shdowulf39

I guess mine would be busty women,and what you do with them

It's human nature to be nervous or apprehensive.First off your doing something you have never done before.And the fact it's been one of your fantasies probably had made you even more nervous.You want this to be a pleasurable experience.But you don't know if it actually will.It's normal to be nervous.Take a deep breath,relax and enjoy it. As with anything.You get what you pay for.I personally have no use for hand cuffs.I much prefer an nice set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs.You should be able to pick up both pairs for around 125 dollars.Mine are lined.Have a buckle closeure.Are about one and one half to two inches wide.To me they are sexier and not as cold as hand cuffs. Good luck with your play time.

It's human nature to be nervous or apprehensive.First off your doing something you have never done before.And the fact it's been one of your fantasies probably had made you even more nervous.You want this to be a pleasurable experience.But you don't know if it actually will.It's normal to be nervous.Take a deep breath,relax and enjoy it. As with anything.You get what you pay for.I personally have no use for hand cuffs.I much prefer an nice set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs.You should be able to pick up both pairs for around 125 dollars.Mine are lined.Have a buckle closeure.Are about one and one half to two inches wide.To me they are sexier and not as cold as hand cuffs. Good luck with your play time.

It's human nature to be nervous or apprehensive.First off your doing something you have never done before.And the fact it's been one of your fantasies probably had made you even more nervous.You want this to be a pleasurable experience.But you don't know if it actually will.It's normal to be nervous.Take a deep breath,relax and enjoy it. As with anything.You get what you pay for.I personally have no use for hand cuffs.I much prefer an nice set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs.You should be able to pick up both pairs for around 125 dollars.Mine are lined.Have a buckle closeure.Are about one and one half to two inches wide.To me they are sexier and not as cold as hand cuffs. Good luck with your play time.

If both of you sit down and discuss it,and come to the same conclusion that it's ok.Then no it isn't cheating.My SO and I discussed it before we got together full time.We both came to the same conclusion.We wanted a one on one realtionship with no extras. I don't think I could ever be in a totally committed relationship where on party wanted some extra on the side.Just doesn't work for me.Call me selfish or what ever.I couldn't have a committed relationship like that.

who cares!!!!!

First let me say that this lifestyle is as diverse as the people in it.What works for one set might not work for another set.With that said the one underlying theme of all the people in it is.You are either dominant(master/dom)or you are a submissive(slave/sub). Some people live the lifestyle 24/7.While others have certain times they are in the lifestyle roles.I personally have never lived it in a 24/7 capacity.Nor do I think I would like it that way.I have tried it for a week and found it to be too taxing.At the end of the week I was totally exausted.Now for some people that is the only way they can live the lifestyle.That is their choice.As with everything in this lifestyle it is a choice to begin with.That is where communication and trust come in.As with every relatioinship there is trust and communication.But with a bdsm realtionship there has to be even more trust and comunication. Everyone has to find their own nitch in this reationship.Some will evolve into masters and slaves.Some into doms and subs.Others will use it in a role playing capacity.All this is learned over time.Either with the same partner or different ones. Befor getting into this lifestyle I would reccomend a thorough study.Read as much as you can on the lifestyle.Join a web site devoted to the lifestyle.Try and find a munch in your area and attend it for a while to see how people interact with one another.Get to know a couple and talk extensively with them.Do alot of soul searching and decide what you role in this lifestyle will be.Also decide how far you really want to go in this lifestyle. Good luck and happy hunting.

I agree he might have ED.There is another possibility also.His testerone(spelling)level might be low.It happens frequently in men after fifty.What got me to thinking about this is.He could live without sex.Testerone levels have everything to do with sex in men.If they are low his sex drive just doesn't kick in.

I have been in the bdsm lifestyle for some time now.I would think it almost impossible to only have part of a 24/7 relationship.Where do you draw the line?Where does punishment fit in?With a full 24/7 relationship everything is quite clear.You know if you make a mistake there is some form of punishmemt involved.With a part time 24/7 I just don't see it working.For either of you. Maybe the best thing would be to sit down and draw up a contract.Both of you list all the things you want.Also list what certain punishments should be. Wow!You picked a toughy.Especially if neither of you have had any real time experience in bdsm. Good luck.

Is it a fear of rejection,or a fear of seeming perverted?So much has changed as far as sex goes these last 30 years.What was once taboo 30 years ago is taken for granted now. Everyone is different as far as bringing up something.Especially sexually.We still seem to be a little benind in that accord.Get to know your partner.That is the main thing.Then you will know how they handle new sexual ideas.But the best way is to let them know you want to be more creative.Or as my SO says.I don't want married sex anymore.Maybe bring up the subject of role play.That can open up all sorts of new ideas.Maybe you give a role lay senerio and then have your partner give one.That way neither one of you feels uncomfortable.

You bet it would. Would it make you hot if...I blindfolded you and whispered in your ear what I was going to do to you?All the while running my hands all over you.

As far as whether it's about pain or the excitement of having them on...that is up to the individual Ladylove.Dep[ends what your mind set is.Also depends on what helps get you off.Some people get off on a certain amount of pain.Others it's the mind set of something kinky.

January,February,and March I call them the dog days of winter.

Possibly.....I'd have to know them really well would you ever have an affair with a co-worker

ladies first......

would have to post in the bdsm fetishes catagory to do my fantasy.

yes would it make you hot to do my fantasy with me

I think your post waa quite appropriate for this forum.As everyone knows there is no such thing as a dumb question.just dumb people who don't ask questions when they don't know the answer. now in this lifestyle there are nemerious ways to learn.through reading books and articles.through forums.either on this site or better yet on a bdsm site.through munches and other lifestyle get togethers.it's just like anything else.it takes time to get to know what you are doing and feel comfortable with what you are doing. anyone can give them selves the title of Master.few if any really are.there is more to being a Master than a title alone.and a real master is not made overnight.nor does he ever stop leariing and growing.and a true Master preceives his sub/slave as the most important gift there is.for they alone make him Master.without them what is he a master of?

whatever makes you explode would it make you hot if i told you to get on your knees in front of me while giviing me a bj

no....not in the winter time would you ever have sex in the middle of a lake in an open boat in the middle of the day

first off new master to be.sounds like you don't have any experience with this. go out and invest (around 55$ or so) in a good set of leather wrist cuffs.make sure they have a D ring attached to them.and they are not velcro,but the kind that you buckle on.then get some sort of quick release that you can attach through the D rings.that way you can transfer them from front to back alot easier than tying someones hands.it's also alot faster. also for another 55$ or so you can purchase another good leather set of ankle cuffs.both of mine together cost me around 120$.I have not seen anything on too timid that I personally would use.I personally don't care for any other color but black. there is alot more to being a true Master than having someone on her knees giving someone a blow job.

not on your life....lol....sometimes more is better would you ever buy a strip pole and do one for your SO?

if she was attractive to me and I was single ....sure why not. would you ever think of having a 3 some or 4 some?

I agree with Chuch.Sounds like she has checked out memtally,emotionally,and physically for some reason.Either that or she has checked in somewhere else. Don't know your situation.But you need to get a full time job that makes enough money that you would be able to support yourself and the kids.That way she wouldn't be able to hold a gun to your head(wouldn't be in complete control).That way you would be able to give her some hard options.Like,right now she does not want or think you two need counceling.Thjat way you would be able to give her an untimatum.Either we are going to try it my way for a while or it's the high way for me and the kids. First and foremost I would try to get the both of you to counceling.If all else fails you are not in a good relationship both physically and emotionally for you and the kids.Better to get out now that later.

well my SO already received her engagement ring(got that as a Xmas present).so I would guess the flowers are due to arrive.only problem is she has to work that day so they will show up that day and dinner will be at a different time.