Persuading My Wife Anal Touching (or More!) Is Ok....

[slartibartfast]

Hi,

I never really considered anything anal until recently - it just didn't occur to me to be honest! But then I noticed my wife getting more and more excited the closer my fingers got to there. The thing is that she loves it, until she realises that's what I'm doing, and then she's horrified that I've done such a thing. I've tried to talk about it, but got nowhere. I think it's partly the result of a heavily religious upbringing, but I don't know what to do about it....any ideas?

[jennycherie]

if she is really horrified, then it is probably something you need to talk about before surprising her with it. I used to be extremely opposed to this type of play until one night, my husband was fingering me and letting one finger kind of drag behind so this it lightly went across the back end. After feeling that, I just wanted to feel it again and became much more open to that kind of play but we had to talk about it first, and move very slowly.

[slartibartfast]

Finally I got the courage up to talk about it properly yesterday, and I was instantly branded a total perv! "I can't believe you'd want to do something that gross" kind of thing. Then last night, after getting drunk at a party, when we got into bed she was all randy and suddenly said "actually I do like it!" and virtually shoved my fingers up there! I was really pleased, but would have been more so if I wasn't too drunk to get it up!

[Lacey607]

I was a little hesitant at first too. My bf tried doing it a couple of times and I promptly stopped it. My main concern was...well, poop comes out of there. lol. After discussing it and the hygiene of the idea, and knowing he was educated in what to expect etc... I was much more OK with it. I'm being subtle, frankly, i LOVE it.

[horneyhousewife]

The first time I had "anal" it was by accident. We were going hard and fast and he came all the way out then went back in the wrong place. It about broke his dick, and I almost went through the wall (doggie).

After that, anal was totally out of the question.

Fast Forward 15 years. I am married to the man of my dreams. One night, we're in doggie, and he asks me if he can give it to me in the ass. (bear in mind, this is my prude guilty catholic husband that won't deviate. ever). Of course I said no. So he said, "please?"

How do I say no to that? He sounded so forlorn and so sad that I had to let him. Neither one of us knew what we were doing, all I knew is that it fucking hurt like hell the only other time anybody ever went there.

We figured out after a couple of tries that we needed lube, and thankfully we had a big bottle on hand (so to speak). He got me all slippery and then we tried again. It took a couple more tries and I managed to relax my muscles and OHMYFUCKINGGOD!!

He has me begging him for it on a regular basis now.

[slartibartfast]

cool. It's good to hear other peoples experience of it! We still haven't actually had anal sex, but I've been touching her there, which she loves. I really don't want it to be a bad experience for her, so I want to wait until it feels right (so to speak!). It's good to hear from women who really do enjoy it!

[Willow~]

I never liked anal with my first partner, but my husband and I really love it now.

What changed it for me was he is less endowed than my other partner, and it's much easier for him to penetrate me without pain.

When we have sex and I'm really wet is when I beg for it. I just need him in my ass so he'll just lube up and rub his cock over my ass, easily slide in and that gets me going.

The key is lube, lots of it. No matter how wet I am, there has to be lots of lube. Normal wetness is not enough. I can't stress that enough.

Once he's in, it feels so good, and him in my ass along with some finger or toy play on my clit while we're doing it, does the trick for me.

I would say 80% of our lovemaking is anal. We just do it as part of our lovemaking. We love anal, I never used to but I do now.

[niecee_72]

cool. It's good to hear other peoples experience of it! We still haven't actually had anal sex, but I've been touching her there, which she loves. I really don't want it to be a bad experience for her, so I want to wait until it feels right (so to speak!). It's good to hear from women who really do enjoy it!

I know my husband loves my ass. He tells me during sex I no its a hint. He has not done me up tha ass YET! I'm a little scared I tried twice over the years. First when I was 16 it hurt like hell I don't think my boyfriend or I knew anything. My husband and I have been together for 17 years. so probally 3 years ago he wanted to try it it hurt like hell lol. But we learned a long time ago I love it when he puts his finger up my ass. He also knows if he eats me puts 2 fingers in me than adds the finger to my ass I'm DONE I come to pieces.

There are times he knows what I want better than I do well most the time. So he will start rimming me and god damn if I don't want it. I'm trying to work myself up to asking him to do me. We have a 14 year old so it's hard to have sex (she stays up late he goes to bed early) anyway I WANT the DP thats always been in my mind bad. So thats what I hope i finally get the nerve to ask for. I hope this helps maybe she feels the same way? I'll also tell you when we watch porn when the chicks takes it in the ass it makes me think OOOOOOHHHH SHIT I soooooooo want that. I think I'm going to buy a butt plug for 3 reasons 1) for me to enjoy haha 2) I think it will help doing it more will make it easier for that big jump 3) working the muscles

[dazzleme]

I have to admit...I was one of the "absolutely not" kind of gals period. There was NO way ANYTHING was going there...it was wrong, gross and just plain unacceptable almost like if my pussy isn't good enough for you then WTH? LOL...

Well, now I can honestly say phobia is over with because DAMN it feel soooooooo damn good! It all was innocent, my BF just trying a finger, etc. and it put me OVER the edge so then I started on my own experimenting while getting myself off and realized HEY, it's PLAYTIME.

Yep, it's good...I enjoy it and it definately feels good in a different way. I can relate some to your wife because I was completely against it so give it time and take it sloooooooow and like everyone else said, LOTS of lube if and when that time comes.

[Kinky Twinkie]

I have to admit...I was one of the "absolutely not" kind of gals period. There was NO way ANYTHING was going there...it was wrong, gross and just plain unacceptable almost like if my pussy isn't good enough for you then WTH? LOL...

Well, now I can honestly say phobia is over with because DAMN it feel soooooooo damn good! It all was innocent, my BF just trying a finger, etc. and it put me OVER the edge so then I started on my own experimenting while getting myself off and realized HEY, it's PLAYTIME.

Yep, it's good...I enjoy it and it definately feels good in a different way. I can relate some to your wife because I was completely against it so give it time and take it sloooooooow and like everyone else said, LOTS of lube if and when that time comes.

Lots of lube, and go very slow. Use a finger to start, lube the entrance of your butt hole and get that finger really lubed up real good. when it doubt use more lube. if you have to use a whole bottle then use a bottle. Now start to slowly push the lube in with your finger( make sure your nails are not long and filed down). It ok if it takes 30 mins or more to get it in there, no rushing. Once you get the tip in just breath and relax. Let is stay buried for several minutes or more, then work on on trying to push it in another half inch or so until you get it in as far as you can.

eventually your butt will just inhale the finger or object like it trying t swallow it

Glenn

[Willow~]

Also try penetration when you are spooned, after some great sex. Have him enter you from behind on your side. You'll be relaxed and it may be easier.

[wessellk]

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[Amylynn920]

I would have no problem accomodating my husband in anything he wanted. He's not into anal play for himself and that's fine. If he was I'd be there to help make it as good for him as I could. Sex is a mutually pleasing experience and different strokes for different folks.

I love anal sex and my husband does too. We incorporate it whenever we each feel like it.

[froggystyle1977]

I love Anal but it has to be my way!! the first experience I had with it was an accident and extremely painful, that was with one of my exs with hubby it was different he wanted too I didn't, he started with a finger which led to more then one and I wanted to so bad but every time we tried it hurt so I stopped him finally a friend gave me some advice she said I should control it so while Dh was half asleep one evening (he works nights I was waking him up) I lubed him and me up and slipped him inside it was wonderful!! we enjoy it but only if I control it hubby is too rushed!! Anal with clit stimulation is WOOOO HOOOOOO WOW!!! its actually the only time I talk dirty during sex LMAO I would recommend keeping up what your doing, try getting her to read things on it, if she enjoys some, time will be the guide for if she will enjoy all I know I do!!