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Okay so, I have an interview tomorrow and I realized I had nothing to wearo I hoped in my car and cruised over to the mall. Now as I'm sure you guys have gathered I have zero confidence in my looks and i have just begun to come into my own on fashion. I'm walking across the parking lot and this guy is cruising towards me. Does he stop? Hell no, even though I have teh right of way. Then as he SLOWS DOWN to drive past me he is just blatantly staring. This guy was gross, you could tell he was dirty, his hair was greasey he had food (i hope it was food) in his moustache and as he drove past with his flytrap gaping open food was falling out. Ew. I past GORGEOUS early college guys andnot a second look, if they did they were too smooth for me. Next stop walmart. On my way out a couple a old (think 80s) men were also blatantly staring. WTF I wasn't dressed up or anything. Flip flops, jeans, and a tee shirt, not even low cut. Why in the hell do men think it's okay to stare like that!? Do they not realize it just increase the gag reflex? I really wanted to walk up to teh first guy and slap him but I fear he may have been a plague carrying rat in disguise.

I realize that I can't pick and choose who notices me but, just a little tact goes a long long way. Iwouldn't have given the first guy a second thought if he had been so obviously gross about it. It just very belittling to be oogled like a piece of meat by a straving dog. I want to be checked out, yes, I want guys to find me attractive, yes. Do I want to be undressed on my way into the mall by a guy in a car who doesn't look like he knows what a bar of soap is? No. I don't want to be leered at. I don't want to be treated like that. I am a lady you want to appericate what beauty I have? Fine but be a god-damned gentleman and keep your tongue in your mouth, shut your fly trap and have a little respect for me as a human being.

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Want me to slap the taste out of that fella's mouth hon? Then he'll have a reason for it at least! It might jar the crumbs loose too! LOL!

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I seem to be a big hit with the over 70 crowd....teeth missing, cigs hanging out of their mouths, viagra-ridden boner waiting in their pants...ick and eww.

I usually flash those guys who keep on staring...they usually crash their cars! LOL

Sorry hon, I assure you, many good looking, young up and coming guys are sure to ogle you too!

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Sorry you to experience that Suz but it sounds like you did the smart thing and ignored them - especially gross-man. You have to be careful when dealing with folks like that. **hugs** Now lets go find those hot college guys! :)

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Yeah I just needed to vent, I caught the eye of a couple of cuties when I pulled up, I may drive a Taurus but that baby has bass. :) I was just massively preturbed by the balls on these guys. Seriously, the guys on here laugh when i say that real men aren't as evoled but it's true.

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I guess my ornery hubby's rubbing off on me (no pun intended), cuz when a man, young or old, stares at me with blatant rudeness, I look at them square in the eyes and tell them to keep staring. I may do a trick. And I keep walking. I even had one man staring at "The Twins" one day, and told him with a straight face "Yeah, as much attention as they get, they still won't talk to strangers". :lol: He blushed and walked off.

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I work in a tropical fish store... like that sells fish for aquariums. Most of the people that are really into that hobby are weird as hell (and I speak for myself here, too.) I get socially inept middle-aged men flirting with me all. day. long. Some of them are regular customers who make it a point to track me down every time they come in. It'd be nice if there were ever any hotties, but no, there are rarely hotties in the fish store... and I've already seduced the few I've come across :lol:

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Seriously, the guys on here laugh when i say that real men aren't as evoled but it's true.

Though mankind has been said to have evolved some IMO revolved!

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Suzyp~ I was just trying to make a point in a playful way, but thanks...just because a guy looks at a woman does not necessarily mean he wants what you think he wants, I have had that discussion with my wife and others many times. Even if you are right in what you feel, take it for what it is and move on. Would you rather someone look at you and barf?

Just this morning while I was shopping at the grocery store there was a woman in the same section who was nice looking and had a set of tits that most men would die for. I glanced at her (couldn't help it) smiled and went about my business.....next isle over, here she came with the *look at me* expression on her face, I ignored her. Next isle over, here she came again, I looked at her, she smirked.

This happened for several Isles (her coming around making herself known) . I couldn't help thinking the whole time *this fool thinks I want to fuck her* when all I really wanted was for her to get the hell out of my way.

Sometimes I think we overestimate our ability to read other peoples mind.

Well the guy that really bugged me was just a look smile and keep walking, dude actually slowed down to prolong his stare. It the disrespect that gets to me. If you had looked and smiled, i would have smiled back and moved on, but to be so disgusting about it really upsets me. Ya kno? The really old guys, i wouldnt even have noticed if the first guy hadn't set me on edge. I honesly never go out and feel like anyone is checking me out (there are usually nicer, thinner, perker girls cruising the mall), that guy however definitely was andhe was being vile about it.

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he sounded to me suzy that he was being vile. Yeah a look, glance is fine.......gawking isn't. gawking is annoying and sometimes gross as whos the one that lookking kind of thing. I know exactly what you are talking about suzy. i don't have any advise for things to change or to fix it because its going to happen no matter what i say. Some people in this world just don't konw how to control them selves.

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I asked my 22 yr old son about college kid ogling..... He said; "unless I'm at a bar looking to get laid" it isn't cool to drool when you see a hot chick. it only makes you look hard up".

So, I think there must be looking, (your beautiful) but to cool to ogle.......

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Well Suzyp...I have seen your picture and I think you are drop dead gorgeous, soooo, as an OLD MAN I have a feeling I would be a looking and a ogling. Coming from me it would be a compliment trust me. :D

Thanks! I'd be that lady in teh grocery store. And your not old, the guys I was talking about were in their 80s+ so stop that.

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Suzy, just speak to them, and let them know that they're being rude. It really doesn't take much, just a few words. Come up with something that makes them KNOW they're being stupid, but in a nice way. Trust me, it works 99% of the time. For the pervo that says something back to you, you can just tell them to grow up and go jack off somewhere, out of your vicinity.

I have a friend that is really big busted (well more than one, but this friend hates it with a passion). She's always been "large". She has back & shoulder issues due to it. Is having to go thru the insurance BS that's taken over 2 yrs, and a lot of $$ (when the reduction she wants/needs would cost less than everything she's had to endure). She's lost like 100lbs on her body. Maybe lost a cup size. She wears baggie shirts. I had NO idea how big she was, until, the other day, when I told her that she looks smaller to me, then she tightened her shirt, and OMG, those baggie shirts really covered up her chest! She hates feeling uncomfortable all the time, and she hates the fact that men oggle her breasts, and ignore her, as a person. She told me that sometimes, the way men look at her, she feels like a life-support system for her breasts.

She works at a prison too, as a nurse, so you can imagine the comments she gets too. Though, there, she can write people up and they loose privelages! LOL She's come up with some fantastic retorts!!

So, you're not alone at all darlin'.

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Suzy, just speak to them, and let them know that they're being rude. It really doesn't take much, just a few words. Come up with something that makes them KNOW they're being stupid, but in a nice way. Trust me, it works 99% of the time. For the pervo that says something back to you, you can just tell them to grow up and go jack off somewhere, out of your vicinity.

I have a friend that is really big busted (well more than one, but this friend hates it with a passion). She's always been "large". She has back & shoulder issues due to it. Is having to go thru the insurance BS that's taken over 2 yrs, and a lot of $$ (when the reduction she wants/needs would cost less than everything she's had to endure). She's lost like 100lbs on her body. Maybe lost a cup size. She wears baggie shirts. I had NO idea how big she was, until, the other day, when I told her that she looks smaller to me, then she tightened her shirt, and OMG, those baggie shirts really covered up her chest! She hates feeling uncomfortable all the time, and she hates the fact that men oggle her breasts, and ignore her, as a person. She told me that sometimes, the way men look at her, she feels like a life-support system for her breasts.

She works at a prison too, as a nurse, so you can imagine the comments she gets too. Though, there, she can write people up and they loose privelages! LOL She's come up with some fantastic retorts!!

So, you're not alone at all darlin'.

Thanks Tyger! One would think getting checked out would help your self-esteem but these guys do nothing but shatter it but making by feel less than human. I feel for your friend (though my ta-tas are nearly that big) and I hope she gets what she needs soon!

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It was for a management gig at pet-smart. I think it went well, but they have a lot of other candidates and I won't know if I even get a second interview for about a week or so.

Good lucky Hun!

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