Members juliesjoy Posted January 21, 2023 Members Report Share Posted January 21, 2023 I want to be more vocal during sex and ask for certain things for my man to do to me, but I seem to be very quiet. I guess I get stage fright. Any tips would be appreciated 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rio Posted January 21, 2023 Members Report Share Posted January 21, 2023 Get a video of some of things that you're interested in and have you and him watch it. Then say how much you would enjoy him doing that to you. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Terry in NV Posted June 13, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 13, 2023 I would ask him if he would like try something that makes you really feel excited.My wife will say ,yes thats the spot or I would like? Ask what he might like ,you never know he might like what your thinking of or he might like something also.We talk outside the bedroom also.Have fun😁 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Dancer Posted June 14, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 14, 2023 Ask him if there is something HE wants YOU to do that would excite HIM. Not many men would say no to that (but there are some - more on that below). If he says yes, that should improve your sexual encounters, and at some point, unless he's a real asshole, he should return the favor and ask you the same question. That's your chance to tell him what you want. And don't hold back! The only way this could fail is if he does say no to your initial question, . If that happens, your only hope is to find a new sexual partner. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Hoggy Posted June 14, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 14, 2023 Another thing you can do is, we all have desires that we don't speak of but "know" what our SO is interested in. It might have even been implied. (In my case it was anal play. Giving and receiving) Ask him if he would like to try whatever that thing is for him and take it from there. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members michelleddd Posted June 14, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 14, 2023 On 1/20/2023 at 7:07 PM, juliesjoy said: I want to be more vocal during sex and ask for certain things for my man to do to me, but I seem to be very quiet. I guess I get stage fright. Any tips would be appreciated Just start slow, talk about how he’s making you feel, soon you’ll be telling him what you want to do to him I agree the others about using porn to show him what turns you on which in turn opens up the conversation. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Susan James Posted June 15, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 If you want someone to listen, whisper. It helps if he is balls deep in the saddle and you have a vice grip for a vagina. That will get their attention. Like they say, when you have them by the balls their hearts and minds will follow. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members juliesjoy Posted June 15, 2023 Author Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 Thx everyone, ive experienced all kinds of lovers this past year, many young'ums, some my age, but no more old-old men lol (husband was 14 yrs older, thats what i mean by old-old!!! Lol) n I hv started being more vocal during sex, not with all of them, but a cpl n it's given me more pleasure, telling them Fuckers, what n where n for how long lol this forum has really gotten me out of my shell!!! Thx again ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rio Posted June 15, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 Good for you Julie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted June 15, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 I know what you mean JuliesJoy. Since joining this forum I’ve come out of my shell too. I just need to find a regular fuck buddy.Good for you!!🌞 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Nakedbynight Posted June 15, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 Absolutely go to town. Don't beat around the bush. My lover used a special vocabulary to untrash the smutt talk. Don't start out using porn talk. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Nakedbynight Posted June 15, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 Not to hijacke your thread but my latest lover . Completely destroyed my Ed and performance anxiety by constantly talking and keeping me distracted from thinking about what was going on.i don't know where she learned this or read it. She kept talking soft porn, asking me questions, kept me totally distracted. I felt like superman after. Girls I hope you get something from this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted June 15, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2023 1 hour ago, Nakedbynight said: Absolutely go to town. Don't beat around the bush. My lover used a special vocabulary to untrash the smutt talk. Don't start out using porn talk. I think it depends on the individual and making each other comfortable.🌞 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Susan James Posted June 18, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 18, 2023 On 6/15/2023 at 12:44 PM, Nakedbynight said: Not to hijacke your thread but my latest lover . Completely destroyed my Ed and performance anxiety by constantly talking and keeping me distracted from thinking about what was going on.i don't know where she learned this or read it. She kept talking soft porn, asking me questions, kept me totally distracted. I felt like superman after. Girls I hope you get something from this. You should have told her not to talk when her mouth was full. Some people have no manners. Like Lonesome George said you talk too much. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members arawdicah Posted August 27, 2023 Members Report Share Posted August 27, 2023 Yes, but when you whisper they listen. Then you have their minds very seat of sexually and all that follows! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members khorse Posted August 28, 2023 Members Report Share Posted August 28, 2023 On 6/15/2023 at 5:17 AM, juliesjoy said: Thx everyone, ive experienced all kinds of lovers this past year, many young'ums, some my age, but no more old-old men lol (husband was 14 yrs older, thats what i mean by old-old!!! Lol) n I hv started being more vocal during sex, not with all of them, but a cpl n it's given me more pleasure, telling them Fuckers, what n where n for how long lol this forum has really gotten me out of my shell!!! Thx again ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ easy now, at 63 i am old (not old old) but still get it done,,lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Dancer Posted September 21, 2023 Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2023 On 6/15/2023 at 1:42 PM, Lonely and divorced said: I think it depends on the individual and making each other comfortable.🌞 True. Words are so powerful, especially when being whispered into someone's ear. And I guess I can see how they could be distracting if not done with a distinct understanding of the immediate situation. Sexy talk is an art form which takes experience to master. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members iwhere4u Posted October 26, 2023 Members Report Share Posted October 26, 2023 I failed to mention what I meant by old-old at even 15 yrs older than myself. I was sexless for the 7 yrs leading up to my dear husband's departure exactly 4 yrs ago (2019) n it's with a sad regret I couldn't help him anymore his ED got so bad bc he was using dope to live his days as he pleased, till 2018, when he found out it was stage 4 lung cancer, made it for 1 more year before chemo Dr ordered 12 liters of saline to be administrated in 5 days but after 10 bags on day 4 he couldn't recover n ended up going to hospital where a wk of oxygen wasn't enuff n sent him to hospice n passed 2 days later! That was Oct 25 2019 he had just turned 69 on Oct 23....so only reason I ever labeled someone as old-old, is bc of the erectile dysfunction he suffered from, n all in all I waited another year (so 8 total) before trusting someone again with my imitate desires! I mean he deserved that much since we were together for 26.5 yrs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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