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  2. LostInKY

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    Hi LostinKY,

    I briefy skimmed the post you made on the board. It sounds like you were getting some advice you were looking for. I am really sorry for all that you went thru. Many women don't have the strength to walk away. Maybe one day you will be able to help another woman get the strength to leave a violent relationship.

    What should you say? Start with what YOU are comfortable with. You might want to play a sex board game. This will help break the ice because it is the game making you answer the questions and talk about topics you might be a little reserved to bring up on your own.

    You are both young. You both have lots of growing to do. Your fiance is not open emotionally? This is very common in people. Unfortunately it is also the cause of people not being able to grown and mature as a human beings. He may need some help. Insecurity is the cause of so many problems and this most likely the issue here. Don't take this lightly. Don't accept, 'this is just who I am talk.' I doubt he would say this, but just in case! smile.gif

    Good for you and him for opening yourselves up to become better people to one another. Good for you and please keep us updated!

  3. LostInKY

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    LostinKY,

    First, congrats to you for recognizing some of your issues are due to a bad relationship. Moving forward starts with recognizing the root of our issues.

    You are not alone. Many women are in your same situation. Telling you the answer is simple. Working thru it will be a little challenging but if you keep working on it, you will get there!

    Confidence. You just need more of it. You need to be able to say and do without worrying about your fiance looking at you in a bad way.

    Here is just a few things to help you:
    1. Talk to your fiance - You might not be ready to sit down at the kitchen table and have a talk, but you might want to slowly make small comments in his ear during your foreplay/sex. This will start to get you and him to open up to one another. Be mindful of his reaction when you make these comments.

    2. Understand men. For the most part, we are easy to please. I am guessing he would very much welcome your desire to improve your sex life. Say your fiance was horrible, at let's say, oral sex. If he told you he loved doing it and wanted to get your advice on how he could do it better, how would you feel about him? I am guessing you would be less concerned about him not being good at it, but loving the fact he was eager to please! See my point?

    3. Don't give up. Baby steps. As long as you are making small steps forward you are improving your sex life and gauranteeing these problems will soon be in your past!

    Best of luck to you and your fiance!

    Rob

  6. thurisas

    Posted

    Great point! I should share some of our stories sometime. I was thinking of calling the post WHEN CUSTOMERS GO BAD. lol. We have had some pretty unbelievable stories over the years. We are very fortunate that these are few and far between but I thought people might find it interesting to hear some behind the scenes stories. I have come to really feel bad for these people.

    MysticLady

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    Liesl,

    Interesting blog. But I do really believe that this is a reflection of that person's character. Men and women as are guilty of this. Being attracted/connected (physically, emotionally, spiritually) to your partner is vital to having a healthy relationship. Now, if that attraction is solely based on looks then the relationship is going to be superficial and bound to fail. These relationships seem more like extended one night stands!

    Rob

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