I considered myself very lucky when I found this forum about 6 months ago. Although I am not an “active” member, I spent hours and hours (and hours) going through various topics, reading what other members wrote, experiences they shared, tips they gave, questions they asked and answers and advices that were given to them. I have found answers to many of my questions, even questions I didn’t know I have! I have learned so much, about myself, first of all. About giving, about compromise, commitment, growing up, even love. Not to mention the Sex advices! It was a beautiful experience for me. And Howard was a big part of it! I have spent more nights than I can remember reading his posts alone. And I grew to respect him very much. This is a BIG loss for this forum. I emailed Howard and told him more or less what I wrote here, after I read that he was thinking whether he should participate any longer on this forum, thinking he chose to leave TooTimid. I am very disappointed and very sorry to see that ALL of his posts (more than 3000!) have been erased. I feel like the pleasure and joy of learning from them have been denied to me! blueberry