Kace

I initiate every single time. It has been that way for about 6 years now. I'll typically express interest by caressing her with some progressively steamier kisses thrown in for good measure. I'll gauge from that if she's interested enough to respond or if she tells me she's too tired/headache/whatever. So far she's usually agreeable as long as I do most of the work.

I love this thread so much.

This isn't just a guy thing. I'm a guy and I'm the one that wants to take time and savor the experience. Find a time where you can eliminate all other distractions and just bluntly show him what you like.

Oh, Hegel isn't that bad! Try slogging through Heidegger! My goal for this year was to read as many banned books as possible, the saucier the better. I finished D. H. Lawrence's "Women in Love" not long ago and wasn't impressed. Which is too bad because "Lady Chatterley's Lover" was great. I've just started "Memoirs of Fanny Hill". http://en.wikipedia....wiki/Fanny_Hill The book was written in 1748 and it certainly shows - the grammar and word choices reflect the period. In a way though, it makes the sex scenes that much richer. It isn't at all like the vapid fluff most erotic literature today is. Very much worth reading! (And if you have an e-reader, nobody knows what you're looking at!)

I think the idea of getting pegged is insanely hot. Really, be comfortable enough with yourself and your own sexuality to try it at least once. A prostate involved orgasm is something you'll never forget.

Candlelight. Lots and lots of candlelight. I need those visual queues when going down so I know if what I'm doing is right or needs to be modified.

I heartily support this new holiday.

Any of the Aneros toys are good as is the Nexus Glide. Which toy will work best is a question of how he's built and where his sweet spot is located. If it's higher up, get a Glide. If it's not as far in, the Aneros MGX is preferable. The Aneros Maximus and Prograsm are my favorites but they are quite a bit larger than the rest.

Fat? What fat? I think they're quite lovely.

Normally I'd use the purity test as a checklist of things to do to lower my score. But I'm at the point where if I go any lower I'd be getting into some stuff that personally repulses me. I think I'll stick with where I am thanks.

48.8%. I've been naughty, I need a spanking.

I don't mind menstrual sex but we both have one condition - put a towel down so the bedsheets don't get ruined. The upside to that time of the month is that my wife's sex drive is at its peak though the birth control pills have clipped that considerably. I prefer not going down on her when she's bleeding but it doesn't matter as she doesn't want my head there anyway. All in all, it's not a problem.

I'm currently in love with a Ballerina. Yes, she really did study ballet.

My own personal opinion - within the past few decades, marriage has morphed into something it has never been before. It used to be a business arrangement of sorts that tied families together into financial alliances. Love wasn't a part of it back then as the accepted purpose was monetary, poliitical and reproductive. If you look back as far as Roman times and slightly futher ahead to the Renaissance, there wasn't a HUGE stigma place on "cheating". A marriage solidified a household and provided a setting to raise children but it was quietly accepted that there were sexual flings outside of the household. (At least for men - if a woman was discovered in an affair the consequences were swift and brutal) From what I see, the modern day strict adherance to serial monogamy and marriage as a sacred institution is a very recent construct and one that has its roots in the Puritan ethics. Do I think marriage is obsolete? Not quite. I think it is being forced into something that's nearly unattainable in this age of instant gratification and expectation of sexual fulfillment as a right. How logical is it to expect that there is a single other differently gendered person out there who will fulfill you in every conceivable way - sexually, monetarily, emotionally, spiritually... It's really absurd. It's no wonder why more marriages fail at such a high rate.

When I saw that last episode I thought - Who the hell has a disposable $40,000!? And how did his wife not notice that much money missing? C'mon, that's like a new Lexus! Even after all that the escort kicks him out in the end.

I'm a male in my 30's and I'm perfectly capable of relationships. In fact, I've been in one for 13 years now. And I've got a full head of hair. Why is being with a non-bad boy so overwhelming?

Aw, that's great to hear. It's nice to be validated once in a while.

I think I could be happy with about 3-4 times a week as long at least half of those times aren't "quickies". I definitely prefer long, drawn out passion where we're both in tune with each other. How often does sex happen? Typically, once every 2 - 3 months. All "quickies".

Happiest. Mac. Ever.

Short answer: Do I notice my wife's tiny imperfections? Sure. But it doesn't diminish what I feel for her nor does it impede my enjoyment of sex. Even supermodels don't really look like their magazine photos - they've been made up and photoshopped. I prefer the natural look anyway - it says "here I am, I'm real". +1 on Wendy's comment - confidence and enthusiasm are definitely my aphrodisiac!

Guy here - there may be another aspect to this. I have no qualms using any technique at my disposal to increase my partner's pleasure. However, I've shied away from doing manual stimulation because it never gets the desired response. What I usually hear is that I'm not touching the right way - either something is too sensitive, or not sensitive at all, or I've found just the right combination to drive her wild, BUT she doesn't want to climax from fingering. I can ask for feedback but it tends to come in the form of complaints rather than constructive criticism. If a guy hears enough negative response to what he's doing, he'll tend to stop doing it. Not saying this is your situation, just a possible scenario.

Smoking will do it, or smelling like smoke. Strong body odor, bad hygiene, overall slovenliness. Excess pubic hair - I'm talking about the kind that looks like you're smuggling a racoon in your thong! It doesn't have to be bald, just neat and trimmed. I guess that goes back to my earlier turnoffs and I imagine they are nearly universal. To flip this on its head, the things that really turn me on: Taking initiative. A woman's earthy scent while I'm going down on her. Oh, and "factory air" - that little triangular gap between her thighs and just south of heaven: http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lpd5550lzx1qhdaajo1_500.jpg

Is the show back on? I noticed my DVR just stopped recording - seemed like the season was over.

A certain gal comes to mind but I'm not sure I could define her as "worst lover", - that implies she is implicitly bad at sex. More aptly, she was simply apathetic about it and that translated into a lack of effort, enthusiasm, and creativity. She would never make the first move. Once I got things rolling, warming her up and going down on her until she came first, she would lay there. She would never go down on me, never so much as touch me of her own volition; no caresses, no playful innuendo, nothing other than staying flat on her back with her hands behind her head. The effort was all mine from start to finish. Anything other than the one position she deemed "normal" was met with a flurry of complaints. To say sex felt creepy is an understatement. At some point I gave up and stopped initiating - being frustrated was a damn sight better than a limp fish fuck. I'm not a demanding lover, I only ask that my partner meet me half way.

In my personal experience, real female orgasms tend to be accompanied by flush red faces and shuddering. Every woman is different but I can only attest to what I've witnessed - the real thing is a wonderful sight to behold.