this, have again again in fact. We have amazing communication. But he just doesn't get it or something. It has done a number on our sex life... Because I don't feel like I'm getting enough so I just end up not giving enough on my end. I get off on my own usually because there is no getting off during sexual encounters with him usually. WHY CAN'T HE JUST UNDERSTAND!!!!???? I really didn't think that he would be so... Thick? I am not trying to put him down for everything, just fore-play. It is SO BORING. What more can I do????!!I had to show my boyfriend what I like by placing his hands places during sex. Men and I am not saying all men but some and more then likely most are not good at reading between the lines if you make extra noises when he does something simple that feels good it helps my boyfriend still forgets to make an effort in the breast area. I cant seem to get through to him there. He is always afraid he is going to hurt me. I know full well he cant because they have been fondled way harder then he can even imagine but his fear of hurting me is not for me to judge I just try to help guide the way but I know also that if I nag him it confuses him Men think Mmmmm good Boobs Mmmmm good Beer Mmmmm good Pussy its simple for men you have to try little things to get it the way you want it or its lost in translation sorry fellas but its true and I have a knowledge that most would be ashamed of but from my experience this is a fact as far as I am concerned if you want it to be better ladies you have to guide it that way you are like a cross word puzzel or a dot to dot and a guys attention is sometimes get in there and GET ER DONE dont forget about Bob Ross a lady a female a potential lover wants to be Explored Ravished if you will lol Sorry hon I know what you are saying but you are gonna have to do a little work to get what you want that is the facts sweet lady men are not as complex as we are I know I am gonna get flack for this mess of words from the fellas but its the truth and you all know it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members wendybird74 Posted March 29, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 I had to show my boyfriend what I like by placing his hands places during sex. Men and I am not saying all men but some and more then likely most are not good at reading between the lines if you make extra noises when he does something simple that feels good it helps my boyfriend still forgets to make an effort in the breast area. I cant seem to get through to him there. He is always afraid he is going to hurt me. I know full well he cant because they have been fondled way harder then he can even imagine but his fear of hurting me is not for me to judge I just try to help guide the way but I know also that if I nag him it confuses himMen thinkMmmmm good BoobsMmmmm good BeerMmmmm good Pussyits simple for men you have to try little things to get it the way you want it or its lost in translationsorry fellas but its true and I have a knowledge that most would be ashamed of but from my experience this is a fact as far as I am concernedif you want it to be better ladies you have to guide it that way you are like a cross word puzzel or a dot to dot and a guys attention is sometimes get in there and GET ER DONEdont forget about Bob Ross a lady a female a potential lover wants to be Explored Ravished if you will lolSorry hon I know what you are saying but you are gonna have to do a little work to get what you want that is the facts sweet lady men are not as complex as we areI know I am gonna get flack for this mess of words from the fellas but its the truth and you all know itI am not saying that you should ever say that someone else did this this way that is always bad..... lesson learned the hard way nobody wants to hear what someone else did that made you scream out in pleasure but you can always pretend that that is the first time its ever been done that way if you act as tho hes found some magical place that excites my Bf and he has become a far more adventurous lover a tip I learned somewhere on this site and has dome some pretty fantastic things for our love life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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