Flirting

[danielsvixen]

OK I'm not sure if i'm more embaresed for myself or the family that raised me... I never learned to flirt growing up.... (I just figured it out for myself a few days ago and it's really bothering me). It bothers me because I have two daughters who I want to grow up healthy and accepting of themselves. I figure I can't teach them what I don't know so I better get busy learning! This is the best place I know of for advice and acceptance.

Thanks in advance for your help.

[Mikayla1]

So, if I am reading this post correctly, you want to know how to flirt?

Well, nowadays, it is a little harder to flirt than it used to be because of all the sexual harrassment problems and all the sickos out there that take a little good natured comment out of context and think that "hey, nice butt" translates to "I want to suck your cock!" It is interesting how our times have changed and how both men and women have to be so careful about what they say in mixed company.

Flirting is so much fun - but to answer your question the best I can - I really have to know who you want to know how to flirt with (or to teach your daughters to flirt with!) If it is a boyfriend, someone you are already dating - that is much easier. If it is someone who you WANT to date, and haven't approached yet, that is harder to do. Let me give you an example of each:

GUY YOU ARE DATING ALREADY, NO SEXUAL CONTACT BEYOND KISSING HAS OCCURRED (ADULT FLIRTING):

You go out to lunch somewhere, you are sitting together at a table. Sit sideways in the chair, legs crossed so he can see your leg. You dangle your shoe on the end of your foot and kind of play with it there, while bouncing your foot slowly back and forth. If his hand is on the table, take it gently in yours and run your finger from his wrist slowly up his middle finger then back down while talking to him and looking directly into his eyes. Ask him what he thinks about lingerie, does he prefer thongs, g-strings or cheeky panties. Ask him if he likes sensual massages, showering with his lovers, etc. When your food comes, let go of his hand and eat, but keep up with the foot dangle - it keeps men off balance. ALWAYS go to the ladies room after eating and spritz some perfume on so you smell "different" than when you first met up. Come back to the table, but before you sit down, stop by his side, give him a small nibble on his ear and whisper "thanks for lunch (dinner)" in his ear and sit down.

If this guy isn't ready to kiss you passionately after you leave the restaurant, then he is dead!

GUY YOU WANT TO DATE (ADULT): WARNING, TAKES CONFIDENCE!

Let us say this guy is someone you see frequently in a lunch area where you work. He is not in your office, but in a place people gather to eat lunch. (I won't say bar, because, well I don't want to go there) Anyway, you have noticed him and you want to meet him, and want to flirt with him. Dress nicely - skirt, heels, lower cut blouse, jewelry that goes into your cleavage. Wear a nice scent - something memorable. Towards the end of lunch time, not the beginning (men like eating too much ) walk up to his table CONFIDENTLY and just put your hand gently on his shoulder as you stand sort of behind him, say "hey, I notice you here all the time, you are one handsome (or sexy) guy" then WALK AWAY IN THE DIRECTION WHERE HE CAN WATCH YOU. Do not look back, just keep walking.

Now, the next time you see him there at lunch (you may want to skip a day or two, be myserious) you also dress nicely. He may come up to you. If he doesn't. You can go back up to him, and say "About the other day, it occured to me, I hope I didn't embarrass you, but I am a woman who just says what she means, and I had to tell you that I find you so sexy." At this point, he will either invite you to sit, or tell you he is flattered but he has a girlfriend.

This approach will work with people in your office or workplace too, as long as your find the right place to make the approaches.

Now, for your girls, to teach them to flirt, it is all about confidence, being direct, being tactful, sexy, but not over the top. They have to be appropriate for their age. Telling a guy he is cute, is OK. They have to be confident and maintain the control. Part of the fun of flirting is being in control of the situation. You have to expect the rejection too, sometimes. My experience with these approaches has been success every time....

Now, if you want more specific ideas, please let me know!

Mikayla

[Mikayla1]

What Howard has suggested here is not exactly about flirting, but more about what to wear and the ins and outs of "shopping for your figure" which is, part of the whole appearance. What he said here:

If they see a broad smile and you looking back into their eyes, they know you caught them checking you out. That is the time to introduce yourself. If he is your lover, or husband, walk up to him, and whisper something like, " If you like what you see, you can play with me all you want tonight!" Then kiss him lightly, while you brush the back of your hand, or fingers over his cock. Keep your body between your hand and his body and no one else will notice. He will.

is a little less like "flirting" and a little more like a sexual advance. Now, if you want ideas on how to make sexual advances, I will also be more than happy to give you some ideas, but I assumed, perhaps incorrectly, that you were referring to a more innocent type of advance, called flirting.

Also, Howard did make a very good point - about smiling. Smiles are very, very important! You should always be smiling. However, I do not know if a man will truly notice your smile before your breasts or your ass, but hey, if a good smile could really do that, then it is definitely worth a try! I do think that a happy, smiling face does draw attention up and away from other things - but men will be boys, and they do notice the curves - sorry but they do!

So, there are my extra 5 cents!

Mikayla

[danielsvixen]

So, if I am reading this post correctly, you want to know how to flirt?

Well, nowadays, it is a little harder to flirt than it used to be because of all the sexual harrassment problems and all the sickos out there that take a little good natured comment out of context and think that "hey, nice butt" translates to "I want to suck your cock!" It is interesting how our times have changed and how both men and women have to be so careful about what they say in mixed company.

Flirting is so much fun - but to answer your question the best I can - I really have to know who you want to know how to flirt with (or to teach your daughters to flirt with!) If it is a boyfriend, someone you are already dating - that is much easier. If it is someone who you WANT to date, and haven't approached yet, that is harder to do. Let me give you an example of each:

GUY YOU ARE DATING ALREADY, NO SEXUAL CONTACT BEYOND KISSING HAS OCCURRED (ADULT FLIRTING):

You go out to lunch somewhere, you are sitting together at a table. Sit sideways in the chair, legs crossed so he can see your leg. You dangle your shoe on the end of your foot and kind of play with it there, while bouncing your foot slowly back and forth. If his hand is on the table, take it gently in yours and run your finger from his wrist slowly up his middle finger then back down while talking to him and looking directly into his eyes. Ask him what he thinks about lingerie, does he prefer thongs, g-strings or cheeky panties. Ask him if he likes sensual massages, showering with his lovers, etc. When your food comes, let go of his hand and eat, but keep up with the foot dangle - it keeps men off balance. ALWAYS go to the ladies room after eating and spritz some perfume on so you smell "different" than when you first met up. Come back to the table, but before you sit down, stop by his side, give him a small nibble on his ear and whisper "thanks for lunch (dinner)" in his ear and sit down.

If this guy isn't ready to kiss you passionately after you leave the restaurant, then he is dead!

GUY YOU WANT TO DATE (ADULT): WARNING, TAKES CONFIDENCE!

Let us say this guy is someone you see frequently in a lunch area where you work. He is not in your office, but in a place people gather to eat lunch. (I won't say bar, because, well I don't want to go there) Anyway, you have noticed him and you want to meet him, and want to flirt with him. Dress nicely - skirt, heels, lower cut blouse, jewelry that goes into your cleavage. Wear a nice scent - something memorable. Towards the end of lunch time, not the beginning (men like eating too much ) walk up to his table CONFIDENTLY and just put your hand gently on his shoulder as you stand sort of behind him, say "hey, I notice you here all the time, you are one handsome (or sexy) guy" then WALK AWAY IN THE DIRECTION WHERE HE CAN WATCH YOU. Do not look back, just keep walking.

Now, the next time you see him there at lunch (you may want to skip a day or two, be myserious) you also dress nicely. He may come up to you. If he doesn't. You can go back up to him, and say "About the other day, it occured to me, I hope I didn't embarrass you, but I am a woman who just says what she means, and I had to tell you that I find you so sexy." At this point, he will either invite you to sit, or tell you he is flattered but he has a girlfriend.

This approach will work with people in your office or workplace too, as long as your find the right place to make the approaches.

Now, for your girls, to teach them to flirt, it is all about confidence, being direct, being tactful, sexy, but not over the top. They have to be appropriate for their age. Telling a guy he is cute, is OK. They have to be confident and maintain the control. Part of the fun of flirting is being in control of the situation. You have to expect the rejection too, sometimes. My experience with these approaches has been success every time....

Now, if you want more specific ideas, please let me know!

Mikayla

Mikayla,

I am married so I will he will be my object of attetion. My girls are 13 1/2 and 20. I have been watching them this past week and they are doing well for themselves (thanks to my mother and sister in-law). So this lesson is for me to grow and my hubby to enjoy.

What Howard has suggested here is not exactly about flirting, but more about what to wear and the ins and outs of "shopping for your figure" which is, part of the whole appearance. What he said here:

is a little less like "flirting" and a little more like a sexual advance. Now, if you want ideas on how to make sexual advances, I will also be more than happy to give you some ideas, but I assumed, perhaps incorrectly, that you were referring to a more innocent type of advance, called flirting.

Also, Howard did make a very good point - about smiling. Smiles are very, very important! You should always be smiling. However, I do not know if a man will truly notice your smile before your breasts or your ass, but hey, if a good smile could really do that, then it is definitely worth a try! I do think that a happy, smiling face does draw attention up and away from other things - but men will be boys, and they do notice the curves - sorry but they do!

So, there are my extra 5 cents!

Mikayla

Mikayla, I would love it if you sent me your ideas on making "sexual advances".

[Mikayla1]

Although I think that it is true that a smile makes women more appealing....there is something to be said about a sultry look...think about the front of a porn box...those women are not "smiling" but they are hot damn sexy!

Just my opinion!

Mikayla

[telecom69]

Although I think that it is true that a smile makes women more appealing....there is something to be said about a sultry look...think about the front of a porn box...those women are not "smiling" but they are hot damn sexy!

Just my opinion!

Mikayla

I agree with Howard. When my gf is naked and has a warm appealing smile, that is the bomb! Sometimes the simplest things are the most sexy.

Telecom

[crazy1]

I have to go with Mikayla on this one guys. I love to see my lady smile, but that is in one of two situations in regards to sex. #1) She has just received the most satisfaction I can give her and she is basking in the glow of several orgasms and #2) is when she first sees my member. I love to see her smile when she looks down, that tells me that she is all the more excited about what is to come(you can take that pun or leave it), and that she loves my naked body. I have to tell you that I am in no great shape, but I love that she can smile and tell me that I am hot to her. Other than that, she has wonderful bedroom eyes and a great look of come over here and gimme what I am in desperate need of. You. That to me is a much better aphorodisiac than a smile. Now, if we are flirting, yes a smile goes a long way, but I am not to complex, I notice the curves first, and face second. When it comes to making a sexual choice, I always want a woman with curves. I know all women smile, not all have the body I find sexy.

So a smile is not the sexiest part of a woman, I think it entirely depends on the woman.

That is how this man thinks about women.

Crazy1

[Mikayla1]

I was just wondering, when men sit around and talk about women they have slept with, seen on the street, started to date, etc. Is it the SMILE they talk about or the TITS, ASS, PUSSY, ETC.. I don' think men say, Hey Howard, are you a "crooked smile or a straight smile man" HELL NO, they say are you a Tit or ass man!

A smile is a nice feature, it means the woman likes you, maybe wants to flirt with you...but it is NOT the first thing, nor last thing a man notices about a woman. Telecom is right, it is a sexy enhancement!

Mikayla

[Mikayla1]

Now, I was asked a while ago to discuss sexual advances for the original poster.....so I will here and now:

Making sexual advances is sooooo much fun...especially if you are married because you have a safe zone there of not being rejected (most of the time)!

One of my favorite sexual advances that I do with my hb is this. Usually at night he sits on the couch with his laptop doing his work. I will strip down to either nothing, or to a sexy outfit. I will step out into the room in front of him and place my foot on the side of him and ask him "you know what I am thinking?" The computer usually goes down in a hot second!

Or, if he is sitting watching TV, no computer, I will straddle him and kiss his neck and whisper "I am so wet....want to taste?"

The advances don't have o be so forceful, you can just try grabbing his pants and sticking your hand down his pants for a quick "squeeze" and saying something like "I will make that hard later!"

Peeking in on him when he is in the shower, or joining him in there is a wonderful way to get started.

Or, you could wake him up with a blowjob....that is a very direct advance!

Basically, any indication that you want sex, in any cute, sexy, suggestive manner is a sexual advance. Playing with his leg or crotch at the dinner table, blowing in his ear as he talks on the phone to his mother, grabbing his ass in the grocery store....there are a million ways from easy to well, getting naked and saying "Let's go do it!"

Your comfort level will determine what you want!

Good luck!

Mikayla

[crazy1]

I respectfully disagree. Men, in Guy World, rarely if ever tell other men what they like about anything. Men worry about what other men will think of them, or say of them about anything and everything. So, we talk in code most of the time, avoiding speaking our true feelings.

It is true that men, when checking out women, will ask other men, Hey, check those Tits, or How do you like the cheeks on that ASS??! It is the macho thing to do, and all men understand those rules of discourse. But after you reach 25 or so, you realize that you have been lying to yourself and to other men, and they are all lying to themselves, because they never say what they really like in women. You learn to ignor other men's comments, and go with what you actually feel. The same guys who drool over women with big boobs, and a curvaceous butt are married to women who have no chest or ass to speak about at all! I first thought they were simply lusting at was greener on the other side of the fence. But, later it became clear that they were afraid to admit to other men that they really didn't care that much for large breasts or big asses. And, I think most men are afraid to have a relationship with the women who have everything for fear they can't meet her standards, and she will leave them for some other guy who is richer, or better looking, or drives a nicer car, or is a better dancer, etc. " Guy World ", in many respects is Hell on Earth. It certainly is full of lies, deceipt, and half truths, which men learn to say just to fit in and get along with other men. Most men would be terribly embarrassed if their SO heard the kinds of things they say about women to other men.

So, Let me have my personal feelings about a woman's smile being the sexiest part of her. I know when I was dating my second wife, my day was made if I looked over at her, and saw her smiling back at me. On a scale of one to 10, she became my instant 11 !

No way Jose. You can say all you like about your feelings, but, as a life long guy, I can say I know what turns my head and what I find to be the SEXIEST THING ABOUT A WOMAN. You might speak for the men you know, but you don't speak for me. Attractive is composed of several things for me. I love nice hair. Big eyes, full mouth, BIG boobs(like C is small on my scale, the smallest I feel that I would like, and yes I dated girls of various sizes and made my decision on if I thought they were sexy or not. Most had a great rear, but not enough to compensate to me), healthy but not severely over-weight, and hips. Now all that runs the gamut of what I find to be a sexy body. Inside, the mind has to be sharp, witty, and optimistic. I am a sarcastic, pesimist and rather smart if I do say so. I just want a woman that will keep me on my toes and balance my need for self anguish. All of these things are my wife. Now, does she have a great smile, you bet, prettiest I have ever seen, but is that because I know her, what that smile has brought me through, told me in more that words. Yes. but if a woman smiles at me, and plenty do( i am good at flirting and making girls laugh), it has no more weight on me than if she is not. Smiles are not what is THE sexiest thing in all of Man World. Maybe in yours, but that is YOURS not everyones. The end.

[pajsmg]

Mikayla, I have to agree with you about the sexual advances. Nothing drives him more crazy then when he is sitting on the couch watching tv and I climb up and strattle his face, slow easing my pussy down to his lips, clothes or no clothes, we both go nuts. He also loves to be woke up with a blow job.

When ever he works late, I love to light candles all the way through the house and leave little notes. Sometimes I tell him where to take off a certain article of clothing and sometimes I leave notes indicating what I want him to do to me when he gets to the bedroom. I am laying in bed either in sexy lingerie or completely naked and have attempted to half way tie myself to the bed. I don't think he can get naked and to the room fast enough.

I also love going out with friends and all night long, I either slide my hand under the table and gently rub his leg, from his crotch to his knee and back up or I will whisper little things in his ear that elude to my ideas of the perfect evening later. I generally wear a skirt when we go out with friends, it makes it easier on the way home. He goes nuts when I go down on him on the way home or grab his hand and pull it towards me and start rubbing myself with it. It almost always guarantees for a great night when we get home, as long as to many "adult beverages" were consumed during the evening.

[sexykitty]

I respectfully disagree. Men, in Guy World, rarely if ever tell other men what they like about anything. Men worry about what other men will think of them, or say of them about anything and everything. So, we talk in code most of the time, avoiding speaking our true feelings.

It is true that men, when checking out women, will ask other men, Hey, check those Tits, or How do you like the cheeks on that ASS??! It is the macho thing to do, and all men understand those rules of discourse. But after you reach 25 or so, you realize that you have been lying to yourself and to other men, and they are all lying to themselves, because they never say what they really like in women. You learn to ignor other men's comments, and go with what you actually feel. The same guys who drool over women with big boobs, and a curvaceous butt are married to women who have no chest or ass to speak about at all! I first thought they were simply lusting at was greener on the other side of the fence. But, later it became clear that they were afraid to admit to other men that they really didn't care that much for large breasts or big asses. And, I think most men are afraid to have a relationship with the women who have everything for fear they can't meet her standards, and she will leave them for some other guy who is richer, or better looking, or drives a nicer car, or is a better dancer, etc. " Guy World ", in many respects is Hell on Earth. It certainly is full of lies, deceipt, and half truths, which men learn to say just to fit in and get along with other men. Most men would be terribly embarrassed if their SO heard the kinds of things they say about women to other men.

So, Let me have my personal feelings about a woman's smile being the sexiest part of her. I know when I was dating my second wife, my day was made if I looked over at her, and saw her smiling back at me. On a scale of one to 10, she became my instant 11 !

WOW you and mikayla disagree....who would ever thought the day would come....lol....she does offer some good advice but how can she know men talk about....thanks you for the GUYS point of view.....

[Mikayla1]

Believe me, I KNOW what guys talk about!

I have many, and I mean MANY inside sources to "Guy World" as Howard like to call it, and many of them have given me the inside scoop on this. It is really an interesting debate, one that has taken it's own course here on the site. I think it really doesn't matter what guy's think is the sexiest part of a woman, as long as the woman thinks she is sexy INSIDE, then she will exude that sexiness, and it will come through one way or another! I think Howard and I can agree on that!

Mikayla

[Bastian]

I was just wondering, when men sit around and talk about women they have slept with, seen on the street, started to date, etc. Is it the SMILE they talk about or the TITS, ASS, PUSSY, ETC.. I don' think men say, Hey Howard, are you a "crooked smile or a straight smile man" HELL NO, they say are you a Tit or ass man!

A smile is a nice feature, it means the woman likes you, maybe wants to flirt with you...but it is NOT the first thing, nor last thing a man notices about a woman. Telecom is right, it is a sexy enhancement!

Mikayla

100% agree with Mikayla - whoever spouted off further up the chain that a smile is most important must be gay. Yeah a smile is nice and adds to the package but she better have some nice tits or ass to grab my attention. So if a perfect 10 walks up to you and she smiles and it isn't a perfect smile are you turning away?? I think not therefore the smile isn't what is "sealing the deal." By the way . . . Tit man here

[telecom69]

NOW, that is a comment straight from GUY WORLD, folks. Only in GUY WORLD would a man make the bold assertion that any man who thinks a smile is the sexiest part of a woman "MUST BE GAY".

That is how GUY WORLD works. Men seem to be obsessed with proving to other men they are not GAY ! And, to compensate for his fear, Bastian spends lots of time telling us how he is a " Tit Man", but has dated women who don't meet his "ogle?" standards. A world of hupocrisy- welcome to it.

I wish I had a dime for every " Tit Man " I have known over the years who has come out of the closest and admitted being Gay!

I am not saying Mr. Bastion is Gay. I know I am not Gay. But I maintain that men do not speak honestly about their feeling to other men, and instead say what they think will be the most " masculine" thing to say.

A friend of mine came to law school straight from serving in the military in Europe. The only clothes he had for a week were his army uniforms. He went to a barbershop on campus for a haircut the second week he was in town, not having gotten used to wearing his hair longer, yet, ( this was the late 60's), and sat down in the barber's chair. A very effiminate barber swished up and inquired how long he had been in town. My friend, fearing he was about to be hit on, opened the Playboy magazine to the centerfold, pulled down the overlay, and exclaimed, ' Nice Tits!" The barber lowered his voice, got rid of the lisp, straightened out his wrists, and proceeded to cut his hair quietly. He told me this story a few months later when we got to know each other. He was married at the time, with a baby at home, and the last think he wanted to experience was some guy hitting on him, gay or not. And, like so many men who came out of military life, proving your masculinity was a daily sport. That carries over into civilian life, and dribbles down through college, and highschool, to junior high. He was most unnerved that any man would think he was gay.

Over the years I have fallen in love with a woman's eyes, emerald green, even though we had nothing in common, and I would never have thought to ask her out on a date. I fell for another woman because she had a voice I could never forget. We saw each other daily for 3 years. I still think she is one of the most beautiful women I have ever known. 40 years later, we still stay in touch. My first wife had a great laugh an pretty brown eyes, but an even nicer smile. My second wife had violet blue eyes and the nicest smile I have known. All these women looked pretty plain when they were not smiling, but when they smiled, wars would come to a halt! To each his own. I look at women's boobs, ass, legs, hair, etc. just like other men do. I just think that smile is what makes ordinary women look outstanding, and pretty women divine.

I agree with Howard's view that men will say things to other men and not how they really feel. I'm kind of an outcast with my male work peers and friends for this. If we see a Barbie type walk by, they get all excited and act like idiots. I say she's ok, but to skinny or I don't like her big fake fake breasts. But when a women walks by who has some nice curves, may have a few extra lbs, or not be perfect and I tell them that looks more natural and attractive, they think I'm nuts. I told them once about going out with a women six times who was very attractive. She offered sex on the second date and I declined because I just didn't feel comfortable yet. That came later. I told my friends what I did and they said I was crazy. I guess the masculine thing would have been to lie and say "I fucked the shit out of her" and that would have made them happy. I guess when you hit 40 or so, your priorities just change.

Telecom

[Bastian]

I maintain that men do not speak honestly about their feeling to other men, and instead say what they think will be the most " masculine" thing to say.

I am very sorry that you have friends that you can't speak openly and honestly to about women, and that you feel you have to say things to conform when you are amongst your peers. I personally can say what I want to my friends and not put on some kind of show to "fit in." But beyond that, many people have a wonderful smile but that is as far as it goes, and that maybe where you personally fit in.

"Bastian spends lots of time telling us how he is a " Tit Man" 4 sentences and the word tit used twice, I think Howard must be a bit defensive about the word Gay being directed toward a comment he made.

My one wife of 10 years is a beautiful women in every aspect and yes she has big (nice too) tits. A nice ass, eyes, hair and yeah she has a beautiful smile. But as I said above - lots of people have a nice smile and some aren't very attractive in any other way so there really has to be more to a person than just a nice smile.

And on a totally different subject. I am absolutely appalled by your response to WhiskeyWoman. That woman and her children are facing a long road ahead with the birth of an ill BABY - not a fetus. My heart goes out to WW and her family and I hope God gives them the strength do endure. Man, you have got to come out of online world and show some compassion.

[crazy1]

I must live in a world that is far removed from Howard and Telecom. Or I just might not give two damns about what ppl say. I have always been on the fringe of all my relationships with men. I am a person that speaks what he wants and when I want to say it. I have four older brothers, we are all honest and open about our feelings and emotions. I am good friends with lots of men and women, I just don't put up with the machismo BS that apperently is Howards ultimate ideal of the male mind.

I acutally brought up "Guy World" and the "male code of speech" to all of my co-workers(mostly male btw) and well all had a good laugh. In all Honesty, we all talk quite openly about what we like, dislike and find sexy in women. I have said to them on many occasions that smiles are nice, but not what is sexy. I have yet to see a Victoria's Secret add with just a smile on it. I also have yet to see any conclusive proof that men talk in code. Maybe with the sheltered egocentric old farts you know, but all the people I know under the age of 40 are quite open about who they are and what they believe.

I applaud Telecom for putting off sex because he was not ready. Good for you. That is a wise decision, it might not have been popular with a more insecure crowd, but it was right for you. I have several debates about what makes women beautiful with my male coworkers, and not one of them has ever said anything to doubt my sexuallity. Nor I them. I am the person that tells them not to get into a bunch of one night stands and so on, they all RESPECT me for speaking plainly and honestly. THERE IS NO CODE! QUIT DELUDING YOURSELF AND TRYING TO IMPRESS PEOPLE ON HERE WITH BS!

There will always be men who are insecure and unsure of who they really are, that doesn't mean that all men are that way or that all men subscribe to a idea of what is beauty. All people are different and some try to hide who they are, some don't. I am a tit man Howard, I am not gay. I know this positively. I know how good it feels to have a lover play with the back door, but the thought of a man in any sexual conotation is repulsive to me. I just don't see how this is even an issue.

AGAIN, THERE IS NO CODE, THIS IS ASSININE, AND WHAT IS SEXY IS A MATTER OF PERSONAL OPINION. HOWARD, BASTIAN, TELECOM, OR MYSELF, NOT ONE OF US SPEAKS FOR ALL MEN.

I will say that I think a nice smile is a good piece to an attractive woman. It is not the end all of sexy. Sexiest thing, a curvy, healthy body and attitude. Mikayla is very right, a woman that exudes sexy, is sexy. If a woman finds her smile to be the sexiest thing, it might very well be for her. If a woman loves her curves, that might be it for her. So to each his own and please let it die. This is getting ridiculous.

[Mikayla1]

AGAIN, THERE IS NO CODE, THIS IS ASSININE, AND WHAT IS SEXY IS A MATTER OF PERSONAL OPINION. HOWARD, BASTIAN, TELECOM, OR MYSELF, NOT ONE OF US SPEAKS FOR ALL MEN.

I will say that I think a nice smile is a good piece to an attractive woman. It is not the end all of sexy. Sexiest thing, a curvy, healthy body and attitude. Mikayla is very right, a woman that exudes sexy, is sexy. If a woman finds her smile to be the sexiest thing, it might very well be for her. If a woman loves her curves, that might be it for her. So to each his own and please let it die. This is getting ridiculous.

I completely agree with you Crazy - No one man can speak for ALL MEN - nor can I speak for ALL WOMEN or MEN! This is a matter of personal opinion which is great. If every man liked big tits - well, half the women of the world would be left out. The same with curves vs. no curves. Variety is the spice of life.

I do think women should just try to find their inner sexy - if that happens - they will seem sexy on the oustside!

Mikayla

[danielsvixen]

I completely agree with you Crazy - No one man can speak for ALL MEN - nor can I speak for ALL WOMEN or MEN! This is a matter of personal opinion which is great. If every man liked big tits - well, half the women of the world would be left out. The same with curves vs. no curves. Variety is the spice of life.

I do think women should just try to find their inner sexy - if that happens - they will seem sexy on the oustside!

Mikayla

Mikayla, how do you go about finding your inner sexiness??

[Mikayla1]

Well, do you mean me personally? For me, it is a state of mind. First, I find that doing little things for myself help me to feel sexy. Jogging to be healthy and fit keeps my body feeling sexy. Meditation and yoga keep my mind clear and feeling sexy. Pampering myself in certain ways - having my nails done, my hair done, that once in a while Brazillian waxing - those things make me feel sexy. Having special lingerie that makes me feel good and comfortable in it - some like a nice bra and panty set - can make me feel sexy all day. But these are EXTERNAL things . . .

Above and beyond these things - it is an inner attitude - an inner "agreement" that I have with myself. I am not a perfect 10 - I do not have the same perfect, perky tits I had at 18, I am not as thin as I was before I had a baby, I have a c-section scar from having an emergency c-section, - in short, physically I am flawed like most women are. I refuse to let my inner soul become flawed by feeling that my outsides have been marred in some way. I remain confident in my ability to be a sex goddess at heart - even if it is only in my own bedroom!

I tell myself daily that I AM SEXY! I feel sexy because my mind is sexy! My actions say I am sexy! I am intelligent and witty and fun! I always act like a sex goddes with my hubby, why act any different? I am an incorrigible FLIRT! I say what is on my mind when it comes to sex! I let him know what I like, want, and desire in bed! I have found that men find a woman who is confident EXTREMELY SEXY! As a result, many of my hb work partners have said I am a super sexy woman! It is something that men pick up on!

I am not going to ever let one day go by when societal standards tell ME that I can't be sexy! I am sexy at heart, and because of that I have always been told I am sexy!

So, how do you find your inner sexy? You just have to put it in your mind that you ARE! All women are sexy in some way. It may be a voice, a gesture, and attitude - something pervades as sexy! Find what it is YOU have and capitalize on it! Every woman can do this - should do this! You can too!

Mikayla

[danielsvixen]

Thanks Mikayla....

You have been a god send to me...

Blessings

[hrslvrkate]

Howard this question is for you since your a guy. Heres my problem Im finishing up my bachelors in mathematics this may, Im 38 and frankly quite attractive for my age but have never really flirted much less asked anyone out until recently. I totally felt like an idiot to be honest, but heres the deal. I have an instructor this semester who I think is smart, funny and absolutely cute for his 54 years. Its the first time Ive had him for an instructor because his field is computer science and just happens to be teaching a mathematics elective that i chose. I had plans the other night to go out with a friend and at the last minute she canceled because she was called into work, well i was all dressed up with no where to go and decided i didnt want to stay in sooooooooo I called up cute instructor and asked him what he was doing and if he was interested in seeing a movie. He turned me down with the reason that he had plans to go out to eat with his son who is moving in a month. I dont know if this was his nice way of saying no way or if its honest. At this point I am clueless as to how to proceed in getting him to notice me or take any interest in me. Of course the only time i ever see him is in class or in his office if I need help on an assignment and of course i never take the time to dress up for school so if I did it would be totally weird. I tend to dress comfortably for classes including no makeup, so what do i do now?

[hrslvrkate]

No he's not married, he's divorced. I am still his student, 7 weeks till end of semester. Your absolutely right about everything that you said except; he should know I do not need to date him to enhance my grade I am making a perfect score in class already. Truth is Im doing alot of things I havent done before in my life . So this is a brand new experience for me including coming to this sight and talking to perfect strangers Ive never met, LOL. Your absolutely right about waiting till i am no longer a student of his and maybe by then I'll know exactly what it is im looking for .

Privacy is and will always be a key issue for me as well so need to warn me but very intelligent consdering you dont know me.