Members mailahn97 Posted October 20, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 In one of our many interesting discussions that my SO and I have it came up about threesomes. We are curious as to what others think about something. To you what determines a fmf threesome? If the two women are together and the man is only penetrating one of them would you consider that a threesome. Yes she would be willing to give him a handjob and allow him to touch her but that is all.In talking about it we thought it might be interesting to put on here and see what everyone thought. Is a threesome when all involved are having sex with each other or is it that they are pleasuring each other in some way. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted October 20, 2011 Review Team Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 I like the term my SO uses - "fully-interactive" threesome. That leaves little doubt as to what is meant - all three involved have sex with each other. But then there is the question of what exactly constitutes sex. If the females use toys on each other, does that count? What about oral but no other penetration? If a female gives the male oral sex but not vaginal, does that count? There are many different scenarios possible. To me, a "fully-interactive" fmf hreesome, involves sexual penetration of both females by the male, and some form of pentration between the females. All are involved in what is happening, not one sitting back and watching, for instance. But this is just me. I am sure others will have different opinions. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SensualWoman Posted October 20, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 For me, it would only have to be any form of sexual contact. Sex is not just penetration in my own opinion, so I would just assume that if one has been in a threesome, some sort of sexual activity has occured. The most important thing is to make sure everyone in the party is in agreement as to what is a threesome. It could a little awkward if one of the ladies thought that all she needed to do was oral and the guy was expecting intercourse. :S 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted October 20, 2011 Review Team Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 ... The most important thing is to make sure everyone in the party is in agreement as to what is a threesome. It could a little awkward if one of the ladies thought that all she needed to do was oral and the guy was expecting intercourse. :SI totally agree! It doesn't matter what anyone else calls anything as long as the three involved are on the same page, which is imperative. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 20, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 I think if a third person is involved in any way, except just watching, that would constitute a three-some. Doesn't matter the the sex-mix is. Also, it really is up to the parties to determine what constitutes a thee-some for them. It could be anything you decide. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted October 20, 2011 Author Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Ok how about this then. Say an ad is out and in it is says that the male will actively be with both women via sex. Then someone answers the ad but says sex is completely out of the question. First off the person why did they even bother to answer the ad when they do not plan on having sex with the male at all when that was stated as part of a persons threesome. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 20, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Ok how about this then. Say an ad is out and in it is says that the male will actively be with both women via sex. Then someone answers the ad but says sex is completely out of the question. First off the person why did they even bother to answer the ad when they do not plan on having sex with the male at all when that was stated as part of a persons threesome.I can't answer the "Why" but the wrong person answered the add. I think it's as simple as that. Wait until you get someone who fits your rules and desire. Good Luck! and be careful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted October 20, 2011 Author Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 This conversation came up because we saw this situation on another forum and it got us talking. It has nothing to do with us. Just curious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted October 21, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 Well I had a mfm and it was AWKWARD!!! It ended up just beinga revolving door and I got bored. Not a good sign. But in order for a threesome of either mix to be good, the 2 same sex have to be okay with some kind of nude contact with each other. My guys were not. Which is also why I couldn't do a fmf, i'm not comfortable with the same sex and any kind of sexual contact. It really doesn't do much for me! Occasionally i might get into f/f porn, but usually i'm watching it because someone else wants to and I'm along for the ride. Which is not how a threesome should be! I didn't expect my guys to fondle or blow each other, that would have gotten weird fast, but they couldnt even be in the same room together. I feel like the pressure is really on for fmf threesomes because I imagine part of the fun for the guy is watching the two girls together. Again, reason number 137 why I couldn't do a fmf threesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 21, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 This conversation came up because we saw this situation on another forum and it got us talking. It has nothing to do with us. Just curious.I did make it personal, but I meant it generically. I seem to do that often, I apologize. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 No worries about that LL. I was just clarifying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lisa's Man Posted October 21, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 A threesome- Me and both hands. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted October 21, 2011 Review Team Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 One thing I have learned in the past year or so is just how different we all think about things when it comes to any sexual topic. For example: Can cybersex be cheating, is oral sex still sex, what is vanilla and what isn't, is porn-surfing dangerous, and now what is a threesome. I don't think there are any wrong answers to any of these questions, just maybe wrong answers for each of us. I think that is the case with the person who replied to the ad. She is the wrong person, based on what it seems her definitions are, for a couple who obviously has different definitions and expectations. Why she would reply? Idk, maybe she is one of those people who think they can change other people, or maybe she is hard-up and was just hoping. ???PS: LM - LMAO! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 It is interesting to see everyones views. I was telling my SO about some of these replies last night and he brought up a good point about something. If a friend walked up to you and said hey I had a threesome. Would you automatically assume he or she had sex with both parties involved or that they all just were making out. I know myself I would assume they all had sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted October 21, 2011 Review Team Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 It is interesting to see everyones views. I was telling my SO about some of these replies last night and he brought up a good point about something. If a friend walked up to you and said hey I had a threesome. Would you automatically assume he or she had sex with both parties involved or that they all just were making out. I know myself I would assume they all had sex.Weeeellll, I would ask for details! Hehee! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 Weeeellll, I would ask for details! Hehee!You....never....lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 21, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 It is interesting to see everyones views. I was telling my SO about some of these replies last night and he brought up a good point about something. If a friend walked up to you and said hey I had a threesome. Would you automatically assume he or she had sex with both parties involved or that they all just were making out. I know myself I would assume they all had sex.I would assume they all were sexual together in some way. .... and yea, I too would want details. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lisa's Man Posted October 22, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 22, 2011 I would assume they all were sexual together in some way. .... and yea, I too would want details.I too, would assume they had sex. (Does this make us a threesome now?) Details? Hell, I want pix and video!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 23, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 23, 2011 I too, would assume they had sex. (Does this make us a threesome now?) Details? Hell, I want pix and video!!!! Ohhhhh!, I guess it does. And I like the idea of a video, just to make sure of course.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted October 28, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 28, 2011 There have been threesome discussions before about setting up ground rules ahead of time, including whether intercourse with the third person was allowed or just oral or what not.So the implication there is that it's still a threesome, even if certain acts are not allowed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted October 29, 2011 Members Report Share Posted October 29, 2011 It has always been my belief that 3 people having sex with each other even if it is just oral it would be a threesome.Despite what some presidents have thought oral sex is sex. Oral sex among 3 folks whether 3 w, 1w 2m, 2m 1w, 2w 1m or whatever combo you can conjure up...3 people+sex =THREESOME. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Wisconsin Cougar Posted July 16, 2018 Members Report Share Posted July 16, 2018 Most of our 3somes involve either me bringing one of my girlfriends into our bed our he invites our regular friend who takes care of me when he is gone. I love the MFM thing the most. Both my husband and i are BI so we enjoy every aspect of sex from a mans perspective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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