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My ex and I watched porn every now and then, and it turned her on. We would maybe make it thru 20 mins or so and then start slowly masturbating each other. That would lead to other things. Never made it thru an entire flick either. I'm slowly trying to introduce my timid girlfriend to porn (she agreed to try it) and see how she reacts. She says she will be embarrassed. I'm hoping it will turn her on and make her feel that a woman watching porn does not make here a bad person. Wish me LUCK. Will let you know later. Telecom

Well, the best way for you to give good oral is to listen to your wife and have HER tell you what feels best. She is responsible for this to, contrary to what some think. If she is quiet and doesn't give feedback, listen for her moans, hip movements, breathing, pace, etc. Don't go right for it, a lot of teasing is fun. Caress her all over, easy kisses on the stomach and thighs, etc. and show the affection and tenderness before heading south. The tounge and vibe together can be nice to. Telecom

I have the words "Good Fortune" across the back of my left shoulder in tribute to my father who passed away last year. He had the same tattoo done when he was in Vietnam as a Army special forces advisor in 1965-66. Soldiers have lots of superstitions, and he thinks this got him out alive. My father fought in Korea and Vietnam, but died of prostate cancer. Great man, and the tattoo makes me think of him everyday. Telcom

Not a sexual topic here. Need an opinion here. I got divorced about 20 months ago with an ugly divorce where my ex-wife had an affair with a family members husband. I've recovered from all that, etc. I've met someone else since then after getting my head together and we're very close..my current girlfriend. We had some nice pics made and I have a couple of them up in my room on my desk. I've recently found out that my kids (16, 19, 21) don't really like the pictures up in my house. What do you think? The ex is still trying to get back together, but that is NEVER going to happen, and I think my kids want to see that happen to. For some reason I'm the bad guy because I have my girlfriends pics up. Comments? Telecom

Just a curious question for the ladies. How many of you out there enjoy sex and have orgasms, but are very quiet in bed to make your lover think you aren't enjoying it, or he isn't sure if you're enjoying it. I 've traded lots of emails and PMs to others about this, but want to hear from other women to. Telecom

Ahh, cheating! A term not very dear to my heart. Here is my story. My ex wife of 23 yrs (she was 45) cheated on me with a 20 yr old boy (daughters husband). I call him a boy because he was very immature, worked only part time jobs, and was dumb as a rock. When things got rough in our marriage, instead of talking to me about her feelings and going to marriage counseling at MY suggestion with me, she wouldn't go or talk and decided to have an affair. That was about two years ago, and only after eight months she wanted back. Thank God I screwed her good in the divorce, as she is broke now and went thru the $32k lump sum settlement I gave her very fast (about nine months). She spent it on the 20 yr old like an idiot thinking it would keep him around. Of course things didn't work it between them. Cheating is not worth it though stats show that a lot of people do it. I consider myself a decent looking guy, and had my opportunities during my marriage to stray, but it just wasn't ever worth it to me personally. You HAVE TO TALK, and a lot of couples just won't do it and will go outside the marriage looking for either physical or emotional comfort, or both. Most of the time, the grass is not greener on the other side!! Ask my ex. Telecom

Maybe being alone for a little while will be a good thing and allow you to find yourself. If he moved out and you agreed it was over, I don't see how that can be cheating. Guys are kind of like that though. We sometimes think we still own a piece of that pussy even though its gone. Yes its stupid, but thats how we think sometimes. Sounds like your boyfriend is like that and jealous. Since he is the father of your kids that makes it tough, and you have to keep him in their life if he is a decent dad. If you told him your "friends" but he can still have "benefits" and get pussy when he wants it, I wouldn't say that is really breaking up and is a stupid thing to offer someone, especially if you have kids together. Just my opinion. Telecom

I'm 47 yrs old, in good physical shape, no health issues, etc. Here is what I've noticed. When having intercourse with my gf, if I feel myself about to cum, I will tell my gf lets slow down a little until the feeling dissipates so I can last longer. I may do this 2-3 times during a session for control But then after doing this, I notice sometimes my erection may go down a little and I can't cum at all, no matter what happens. My thought is since my erection isn't as hard, the sensation isn't as strong and the cum feeling goes away. At some point she may say she is getting a little sore during this, so well stop and I'll do oral on her. If she isn't wet enough, we will use a lube to help for that. From start to end penetration may be 15+ mins or so until she says to stop. As with most guys, some positions are harder to go longer. Doggie is a killer for me, as looking at and holding as ass is a huge turn on. Telecom

My gf is the same way. She just can't relax enough without distractions to let herself go to have an orgasm. I'll do almost anything to her she wants, but she doesn't get it. Some of the best times have been while laughing and goofing around. My gf always seems distracted. She says she isn't, but I can see it. If you're distracted, it isn't going to happen. Telecom

Have patience Grasshopper... Telecom

My gf did grow up Catholic, mother actually told her she hated sex with her father, told her to not masturbate and it was bad, etc. I'm still amazed how these things can effect a person so many years later in life. I've pretty much told her all you said. Masturbation is ok and there is nothing to feel embarassed or guilty about. Loving someone deeply like I do her, I want her to experience emotional and physical pleasure all she can. If that's by herself masturbating, that is ok with me. I've bought her all the toys she has. For her to masturbate herself with a vibe (she still can't with her hand) while we're having intercouse is a MAJOR step for her she tells me. She will do that often. She isn't quite there to do it by herself in front of me without intercourse, but she said she would like to. Time is long with her for these things, but I just try to keep it in perspective that it took many years for these things to be stamped in her mind, and it will take awhile to get them out. Telecom

I have a 19 yr old daughter, and a 22 yr old boyfriend wouldn't bother me. Now, when she was 14-15 yrs old, I had my fair share of intimidating 18-20 yr old guys who were trying to hook up with her to get lost. That age difference when a girl is that young was a problem for me! When I was 19yrs old, a 15 yr old girl was not for me. I wanted my age or older. Some of these guys now are real dick perverts wanting a girl that young, and I can't figure it out. Just old school I guess. Telecom

My girlfriend (45 yrs old) uses her vibrator a couple of times a week, but tells me sometimes she feels embarrased when she is done maturbating, even though she is alone. She is still over coming a lot of issues about sex, how she was raised, past relationships, masturbation, etc. Just curious, has any other women out there felt like this? Telecom

I LOVE it when my gf dresses up and looks sexy or nice. I know she is dressing to look good for me. I tell her how hot or beautiful she looks while kissing her and grabbing her butt a little. At least to me, this reinforces my compliments to her and makes her want to be with me. I hope that theory works. Sure, other guys are going to look at her sometimes. Nothing the matter with that. Telecom

A self BJ? Damn, is nothing sacred? To each his own I guess........ Telecom

I guess sometime just asking and putting it out there is the best way. I asked her if they would sleep outside when I'm over and she easily agreed. Cool! Telecom

This is not a real sex question, but it does have impact on our sex life. I've posted and asked a similar question like this before and got some great responses, but this has become a real issue for me and my relationship with my gf. She has two small dogs that are the most spoiled brats you have ever seen. I mean REALLY! She has never had kids and has had up to five inside dogs before. They sleep with her every night and they HAVE to sleep under the covers and it is very annoying for me when I sleep over. They don't sleep at the end of the bed or on the floor. They lick your legs, lay on you, walk over you, etc. I'm a very light sleeper and I can't sleep well at all with them. I'm tired when I wake up. If we attempt to have spontaneous sex at night or upon wakening, they are often on us, in our faces, and this makes me loss interest and she loses focue and has an orgasm issue already, so this certainly doesn't help. I asked her once if the dogs could sleep outside the room with the door closed when I stay over, and she said "well I guess so if they have to". I could tell she wasn't happy about the question. I was honest and asked in a polite way about how it bothered me. If we go into the room to have sex, I have to make sure they are out and close the door. Sometimes one of them will sit outside the door and whine, and she loses focus. IMO, its really fucked up. These dogs won't even go outside to go to the bathroom if its drizzling, so they piss or shit on the floor and it is no big deal for her. I have two dogs and love them, but mine are outside dogs. Not WIMPY dogs like hers. To be honest, I can't stand them but would never tell her that. I'm sure I'll get flamed by the dog lovers here. Thx for letting me vent. Telecom

Let her get comfortable with it by herself first. I think she will try it alone but may not tell you for awhile. Sometimes women love the vibe, but may not tell you as to hurt your feelings even though you're the one who got it fo her. And, some women feel strange having the vibe inserted vaginally in front of thier partner unitl they come around and just use it on the clit. My girlfriend is that way, and tells me she doesn't insert it when she uses it alone. At least that is what she tells me. Telecom

Believe me, you're not alone. My girlfriend as pretty much the same issue and I believe its from the same reasons you mention. I know how frustrating it can be for you. Provide more detail and you'll get some great responses back from regulars here. 1. your age? 2. how do you masturbate? use toys? 3. how did you grow up? 4. how have men treated you? 5. abuse? 6. self esteem, and self image? 7. relationship with parents? 8. religious beliefs? If you figure it out, tell my girlfriend. Good Luck, Telecom

Does your boyfriend get erections an night or in the morning before getting up? That is important to know. My brother is an MD and I tried some herbal supplements he paid for as part of a clinical study. I can't say I noticed anything with them. Other men reported some improvements. Trying some can't hurt. He also got me some Viagra once and Cialis. I can't say either of those helped either, so I know were mine were performance related. Blood flow to the penis is critical, and there could be several reason. I even had my testosterone checked with a blood test. Nomal is about 300-1,000. Have that checked. Stress can make a HUGE difference! I've had a lot of trouble with my 19 yr old daughter for four years, and the stress from that takes a toll on me sometimes in the bedroom. I'm 46 and I've had some performance issues with my girlfriend to. I have no problems getting erectioins at night and in the morning, so that is a good sign. Mine were mostly from her being pretty timid and quiet, and I need some verbal stimulation to help get excited. What always works for me is her biting and licking my nipples and chest area if its difficult to get hard. Ok, I'm a guy but I'm really sensitive there and it feels wonderful. Try that area on him if you haven't. Good Luck Telecom

Any ladies out there who can't orgasm from oral sex? Or, who couldn't in the past but can now and what changed that lets you. Telecom

I agree with Howard's view that men will say things to other men and not how they really feel. I'm kind of an outcast with my male work peers and friends for this. If we see a Barbie type walk by, they get all excited and act like idiots. I say she's ok, but to skinny or I don't like her big fake fake breasts. But when a women walks by who has some nice curves, may have a few extra lbs, or not be perfect and I tell them that looks more natural and attractive, they think I'm nuts. I told them once about going out with a women six times who was very attractive. She offered sex on the second date and I declined because I just didn't feel comfortable yet. That came later. I told my friends what I did and they said I was crazy. I guess the masculine thing would have been to lie and say "I fucked the shit out of her" and that would have made them happy. I guess when you hit 40 or so, your priorities just change. Telecom

I REALLY agree with Sid Vicious to. Looking at Playboy and Penthouse models now is a joke. They all look so artificial and superficial. A women with a little sag in her breasts is no big deal. Damn, they shake more that way. Give me some curves and hips to hold on to. Barbie is out, natural is in! Telecom

For me, very simply HAIR. I don't care to much for blondes, but love my gf's red hair! Dark black hair is next. I'm attracted more to a simple woman who doesn't stand out if that makes sense. If shes attractive to me though, she will stand out. I don't care for face lifts, breasts jobs (had women with them) etc. I don't care for large women, but if you have some extra pounds here and there that is no big deal. Medium breasts are nice to. Confident, but not arrogant. Telecom

My ex-wife used to use one of the jets in the below ground pool to. She never told me and I never asked her about it. But one day I looked out the back window and she was in the pool with her arms up over the side and she was making some strange faces and it then hit me. Later when she wasn't around I got in the pool in the same position she was and I can see how the jet would have created some great stimulation for the clit. When its warm enough that is the first thing I'm going to show my girlfriend. Telecom