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I agree with Tyger. It's probably better that he bailed sooner rather than later. He has really, really bad timing, but at least you hadn't been married to him and forced to go through hell in court. There are plenty of guys who would love to have a family, regardless of the blood ties.

Another first! Last week I posted that we tried anal for the first time, and it was great. Well, we tried dp over the weekend also. I had a butt plug in and he was in my pussy. We were watching our anal pleasures collection dvd again, and he got really excited, so he came before I did. However, it was really amazing. I did finish up with my trusty dildo with balls in my pussy and the butt plug in my ass. Again, very, very good. We will definitely be doing that again! Maybe without the DVD though!

Welcome DixieChick67! It's already been said, but the best advice I can give is to let him know about your concerns. Let him know that you want to please him. Communication is the key! If he doesn't know, then he can't help you! I hope everything goes well!

My mom had a similar problem a few years ago. She had gone to college with a woman who seemed very nice, and they ended up working at the same nursing home a couple of years after they graduated. They shared a job. Mom also worked at an assisted living facility owned by the same person who owned that nursing home. The age difference was about 20 years (my mom was the older), and my mom is usually very laid-back, non-confrontational. After at least a year of mom putting up with this woman being so nice to her face and then going behind her back to their boss (the owner) and complaining about my mom. Also, the woman made mistakes in her charting, and mom would gently remind her to fix it or the correct way to do it, and she would blow up at my mom. This woman also claimed that my mom constanly made mistakes that she (the woman) had to fix, blah, blah, blah. Well, after we moved, and mom got tired of the commute, she found another job at another nursing home. They lead her to believe that she would be doing a similar job to her last one. Mainly paperwork and such, which is what my mom preferred especially since she has a bad back and shoulder. Both of which she's had surgery on. Anyway, she started working there, and immediately the CNA's gave her back-talk and refused to do what she asked. She would get a complaint at least once a week, most were made up, the rest were blown out of proportion. Also, they told her that they wanted someone who knew the laws and regulations for nursing homes, and someone who knew what the state inspector expected. When my mom found things happening that would lead to a hefty fine or even jeopardize the facility's license, she brought it to the Directory of Nursing and suggested ways to correct it. The Director yelled at her and completely ignored the suggestions. After a couple months, Mom had to quit, because the things they were doing were putting her career and license in jeopardy. She didn't want to be made their scapegoat. Fortunately, she found a great job that is treating her very well and that she enjoys. So, no, you weren't wrong. That person was in the wrong. Even though you may feel like you are running away from the problem, you might want to consider changing jobs. I don't know your situation, but do consider how this person's actions may affect your job. Don't give up hope!

I can understand the choking feeling. I have bad asthma, so anytime I feel like I can't breathe, I start to freak out. But I just pull back take a couple seconds, and start again. At first, I thought I'd have a hard time doing oral on hubby (we were both virgins before marriage), but we tried it, and I liked doing it more than he liked receiving it! I've only taken his cum in my mouth once, and I couldn't make myself swallow. I'm glad I did it, but I prefer to just get him going and then mount him. So don't give up! If taste is a factor, try some flavored lube.

Being that I only just tried anal 2 days ago, I found that I really, really enjoyed it. I posted the experience yesterday, and just thinking about it got my hot. I did get a butt plug a few months ago to get used to something "up there," but I didn't care for it at the time. My anus was already sore, so the plug didn't do much. Now that I've read more, and tried anal with hubby, I find I have a hankering for it. I'd like to try DP with hubby in pussy and plug in ass. I would never try it with two men due to the pressure of those pesky emotions. I think it would just get in the way of our marriage. Although, it does sound quite fullfilling.

Most definitely! There is no way that we could have continued without lube!

Also, I just wanted to say that I did use my finger to relax the sphincters. Also, hubby used his finger to do the same when I was lying on my back. We used lots & lots of lube and took it slow. We used a condom mainly because hubby wanted to. I think the mess factor had a lot to do with that.

Hubby has asked about anal, and we've talked about it. I was unsure, and hesitant. We tried to do it, but I was too nervous and tense to go through with it. But last night, we had a bit of an argument. He wants me to learn to drive a manual, but I don't want to. Anyway, he apologized for being a jerk, and he started kissing my neck. Also, he'd found a DVD I had that was an anal collection porn. I got it free with an order I had on another website. I'd kind of forgotten about it, and he gave me some guff about it. So while we're kissing after that tiff, he asks if I wanted to have make-up sex. Of course, the answer was yes, and then he asks if I want to watch that DVD. So we're watching it, and both getting very horny. He starts rubbing my clit while stroking his cock, and then I start stroking him. Then I get on top while he's sitting on the couch. I'm facing the TV, so my back is to him. He loves that! Then he makes me slow down because he was about to come and he wanted it to last longer. Then he has me get off, and I got my bullet. The batteries were going dead, but it was still working. I got on him again, but facing him. Again, after a couple minutes, he had me get off, so I got my rabbit, and I put some gel on my clit to make it more sensitive. I don't remember the name of it. Anyway, I gave him the remote, and knowing I was really close, he turns it on full blast. Then he took the rabbit and started pulling it out and pushing it back in really fast. I came in about 2 seconds! Then he asked if I wanted to try anal. With the DVD being anal, and me being so hot for him, I said yes. (I'd also been curious, but too nervous to go through with it.) In the past, he was the one on top, and he was trying to go to fast with not enough lube. After I'd done ALOT of reading here, I'd realized that I'd feel more comfortable if I controlled it. So I had him sit on the couch, and I faced away from him. I did get the head in, but I was still a bit tense, and my legs were cramping up. So he laid down on the couch, and I straddled him facing him. I got him in a little further, but my legs cramped again. So he had me lay on the floor on my back, and we lubed up some more. He slowly entered, and I had him stop and stay. He rubbed my clit again, and I watched the couple going at it on the DVD. He then went in a little more, but we needed more lube. His cock popped out, but it was easier to get it in again. He got all the way in, and started thrusting, I had him slow down, and put some more lube on. Then he started again, and at first it felt kind of strange, but quickly started feeling good. I was surprised at how good it felt! He came inside of me, and we'd used a condom so it wasn't messy. I've been converted. I think we will make this a treat. I don't think that it will be a regular thing for us, but I do think we will do it again. Thanks to everyone for the advice! Especially Mikayla for the great tips and advice!

I'm also totally straight, married and monogamous. However, when I was a teenager, my female cousin and I experimented. We both were just curious about sex in general, and so it was fairly natural for us to start kissing & touching each other. I do not in any way consider myself a lesbian or even bi-sexual/bi-curious. So don't worry that this will "turn you gay." You two may discover that you want to be together or you may decide that was great, but now the lust is gone. As far as toys, I do not have experience with using toys with another woman, but I'd say just try out different things, and take it easy. Don't get stressed out, you are experimenting. Just do what feels natural, and try it out.

I'm pretty open to any that you've found to work well and quietly. It just put up those two toys as the ones I've found and want to know if they're any good, and also as an example of the kind of thing I'm looking for. Thanks!

Good question! I guess it doesn't matter to me in general, but I do tend to use my realistically shaped ones more. Although, one is clear and one is pink. But really, the most important thing is that it gets me off!

I totally know where you are coming from! The best way to do it is very, very gently. Explain to him that you'd like to try something new with him. Make the first toy very UN-intimidating in case he's worried that you'll like the toy better. In no way imply that the sex is dull or unsatisfying as that will only make him defensive and less able to perform well, if you know what I'm sayin'. Once he's used to that, you can slowly add to the collection. Or if he's really excited about it you can add as much as you like, but be sure to include him on your path to enlightenment. If you don't tell him about it, he'll feel like you've been lying to him and will worry that he's not pleasing you. It'll only be trouble. Believe me, I know! I was so worried about how hubby would react that I kept putting off telling him that I ordered a dildo. It turned out to be bigger than I expected, and I accidentally left it out because I'd gotten a phone call, and then I'd forgotten that it was still left in plain sight. Well, hubby came home, and found this dildo standing tall & proud. He came out with it in his hand asking, "What is this?!?" He didn't take it so well at first, but I think he's coming around now 'cause he's watched me use it a couple times and he's used some toys on me also.

I'm trying to find a really good remote control egg that is very quiet but powerful. It would be nice if it looked good too, but that is not as important as the rest. I want to be able to give hubby the remote so he can control it across the room in a restaurant, movie, party, whatever, and it won't be heard by everyone. Has anyone tried the Dr. Laura Berman - Cleopatra or the Silk Touch Vibrating Egg?

While most of my "erotica" experience has been with really bad, old, collection porn, I have seen some newer stuff. I have to say that, for the most part, I prefer hardcore sex scenes to more plot based porn. I haven't seen a good quality plot porn yet, but I'd like to. The only one that I did see was really boring, bad dialogue, confusing, blah.... I prefer the "real" porn. You know, where they actually look and sound like they are enjoying it and not just playing it up. I saw a Girls Gone Wild where two best friends stripped and then used toys to get each other off, and I liked that. It was more natural and arousing. Like you could tell it was real. That was hot, hot, hot. I don't like a lot of foreplay, but I do like some.

Thank God! Or is it Rob? Heh... At least it made me go back to work.

Welcome, now I have to go find those dp posts you mentioned.

Wooo, UK! I've always wanted to go there. Born & raised or transplant?

Take it easy, take it slow. It might help to watch a porn to get the blood flowing. Most of all: don't rush it! Be relaxed and if it happens, great! If not, try again later. My hubby had problems getting and staying hard just after we got married. We were both virgins until the wedding night, and we think that it was the combined stress of all the changes and overcoming the programming that we weren't supposed to have sex. So you might be experiencing something similar with expecting pain. Take your time, it'll come. (Heh, pun unintended)

Congratulations! It's good to see couples on the site. Welcome!

Wow you're brave! I'd never be able to do that! *blush* Love the hair! Enough with the exclamations! Okay! I'll stop now! Sorry, I must be peppy today, 'cause I've been using exclamations for everything. So, yeah...welcome to the forum...

Welcome! You've come to the right place. I'm an introvert too (I took those profiling tests in Psych class), and it is soooo much easier to talk about stuff on the forum than in person. I am way more open here than I am even with my best friend! And I've known her since I was a baby (she's my cousin too!), and we did all sorts of experimenting. So if I was to be open with anyone besides hubby, she's it. Enough about me! If you're trying to reply to brandyfan (Vicky), just hit reply and then click after and then type your answer. Or you can delete the info that is contained within the quote.

Oh, I am so jealous! I applied to be a reviewer, but no luck yet! Congratulations on the status, and welcome to the forum!

So how does that work? Welcome to the forum, by the way!

This trend is only going set kids up to expect (1) everything works out just for them or (2) it doesn't matter how good you are or how hard you work, so take it easy and don't work hard. I grew up in a family that expected the kids to do age appropriate chores, and if you didn't do those chores, you didn't get the reward. No allowance, etc. My brothers were 11 years and 9 years older than me, so they were better at everything, and that was okay! It taught me to always try harder next time. They rarely gave me any slack when we played games, so I had to try hard to beat them. It made me better. Otherwise, I would have thought, "Oh wow, I beat them! I am so good, I don't even have to try." And then, later, I would have realized that I actually sucked and would have been so crushed that I wouldn't have played that game again. Do your kids a favor: Set rules, punish them appropriately when they break them, and give them a guide to better themselves. If that means they have to lose a game of basketball, so be it. There is truth in the saying that "it builds character" and "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger." Teach them to deal with the disappointments and to be a good sport when the win!