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My girlfriend lives in some apts that we both feel has become unsafe due to some crime in her complex over the last several months. They are raising her rent an unfair amount to. Her lease is up at the end of October, and since she has been looking around, we have become well aware affordable rent for her is tough with her salary. She has been a very shy women sexually, but has opened up a lot over the year and a half we've been together. I've been patient with her sexually, emotionally, and am committed to her. I have offered to help pay the difference ($150) in monthly rent at a place for her we both looked at that is in a nicer part of town, safe, and actually closer to each other. I can afford it and it won't hurt me financially. She is a very proud women and has never asked me for money, and is now lookinf for a second job. I have helped her out once or twice, but I know she really didn't want me to, but she very much appreciated it. I've made it sound easier by telling her we just cut a couple of nights out on the town monthly and that will easlily make up the difference in rent. Living with me in my house for now is not a good idea due to some issues with my kids, and we both agreed upon that. Ladies, what do you think? Telecom.

I prefer REAL also. I like a little bit of sag and bounce. Fake just doesn't do it for me. I've only experienced fake once, and I just couldn't get into it touching or looking at them. In fact, the lady who had them told me she wishes she would have never done them. Telecom

I'm still trying to get my gf to use her vibe in front of me by herself. I don't ever pressure her to do it, but just bring it up now and then when I feel like she may be comfortable with it. She is still shy, but a lot better than she used to be. She knows I would like her to use it in front of me by herself and knows I would like to watch her (fantasy of mine), but says she is still just to embarrased. What have other women out there done to get over this? We've been together about 19 months. Telecom

It would definitely be SEXY for me. Awhile after I was over my divorce I went on a dating spree and went out with many women over about six months. Some were hot perfect hard bodies, and some were sexy regular mother types. At least for me it was the average woman who didn't have the perfect body who I found to be more overall appealing and sexy vs the hard body hot ladies. I agree about the attitude thing to. The majority of the hot hard bodies had an attitude I didn't care for either. Confidence is great, but arrogant is ugly. Telecom

Pretty much every guy has blown his load quicker then he (and her) wishes and wanted to last longer. Happens in the past and wil in the future to. Totally normal. With my ex wife, if I didn't last as long as she would have liked, I would use a toy on her for awhile in addition to oral until I had the rest time to get it up again. If you don't have time to do that and it happens, well it just happens. Like you said, the best thing you can do is make him feel ok about it and move on. I'm sure you were let down, but ask him to do oral or something else on you to get you off and both of you will feel better. Telecom

For the woman. If you had a choice of one or the other, which would you choose? A session with your most favorite vibrator, or the man in your life eating your pussy? Telecom

Lets all not be to gullible and naive. Many of your kids probably have found your porn stash, or heard strange buzzing (vibes) sounds coming from your rooms when you thought they were asleep. You just don't know it. Sure, its disrespectful and an invasion of your privacy, but it happens. My now 20 yr old son when he was 15 found our porn stash. Ex wife did not push the lock in all the way. I was pretty sure a porn video was gone, but we didn't approach him about it then. He told us a couple of yrs later. Your kids will look and think of you in a different way. Mom and dad aren't supposed to do that in their minds. Telecom

I've posted something on here in the past about things like this, but would like to hear from some ladies out there who have been thru this. My gf grew up like a lot of women being taught that sex is bad, don't masturbate, religious beliefs, etc. My gf was married for 22 yrs with a husband who was just wham bam, no romance, no foreplay, etc. Her sex life was prety sheltered with nothing new and very ordinary. Anyway, I've been dating her for 18 months now and she is changing and becoming more willing. Introduced vibes to her, lots of foreplay, touching and affection without sex as sometimes thats more appropriate, romance and love, sexual flirting, sex in other places besided just the "bed", etc. But, I'm still surprised about how little she did and the things that are everyday sex for most of us, are new and foreign to her. Example was last night. We're used to taking romantic baths together now, which she never did before with anyone. We were in a bath last night, and after things were getting hot, I just took her hand and said lets go. She thought we were heading to her bedroom. Nope, we got five steps out of the bathroom and I just put her down on the carpet on the living room floor and we had sex there. Ouch with my knee burns today. She liked it and said it was more exciting, but tells me she would have never done that with anyone in the past, even her husband of 22 yrs. I would like to hear some womens opinions about what is going in their mind that prevented them from doing things like this and breaking out of thier shell. This will let me understand her more. Telecom

I would never pay for sex. So sleazy! There are to many ladies out there willing to give it up free if you play your cards right. Take money for sex? Only if I was desperate for $$, and I'm not desperate. Telecom

I'm assuming your talking about penetration and oral? If you're not getting a lot of clit stimultaion, you may need that. My girlfriend (gf) had, and still has the same problem sometimes, but not as often For my gf, I found out she has to be highly aroused and relaxed to let go. She will get to that max point of almost there, and then wham, it just goes away. Sometimes she'll have the "O" and sometimes not. Its a matter of letting yourself go, though that may be easier said than done. My gf uses the same words you use, "letting him down". That is what she would tell me. I bought her a vibrator about a year ago to help her learn about herself more and it has helped. The vibe will help you to. When you feel comfortable enough, bring it into bed with you to share the experience with him. Most guys love it. I do. Telecom

Nipple stimulation for me is great. When my gf kisses my nipples, lightly bites, and flicks her tounge on my nipples I go nuts. I have always loved it! Telecom

Howard, You hit a lot of it right on the head, at least with my gf. Her sexual feelings were really surpressed until about two years ago when she knew her marriage was doomed and she finally got out. Catholic parents, masturbation is bad, her mother telling her sex is bad, no talk of sex in the house, bad relationship with her dad when she was young, dad did not show affection, etc. To this day, her dad still doesn't "get it". She was so used to sex with no foreplay, don't say a word while making love, five mins max, no discussions about sex out of the bedroom, no cuddling after, you know what I mean. I'm showing her that sex is play. You can joke and make fun of each other while making love, slap butts, use toys, smack each other with pillows, share food in a sensual way, go at it good when you want to, and still show tenderness before, during, and after sex. As far as your analysis of toys, I agree. My gf is totally turned off by the realistic veined flesh dildos and vibes, but likes the brightly colored toys by Fun Factory and some from Timid. Women can use these and don't have to feel dirty if that is something they've been struggling with. She still has a way to go to get in touch with her sexuality, but although small to me over the 16 months we've been together, they are big strides for her. A month ago was the first time where we just masturbated each other, and it ended up being something emotional, sexual, and close for her where in the past she would have never done that with anyone. I tell her she is a challenge (in a loving way of course), but she still asks me to help her break those challenges and move on with a sexual part of her life she didn't know was there. Telecom

Ok, as many have seen my posts on here for awhile, my gf at 45 yrs old is still learning how to enjoy sex play, orgasm, etc, after 22 yrs in a bad marriage with a very uncaring husband. One of her main issues is very hit and miss orgasms when I do oral. Typically a women is more likely to have an orgasm when relaxed and such. We are finding out she can orgasm better\more in an environment where she feels like its risky to do it. This kind of goes against the grain, as this ususally isn't going to be the setting in which you're relaxed. We've done it a couple of times in someones house when they were in the other room, and she even let me do it in the car one time. That is very unusual, as my gf is very conservative, but is becoming more laid back for such play. When doing oral on her, often now (she just told me recently) she will fantasize we're doing it in a baseball stadium or some place we've been before. Hey, I don't care what she thinks of if it makes her enjoy it more. I guess the excitement of maybe getting caught in the end actually relaxes her more and takes her mind off of trying to get the O? Telecom

I swear my girlfriends clitoris disappears at the point when she reaches orgasm when doing oral on her. I think I remember my ex doing something similar to. Do most women do this? Telecom

My kids are well aware their mother cheated with our daughters husband. Nothing is secret there. It literally devasted the family and extend family of grandparents and others. My ex lives a life of hell now for what she did, and is starting to have physical and emotional health issues because of the guilt and stress. Even though she did what she did, I had to forgive her so I could move on with my life, and I'm trying to teach my kids that to. Telecom

Damn! Maybe I'm just to old school. But how can you love someone, and that someone loves you back, and then want to watch them have sex with a stranger? I just don't get it. To each his own. I'm sure I'll get flamed for this. Telecom

I've talked to my gf and she understands about not coming, but I can tell she is a little hurt. The worse problem is my sisters, who HATE my ex for her affair with our daughters husband and what my she did to our kids, which are my sisters nieces and nephews. My daughter lost her mother and husband at the same time because of the affair, although her husband was a fucking loser. 1.5 years later and she has never recovered from that emotionally. I hurt him pretty bad later on and he never pressed charges. He stole from me to, which really pissed me off. I'm 47 and he was 20 and big, but wasn't a very good fighter. My bigger issue is my sisters love my son and want to see him get married. But, when they see my ex they will want to mess her up. I'm serious. In the end, I'll probably tell my sisters it won't be a good idea for them to come. They will probably understand and not want to upset their nephews wedding day. Telecom

You are not a freak. My girlfriend has cried a few times to after oral. She tells me its from the overall warm feeling of orgasm, but more from the emotional\love ties with me that she never experienced with a marriage of 22 yrs. I do more cuddling and kissing with her after she cries to. Good stuff. Its a great emotional experience for me to. Telecom

Good advice from all. Thanks! It keeps me from going to Dr Phil or Jerry Springer! Telecom

My 21 yr old son may be getting married later this year, and he told my daughter that my girlfriend won't be invited. My ex (sons mother) and my girlffiend have never met and I know my ex doesn't care for her since ex is still trying to get back with me 18 months later. I get along with me son fine, but if my girlfriend can't go, I don't wont to go. I'm sure my ex will say my girfriend is not wanted at the wedding. I've been with my girlfriend for about 16 months and she would like to go. My son is polite to my girlfriend, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't really care for her since she is dads girfriend and its hard for him to accept that dad has moved on while his mom hasn't and is trying to get back together with me, even though the ex is the one who had the affair (with her daughters husband), stole money from me, etc. My girlfriend has never tried d to be their mother, and is always polite and friendly to my kids, so it isn't fair the way they treat her. What is your opinion about my girlfriend being at the wedding? If I really think it may cause problems at his wedding, I of course would not bring her. I still need to discuss this more with my son. Thanks.. Telecom

I'm assuming this is the same "inconsiderate girlfriend"? Just ask her. I once dated a woman briefly who did something similar but not all the time while in the bathroom before sex. She later told me after we quit going out she was doing cocaine in the bathroom. I've had bad problems with drugs with my 19 yr old daughter and she knew how anti-drug I was, but still did it. Now that I look back on it, I could see why sometimes I couldn't keep up with her while she was on coke. I've learned more about woman sexually in the two yrs I've been divorced than in 23 yrs marriage. We all have our quirky stuff, but the drugs really turned me off! Telecom

"I didn't feel like it" is another way for her saying you're gullible and a dick. Nothing personal against you though friend. Leave her as fast as you can and meet some some decent women. They're out there. Good Luck, Telecom

Years ago my five year old son walked into the bedroom late at night while we were having sex. We didn't even hear the door open in the dark. I felt someone was in the room and turned on the light, and there is my son watching us. He just looked at us and said "that was gross", and walked away and went back to bed. Telecom

About three years ago my then 14 yr old son was nosey and going through our bedroom and found a dildo. That was VERY embarrasing for my then wife and I at his age. I think he may have even said something to his friends. I was furious. Telecom

Hrnychick, Your story is familar to me and funny. Back in the day, I used to be the husband who went to the video store to get the porn flick in the back room with the creaky swinging door. Your description was right on. Us guys in the room used to look at each other and try to be cool. It was standard operating procedure to get another non-porn movie to make it look good and like I wasn't a pervert there just to get a porn flick. Times certainly have changed. Telecom