Members froggystyle1977 Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 So thursday is mine and hubbys 4th anniversary, Not once have we actually spent time together on our annniversary.We did go out one year and that was a nightmare (see my post in mikayla's pass out one) So this year hubby made sure to get the night off and I got a sitter for all 3 kids. I was thinkin a nice dinner mabye watch a movie have some fun in the bedroom. Mostly though just time for us. Hubbys granddad passed away yesterday and he tells me this morning the funeral is thursday at 10 am, since hubbyhas to work weds night this ruins our plans can't have him trying to stay up 24 hours. I know I am being selfish but damnit I wanted time just for us on our anniversary!!!!!!! this really truly sucks now the cute little black dress I boughtfor our anniversary may need to be worn to a funeral. NOTHING EVER WORKS OUT FOR ME!!!!!!!! Now to try to find someone to watch my kids during the day, since my original sitter has to work during the day!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 I feel for you! I HATE when you are so looking forward to something and the plans get ruined! Maybe you can just postpone. 4 years huh Happy anniversary anyway! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 Sorry to hear about the series of unfortunate events! That's no way to spend your special day. But IMHO you shouldn't waste a special dress for another occasion. Buy a new one for the funeral and keep the other for it's intended use! Our thoughts are with you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 I'm sorry to hear that froggy. I agree save the little black dress for that special day. I've been married 8 times as long as you have and for lots of reasons we have usually celebrated our anniversaries on a day other than our actual wedding date. As long as the two of you celebrate it together it really doesn't matter if it lines up with the calendar.Our thoughts will be with you and your husband during these times.Man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 Sorry your having a hard time. BUT... My husband is frequently not available for out anniversary too, (something I come to live with) so we celebrate on the closest available day. That way it doesn't go unnoticed or uncelebrated. Reschedule your dinner to celebrate your love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members makasha1 Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 Sorry to hear about Hubby's Granddad.We will celebrate number 40 this fall and have done something special on the actual date about 7 or 8 times.The best one was when MIL sat the kids while we went out to special dinner. When we got home she parked on the couchand visited with wife till 11:30 PM. Absolutely CLUELESS!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members littlemissnonamegirl Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 Well first off my condolences to you/hubby about his grand daddy. Hope all is okay.Second, I agree with Pappy, although it may not come out as planned, you can always find another special time to wear that black dress of yours! I'm sorry to hear it didn't neccessarily work out as planned. I hope you get to spend some alone time soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted July 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2008 Don't wear it unless you find one you like better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vanilla_bean Posted July 2, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 Sorry for your loss.Congrats on your anniversary.we rarely celebrate on our actual anniversary either (if at all). Have a great time when you do find the time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted July 2, 2008 Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 I know you're bummed, and I hope that you're able to do something soon with him while he's not sleepy! Luv ya! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team TonboMidori Posted July 2, 2008 Review Team Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 Aw, I'm sorry hon! I hope your hubby's ok, and you guys get some time together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted July 2, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 First I'm very sorry about the loss. Okay that being said: WHo said you have to wear black at a funeral? If you have a nice, say navy blue pants suit, screw the rules and wear that. NO offense but grandpa is dead and isn;t going to be made at your color choice. So definitely save the little black dress, wearing your special dress for you hubby to see dear dead grandpa would probably upset grandpa more. He was young once too ya know.As far as the dinner and suck goes, could you reschedule for maybe next thursday? I know hubby can't get time off of work again, but perhaps just a romantic dinner and a movie? or something like that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members froggystyle1977 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 Thank you all for your support!! I promise to find something else to wear to the funeral. I don't have much that fits anymore, can't afford anything new. hmmm oh well I am sure I will find something respectable. As far as replanning our night well who knows it was a fluke to get a sitter and hubby actually getting the night off work. next week is his vacation so I can hope, though my son has summer school and well timing is everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members thurisas Posted July 2, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 I'm sorry for the loss of life and your night. You can wear anything nice to a funeral these days and if anyone asks, remind them of this. While they are a time to lay to rest a person's body, it is also a time to celebrate their life. In that light, do you really want to be drab and depressing when you are doing that? Respect the person by not remembering that they're passed on, but remembering the things in their life that made you respect them enough in the first place to mourn their passing.At my funeral, everyone had better be wearing their every day clothes and drinking Pepsi.Randy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted July 2, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 I, too, am sorry for hubby's loss. family members are precious. But i believe as well that life should be celebrated.Having kids myself, I know what the babysitter situation is like..just keep trying for that night out..it may not even be this month, just as long as it does happen.Lot's of things go as planned, just not the one's we really are looking forward to. I share your disappointment..it's a bitch sometimes!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted July 2, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 Thur, I like the way you think! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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