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depending on how well you know him....I would suggesty going out and getting a bdsm movie and watching it together.or going out and getting some bondage gear.leather wrist cuffs along with a blindfole,or maybe some cfm shoes,nylons and a corset along wit maybe a crop.and wearing it when he gets home from work.maybe say to him.how about a little role play session. just a thought on what you might do.

well now I guess it's my turn.I was curious about it for quite a while.probably like most people who get into it.something different than married sex. I got involved through a friend.he and his wife were into it(no I'm not bi or gay).him and I worked together and we were on a run together.laid overnight in the same place and he was watching a video of bdsm.he asked if I would like to watch with him,and I joined watching.he told me about the munchies he was involved with in the Tacoma area.I started attending and was soon hooked up with a total pain slut(what a way to jump into the lifestyle).we played for about 5 months or so.I figured out that wasn't my thing pretty fast.so we split and I found a new sub.both of us were pretty new into it and we gravitated from three.found out what parts of it I liked and what parts of it were not for me.

just curious as to all the people out there that are into bdsm.how did you first get involved with bdsm?were you with an experienced Dom,or were you with someone at the time who was also curious about the lifestyle?are you still involved with it and to what extent are you still into it?

well my SO and I have finally gotten together fulltime.now it's the time for both of us to get comfortable with each other.I would assume as time goes by we will get into some form of either role play or light bdsm.right now she has some items she has purchased from Fredricks that she likes to entice me with(boy does she look HOT in them).and she is hot no matter what she wears!!looking forward to our time spent together and getting to know each other ALOT better.

for me it's just like the federal government to step in and try and control peoples rights.why don't they step in where it would do some good.how about with the oil companies and their record profits quarter after quarter. to me this government is so currupt and our fearless leaders are only watching out for there pocketbooks and wallets. we as the people who elected them need to hold them more accountable.how about every 6 months there is some form of accountability done where if they fall below a certain standard for a years period they are fired and replaced with the runner up.somehoe someway there they have to be abale to have accountability to and for the people who elected them.

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everyone had their own personal likes and dislikes in the D's lifeatyle.this lifestyle is a diverse as the people in it. I have been involves in the lifestyle for over 9 years now.my first(sub/slut)experience was with a total pain slut.you couldn't whip,spank,cane,flog her hard enough.if there were not bruises or she didnn't feel it at least 5 days later it wasn't a good session.I found out real quick that it wasn't my thing.while I do enjoy some degree of impact play.i don't want it to be so intense as to leave bruises or welts.now if she wants to feel it a little the next day that is different.mainly just a little sore when she sits. once again it's all what the dynamics of the relationship,and what both are comfortable with and what they like.just like a vinilla realtionship.not everybody is suited to be with a particular person.you have to find someone who is suited to your tastes. both physically and and what they like.

first to spend a little more and get a good pair.with that in mind make sure you get the adjustable kind.that way you will first be able to put them on lightly . as you get more comfortable with the pressure you can adjust them a little at a time.comstantly putting more pressure and pain while increasing and pushing your limits. hope this helps.

doesn't sound like this dog will ever change.he knew the rules.you both sad down and talked about them.I personally think he is a cheater now and maybe always.some people out there just are.just who they are and there nature. you are too good for him.kick him to the curb,and find someone who is worthy of your affections. sorry if this is so blunt.but it's just another guys point of view.

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I agree totally with you sun flower on the idea of another persons happiness being paramount to me in the realtionship.Where the other persons wants and needs are more important than your own. I have been married 2x and while they were in thier own way fulfilling there was always something missing.Now I have met the most incredible woman.One who complements me in every way.Where I am rough around the edges she is smooth.Where I am quick to act she is thoughtfull.I have never believed in the term soul mate.I thought it was something for writers,and fairy tales.Well she is my soul mate.And,yes I do now believe there is such a thing. I am so lucky to finally have found the one true love of my life.She is the most important person in my life,and the one who my life revolves around.

It's something I enjoy from time to time.Especially when doing a bdsm scene.

How about a black leather pair of motor cycle shaps.A black leather vest. with a flogger in his hand.A black leather hood optional.

for most doms or masters ,and subs/slaves who have been involved in the lifestyle for a significant number of years it is not a form of roleplay.it is not a switch that you turn on and off at a minutes notice.and for those who are naturally A(alpha)type personalities it is not a form of role play.it's there natural personality comming forth. now role playing can and most times is a significant part of the scene.some people need this form of interaction as much as most people need the interaction of a loving relationship.for most true slaves this is there life,and they can tell a fake or a person roleplayijng in a new york minute.

My Dom wear consists of a pair of motor cycle leathers (lower part)and a hood.Also the usual lifestyle toys.Floggers,canes,crops,cuffs,blindfolds,etc. Some of the roleplay scenes I have done which I like are cop/prisioner,stranger/stranger,boss/secretary,hooker/john,vampire/victim.and others.You can get as creative as you want while roleplaying.As with anything your only limited by your imagination.

Wow!!!Thanks for all the responces. As you know I have been involved in the bdsm scene for quite a while now.Was most active while over in the Seattle/Tacoma area.Munchies afterhour parties and my own sub.Even made some lifeatyle furniture for myself and wound up making some for other people in the area.Especially when they found out I would make a St.Andrews cross for 175$ instead of the 495 they charge at most the places on line. Now my So(who I happened to find on a bdsm site)is brand new to the lifeatyle.So we are taking it real slow and easy.I don't know where this is leading us,and how involved we will become.Needless to say anything we do in this lifeatyle will be a bonus. As far as role play there are some that are totally off limits to both her and I.But you can have so much fun and keep the relationship interesting with this.You can even incorporate the bdsm scene into it as well.I'd have to say for me even though I have been active in the bdsm scene I like some forms of role play even better than straight bdsm. Oncwe again thenks for all your input.

this is an easy one.which do you prefer?either role play or a bdsm scene,and why.also what is your favorite role playing scene? I have been involved in the bdsm scene for quite a while now.while that is satisfying it's still a big turn on for me to do some roler playing every now and then.so many different ways to do the same scene.you can get as creaticve as you want with props and all,or keep it fairly simple.

another place you can go for information is called fet life.it's a site with everyone on it in the lifestyle to some degree.from people in the curious(beginning stage) to people who have been in the lifestyle for years.you can probably get most if not all your questions answered there. would still advise going to a munchy in your area.getting to know people and seeing how they interact with one another.

another way is to find out if there are any munches around your area.a munch is where like minded people get together and socialise.you can hear all different conversations.from kids in school to topics in the lifestyle.that would give him a good opportunity to discuss his ideas of bdsm with other people who are in this lifestyle.also it would give him the opportunity to get more comfortable with the idea of bdsm. this lifestyle is as diverse as the people in it.what works for one may not work for the other.

I learned along time ago to never say"never again".I have been married twice and of course divorced twice....lol...I was on another site.Not one where you might find the love of your life.One I thought was safe.One where your not supposed to find someone to fall head over heals in love with.More like a freinds with benefits,or a slightly kinkier evrsion. Just goes to show you.You never know when that little guy with the quiver full of arrows is going to start shooting at you.Well he seems to have emptied the whole quiver in my back side....lol. Needless to say I have found the most incredible,wonderfull,and beautifull woman.Sometime in the next year we will be married.Someone who it turns out is my soul mate(which is another myth that I never believed in before).I found my soul mate and she fulfills me and makes me very happy.I have come to love her very much. She is on this site and she knows this is mainly directed at her.I love you Sweetheart!!!

nice post!! I have a little wall plack that says. God made the earth and rested. God made man and rested. Then god made woman. And since neither god nor man has rested.

thats not all you have babe.as far as I'm concerned you have the whole package.alot more than hair smile and beautifull tits.tho you know how much I like them

Don't forget the different pressure you can do with your lips around his penis.Start by just barely touching it as you work your way up and down.Tease him!Then as he get more turned on gradually increase the pressure around it with your lips.For most men it's the friction caused by pressure on certain parts of their penis that makes them orgasm.I know this works for me,and I think if you ask most men that is what they will want.

sometimes I'm more interested in just totally satisfing my SO.so I don't think about me.

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