Members sun_flower969 Posted May 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 What is one thing you absolutely need to have in a SO, besides great sex, in order for the relationship to work?For me... well see my signature! He has to be able to make me laugh I mean uncontrollable stomachache laughing! ETA: and Open communication is a must!What are yours? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted May 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 HONESTY....is my first priority Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted May 4, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 I have to say honesty and openness tie. SO and I had this talk the other day, how not telling me about something until I ask, even when I get an honest answer when asked, is not the same as him telling me in the first place.I likened it to this: He knows I have an ex-FWB and that he and I still talk, are friends and have work interactions. He also knows he has nothing to worry about. But, if ex-FWB came over to the house to say, bring me a file from work, and I didn't tell SO but rather the neighbor mentioned it in passing, he would think I was trying to hide something, whereas if I just told him, "hey dude stopped by for a minute today" then it would be no big deal.I am naturally curious and suspicious, always have been and likely always will be. I also find it hard to trust, so being open and honest with me is a must, even if it is something bad because I will find out eventually (my curious nature) and it will be much worse if I find out on my own instead of just being told in the first place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted May 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2009 What is one thing you absolutely need to have in a SO, besides great sex, in order for the relationship to work?For me... well see my signature! He has to be able to make me laugh I mean uncontrollable stomachache laughing! Honesty is a close second.What are yours?CommunicationTrustHonesty RespectProbably in that order. Oh, you said ONE thing. Damn. OK, communication - without that you'll never know about the others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted May 5, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2009 Oh, you said ONE thing. Damn. OK, communication - without that you'll never know about the others.Good point! I think I will change mine! It is so important! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kjellis Posted May 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2009 Trust Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted May 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2009 Compassion and understanding (in addition to the honesty, trust and communitcation) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2009 It's a toss up between trust and communication.....Without trust there will be no communication......If there's no communication how do I know I trust you?See my dilemma..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted May 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2009 I have to say honesty and openness tie. SO and I had this talk the other day, how not telling me about something until I ask, even when I get an honest answer when asked, is not the same as him telling me in the first place.I likened it to this: He knows I have an ex-FWB and that he and I still talk, are friends and have work interactions. He also knows he has nothing to worry about. But, if ex-FWB came over to the house to say, bring me a file from work, and I didn't tell SO but rather the neighbor mentioned it in passing, he would think I was trying to hide something, whereas if I just told him, "hey dude stopped by for a minute today" then it would be no big deal.I am naturally curious and suspicious, always have been and likely always will be. I also find it hard to trust, so being open and honest with me is a must, even if it is something bad because I will find out eventually (my curious nature) and it will be much worse if I find out on my own instead of just being told in the first place.Ms. You have said it perfectly.Trust and commitment are a must. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted May 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 6, 2009 I have to say honesty and openness tie. SO and I had this talk the other day, how not telling me about something until I ask, even when I get an honest answer when asked, is not the same as him telling me in the first place.A lie of omission is still a lie. Some people don't get that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted May 6, 2009 Report Share Posted May 6, 2009 CommunicationTrustHonesty RespectProbably in that order. Oh, you said ONE thing. Damn. OK, communication - without that you'll never know about the others.Ditto!!!! OH!!! And a nice ass is also beneficial!! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted May 6, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted May 6, 2009 A lie of omission is still a lie. Some people don't get that. THANK YOU! I feel this way, too. And it is amazing to me how people who don't think this way cannot be convinced.I thought about it and I have to say that respect ranks high for me, too. I mean, if a person really respects another, they will communicate and be open and honest, right?I seem to see a pattern here where one thing depends on another, which depends on another, etc. I guess that's why is it so difficult for us to find the perfect relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 6, 2009 A lie of omission is still a lie. Some people don't get that. Agree completely! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted May 6, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted May 6, 2009 A lie of omission is still a lie. Some people don't get that. Yep! It's called being "deceitful". Write that down! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted May 9, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 9, 2009 I think you need more than one thing. Trust and sex alone are not enough. You have to like each other; enjoy each other's company; enjoy doing things together, and not just cuz you like the same thing, but like doing whatever it is with the other person there with you; you need to have at least a few things in common. I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted May 9, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 9, 2009 i forgot one of my biggest needs: FUN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted May 9, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted May 9, 2009 i forgot one of my biggest needs: FUN!I need to be amused a bit, too. I like to laugh but don't get many chances to do it, so an SO that give me that is important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted May 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2009 Yeah, fun definitely has to be in the mix, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shariana Posted May 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2009 He HAS to be compassionate and patient. I get all out of sorts hormonally sometimes, so understanding is important....HONESTY! Gotta have it.Open mind, good communication, and a willingness to admit when he's at fault.This pretty much covers everything though: Cherish. He must cherish me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted May 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2009 This pretty much covers everything though: Cherish. He must cherish me.ohhhh that's a good one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2009 It's a toss up between trust and communication.....Without trust there will be no communication......If there's no communication how do I know I trust you?See my dilemma.....I need to amend this.....There is always more than one deal breaker...... It can't be just one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted May 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2009 TrustHonestyAble to compromise!Able to make eachother laugh!CompassionJust a few I thought of off the top of my head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted May 10, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted May 10, 2009 ohhhh that's a good one!I agree. Cherish me, hmmm ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jad20fan Posted May 16, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 16, 2009 I think communication is key. If a couple is communicating, then trust, respect, friendship, love and being cherished follow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 consider me first........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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