Are Some Women Just Not Multi Orgasmic?

[Amylynn920]

I've been thinking abit about some of the posts I read on here, and my personal experience.

I keep thinking something is wrong with me.

So many posts about women who come 4, 5 and 6 times with their partners.

I have to work at one. And only a couple times in my life, had two. Not back to back, but after a while.

I get really sensitive, and I just feel that it's so much work getting to one, I think it would be exhausting getting to two.

My husband and I were talking about this last night. He said "But you always stop me after one". Which I do because I am just so sensitive down there after.

Lately he's satisfied with one orgasm so after he comes that's about it. So I don't know if he kept going which physically is alot to ask from him, would do it for me.

I want to see what it feels like to be having more than one in a session.

I really am starting to think I may need some kind of viagra or something.

And lately after having an orgasm, I'm fine for a half hour then I just start getting horny again. So I don't think my body is really satisfied.

Is anyone else here having this problem? I'm wondering if I really need to be worked up before I attempt intercourse, maybe that's the key?

Am I obsessing on something I should just be grateful for in the first place? I mean so many women don't have orgasms at all. I just want to know what it's like to have one, change up position and then have another and maybe another one?

It's all so frustrating to me at times.

[sun_flower969]

I think that you are probably having primarily clitoral orgasms. It is hard to keep going if you are having direct clitoral stimulated orgasms. Even for me I feel a little sore and sensitive after especially if it is particularly aggressive stimulation. Via a strong vibe or intense oral. I agree about getting worked up before intercourse DEFINITELY makes a difference. After you have one just slow down and start over, gently, it will build up again. Try stimulating your clit with just a finger instead of your (beloved ) bullet while using a toy (or his fingers or penis or whatever) on your g-spot. That may be a little more subtle and not as strong of a feeling so you can warm up again. AND use lube!!! It WILL happen! Just like me and the whole squirting issue. I know that eventually it will happen. I thought I did for a second last night. I felt that rush of heat I have heard of but no gush. I still came very hard though. Here's the thing, Once you have multiples you just don't feel satisfied anymore with just one. I was lucky in the past if I could have just one! Anyway I hope this helps.

[Amylynn920]

Yes it does help Sun.

Ok so lube and then starting off again slower.

See we don't start off again slower, it's right back at full speed, so maybe that's the problem. I know I could probably come multiple times with intense oral, it's just that I don't get oral that often to see if it really could happen.

Oral is the one thing that gets me there faster than a bullet

I hear the superman intro.. "faster than a speeding bullet.. more powerful than a locomotive.. able to leap tall buildings in a singe bound" rofl.

I don't know maybe I am one of those women that can only get one.

[mystofpric]

The other thing is, even though your super sensitive after the first oneyou have to just keep going. I'm going to admit that I'm not a fan of clitoral orgaism because it down right hurts after wards, the harder and strong teh vibe the move it hurts to touch. But if you want more you have to poush through that because after it stops hurting (which It will) your going to have more and stronger Os. Also if your like me and get very dry after an O (of any kind) lube is definitely the key.

[toohotcatmom]

Aiden,

I could have written your first post I swear.

I only have one what I call "real" orgasms - the full blown climax and release - but never have had more than that in one session. Tom always wants to try and some times I let him start but like you said - I'm soooooo sensitive.

However, lately he's been doing this fingering thing and I have started experiencing what I call "liitle shocks" - like spasms with somewhat of an orgasmic feel - but nothing like the real thing I get with clitoral stimulation.

I tell you this because on my own I've been working at more than one....I haven't hit it yet = but what Sun and Suzy say about starting slow and light - and working through the pain - it does help. I've gotten over the pain thing - but it takes so long to get to one - and to get past that pain threshold that I literally wear out before I can get to two! I really think I will though eventually.

I also know that lately - I've been so up tight about getting to that perfect one - that I don't at all...which really sucks.

Don't know if this helps - but at least you know you are not alone or crazy or need viagra! Some of us are just "late bloomers" and have to try some more to get there...

[Mikayla1]

Girls, the only way you get to be multi-orgasmic is to work through the pain and discomfort. Period.

I know, from personal experience, that clitoral orgasms are wonderful, but then when you do orgasm you get sensitive. This sensitivity varies in intensity from person to person. However, most of us have experienced this type of discomfort, including myself.

How to you work through it? Mind over matter. I have told this accounting many times before, and I tell it in a shorter version in my article on Multiples. My ex tied me up and unmercifully stimulated my clitoris until I swore it would burn off. Literally, hours and hours and hours. The first orgasm came quick. The next in about 10 minutes, the next maybe 20 later, then they started coming fast. I wanted to DIE it hurt more than I ever thought sex should hurt, but I got through it. Then, the next time we had sex, I had mutliples easily and with little discomfort. Sure, I would prefer a few seconds of recovery time, but I can make it through that with little or no 'rest' in between.

So, while I understand your frustration, my best advice to you is to: suck it up. yes, I said it. Suck it up. Rest a few moments after the first time and work past that urge to just 'finish' and get things done, allow him to start touching you again, around your clit, then work up to the clit, and then just go with it. it will happen.

[sun_flower969]

Girls, the only way you get to be multi-orgasmic is to work through the pain and discomfort. Period.

So, while I understand your frustration, my best advice to you is to: suck it up. yes, I said it. Suck it up. Rest a few moments after the first time and work past that urge to just 'finish' and get things done, allow him to start touching you again, around your clit, then work up to the clit, and then just go with it. it will happen.

Hmmm I am not sure if it ever HURT like that for me. Although before I was able to have multiples I would be so sensitive after an orgasm I couldn't even take it if he touched me, at all, like even my arm or leg! I believe it is because it was all clitoral, it took a LOT of stimulation to get me there and long time too. Now I don't rest in between they just come back to back, build up then taper off and build again. Like thunder is how I like to describe it, rolling thunder. No pain though unless like I said the clitoral stim is too intense. I just all of a sudden started having them. I still say the trick is going slow and being VERY aroused before having intercourse. Then, doing whatever it is you are doing, focus your mind on your G-spot the pleasure you are feeling etc instead of the clitoris. It will build and get better as it increases. Like Mikayla said up there, rest for a min in between and start out slow. TRY not to get frustrated you WILL get there! Just try to enjoy the sensations that you DO feel instead of obsessing about the ones you WISH you did and don't give up!

[Amylynn920]

We talked .. yet again, and decided to try something new. No toys. Just hands and mouth and each other's talents.

He thinks it may be that number 1 I don't go past that squirmy, oh my god I can't take anymore, so I have agreed to let him do his thing, trust him and let him get me off again.

And I want my body to "learn" orgasm without toys. I mean toys are great, but we think we need to start focusing on each other, the human touch, and relax. We don't have to hurry in bed.

Like he said, there is no reason to get there in a hurry, it's our time and we have forever what a great guy I have, really.

[mystofpric]

Like he said, there is no reason to get there in a hurry, it's our time and we have forever what a great guy I have, really.

How did you not orgasim when he said that?! If you want to start cloning him, I'll take two.

[Amylynn920]

How did you not orgasim when he said that?! If you want to start cloning him, I'll take two.

I wish it was that easy Suzy. Orgasms are so hard for me. Sadly.

[mystofpric]

I wish it was that easy Suzy. Orgasms are so hard for me. Sadly.

him saying stuff like that should help, and just because you need toys now doesn't mean that a) your doing anything wrong that you will always need them. I come froma long line of big Os so i got blessed in teh genetics department.

[vanilla_bean]

Your question caused me to do a little research on my own. Sometimes I multiple, sometimes I don't. When I used a strong vibe ( bullet in particular), I was very sensitive and didn't want to go for more. Maybe oral for the first O? Switching up the toys and positions helps. Use lots of lube. (I need to get a vat of the stuff to keep by the bed). The first O is usually the strongest.

Let me know if I need to go back to the field and do more research.

[synirr]

Until just a few days ago I was in the same boat, but I think I'm finally getting the hang of it, I'm happy to report!

I have been masturbating an obscene amount lately, haha. I'm with a gorgeous boy I only see about once a week since he's out of town for the summer, but I want him constantly, so I mean... what's a girl to do? I noticed that the more aroused I am, the less I clench my muscles down there. Not tensing up makes the feeling a LOT more intense, almost unbearable, but I resisted the urge to do what I usually do and just relaxed into it instead. It has always taken me just under 10 minutes to build to an orgasm (the first, and any thereafter,) but with this new method I am shooting them off in less than 5 minutes, and multiples are coming a lot easier . I think it'll take less and less time the more I practice.

[Amylynn920]

I had to update this.

Dunno what the heck it is, but I think it may have to do with some things in my life with him that are evolving and changing for the better, but it's happening, finally.

And it's awesome.

It is like a *switch* that's been activated. Exhausting at times but .. man.. so worth it

[vanilla_bean]

I had to update this.

Dunno what the heck it is, but I think it may have to do with some things in my life with him that are evolving and changing for the better, but it's happening, finally.

And it's awesome.

It is like a *switch* that's been activated. Exhausting at times but .. man.. so worth it

YAY AIDEN!!!!

[sun_flower969]

It is like a *switch* that's been activated. Exhausting at times but .. man.. so worth it

RIGHT!

[LilyElle]

I had to update this.

Dunno what the heck it is, but I think it may have to do with some things in my life with him that are evolving and changing for the better, but it's happening, finally.

And it's awesome.

It is like a *switch* that's been activated. Exhausting at times but .. man.. so worth it

Congrats, Aiden! I'm so glad it's finally happening for you. You're a very lucky woman, both with your husband and with your multiples!

[cmwise1]

WOOT girl!!

[Kama]

I have never had multiple orgasms. Once I'm done, I'm done. I also came before my ex. He lasted a lot longer than me.

[ladylove]

I have never had multiple orgasms. Once I'm done, I'm done. I also came before my ex. He lasted a lot longer than me.

Well, now you have something to look forward to, and try for. It's a fabulous goal! Let us know when it happens.