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I am totally "borrowing" that

I have had periods in my life where I called myself "Asexual". Meaning i had no interest in sex at all, for various reasons. Anyway, during couples therapy the therapist had us set up a "sex" night. We set Friday night as the night. I have to say for quite awhile I resented these nights but I complied. Now looking back I am glad I did and I don't know if it was that or my change in age or what but my sex drive increased alot. The therapist said it was a "fake it til you make it" situation and it was. I figured out that if you asked me "do u want to have sex?" the answer would always be no, but if the refusal part was taken out, I couldn't make my laundry list of excuses. They must set up a sex night and stick to it, even if it is just a quickie or oral only.....JMHO

Yes it is possible and yes it is intense....for me it rivals a good G-spot orgams.

Can I just say....ICK...puke...barf... okay, I married a momma's boy. they do eventually grow up but it takes a looonnnnngggg time My dh was 24 when we started dating and his mom talked to him like a gal pal. She talked about her period and would rag about his dad. I thought that was wrong. It was funny, because once he started "growing up" she tried to come between us. Luckily, she didn't suceed. I agree with Mikayla and Howard....either be patient and accept it or dump his ass. Good luck deciding!

I like oral but love intercourse the most. My orgasms are so much more intense with his penis inside. Of course, oral with fingers or toys is really nice too

I personally find that deep throating is much easier with mints in my mouth. I use tic tacs since I dont' like Altoids. I told dh about that and the next time he came home from the store with lots of mints LOL! I have done the perineum massage. He swears he doesn't want anal stimulation but I noticed him spreading his legs very wide for the perineum stimulation ..ha..ha..ha. I am going to try the corn-on-the-cob thing really soon. I hope the mint tip helps some of you deep throat...good luck and happy sucking

I have had a total hysterectomy and use testosterone replacement cream. It is wonderful stuff. I don't think it would hurt to try as long as any other medical problem has been ruled out.

I am shy too. It took a knock down drag out fight with my dh about a year ago to help get me over it (it is still difficult though). I love porn but my dh always acted like he didn't like it... I took it as being "too good" so I wouldn't watch it with him. Since then we have watched it and have tried alot of different positions, mimicking the porn, some are good and some are not. I think porn opens up a dialog and sometimes I am red faced discussing positions, etc but it still forces you to do it. Watching porn make him realize I wanted to experiment with anal-play. Before porn everytime a toy was mentioned he got all insecure about it replacing him (still does sometimes ). He likes dirty talk alot and I can barely make myself do it, but I'm trying. I still have a long way to go but atleast it's a start. Good luck to you!!

Happy Birthday Mikayla! You're catchin up with me. I turned 37 last Saturday

My dh seems very reluctant to try anything done to him. He is all for doing me though

Scary stuff. Sorry, I have no advice

Always cook one of his favorite meals for his birthday dinner and usually around that time gets biscuits and gravy for breakfast (his absolute favorite food). He is not that in to cake so I usually make cheesecake of apple pie. Most of the time we spend the night at a hotel and have what we call "hotel sex". Just a different place, no responsibilities (clean up your own mess, etc) just 24 hours of food and fun My birthday is coming up soon...I can't wait

ummmm....only if I could go too

I have seen a little yuckiness afterward but not too bad. Use a condom (and lots of lube). When he cums in your ass the first time you go to the bathroom it is a little different.

I love it Ditto that. I also lick and nip at the head of his penis. My advice is just to do it. Tell her what you like "squeeze them harder" or whatever. It is not painful or unpleasant (the pearl necklace is icky if she is not into it....just bring a towel to bed ) Once she sees SHE has the power (verbally let her know this) she'll get into it.

WoooooooHOOOOOOOOOO there is hope for others of us

Ditto that. Some online friends (who have turned into real friends) and I talk in vivid detail but my real life friends never seem to open up that much. Oddly enough, it is usually the men I talk about sex with I am sure their wives hate hearing "well they do that, why cant we?"

That's bad

Darn, I should've went for that one

This is tough for the reason below. Thanks for the input.

My dh and I have been together for a long time. We have gone through ups, downs, dry spells, hot spells, etc. Anyway, I have become MUCH more open in my old age Anyway, my complaint/concern is: he doesn't take direction well I have never liked the way my dh kisses. He is convinced I just don't like to kissing but I do miss it. My major complaint is slobber. I never come away without having to wipe off my mouth (yes, I realize I am picky). There are times for sloppy wet kisses but not ALL the time. ANyway, I showed him a section of the book Guide to Getting It On about kissing, which specifically mentions the slobber thing and he just reads it like it doesn't apply to him. We were watching some porn and this girl was performing oral sex on another girl and I about had an orgasm watching it. I told him how much I liked what she was doing and that was that, no follow-up. Also, I read up and researched anal sex before trying and would share what I have found with him then all-be-damned if last time we did it he went WAY too fast. I personally am terrible at giving directions "during" because I have to be in "the zone" so I like to discuss it outside of the bedroom. But he acts like it doesn't apply to him. What is it with men and directions??? Neither of us are the most self-confident people so I never want to seem critical and I always feel like when I give direction it is critical (which makes staying in "the zone" difficult ) but sometimes I get so frustrated I could scream. Should I say "kiss me just like the book says" or "do to me exactly what she is doing to her"??

I have only recently started having anal sex. I tried once a LONG time ago and my dh (then boyfriend) didn't know what he was doing and went too fast and it hurt like hell. I was convinced I hated it but the more I talked with people, and read on here, I wanted to try it again. Trying to keep my dh going SLOWLY is a problem. He tells me "you have to let me know" but when he rams it in doesn't give me much time for verbal feedback. I am now shopping for a butt plug. I know there is no way I can give him a rim job but wouldn't mind using a finger, or a toy, but he insists he doesn't want to do it.