Teens And Porn

[nosleepnmesa]

As most of us know I have five children and 3 of them are teens. I am curious as to how many mothers and/or fathers out there would buy a subscribtion to a magizine for their teen. I am not talking about a extremely penetrating mag. I am talking about a playboy or something along those lines, since I myself find playboy to be a very classy magizine.

I bought my husband a subscribtion to playboy, well when he is done with it, he gives it to our 16year old son, I myself find nothing wrong with it since one way or another he will prolly find worse mags then that at his age. Heck and it keeps him out of our porno and our rooom. Although Playboy is not really in my eyes considered porn. Although my husband did recieve a DVD from playboy it isnt really to bad, still pretty clean I mean it does show two women togeather but nothing hard core, my husband let my teens watch it.

I rather my son learn the facts of sex and life from us then his friends since friends can be misleading etc.. So I am curious.

So how many of you would allow it and why?

[whiskeywoman]

For me myself?

No, I wouldn't.

When my son was still alive, I refused to let him attend his school's sex ed classes, because I found the material highly questionable.

They wanted to teach young children (12-13) about sex, beastiality, homoseuality and alternitive lifestyles.

Now, don't go jumping on me just yet, let me finish.

I have no biased against trans sexuals, and I have no bias against lesbian or gay lifestyles.

I DO however have something against the school system teaching this stuff to my son.

Kids at that age are just learning about their bodies, and are becomming curious about members of the opposite sex, they really don't need to have homosexual and alternitive lifestyles thrown into the mix adding more confusion into their young horemone filled lives.

I know they will be exposed to it anyways, but, kids grow up so fast already as it is, I really don't want to encourage them to go out and try and do the stuff in porns, and find myself a grandma before I am ready.

I want my kids to make their own decisions about who they are without encouraging/denying anything.

If my 8 yr. old decides in 9 years that she wants to be a lesbian, fine, so be it, I will stand by her choice.

When I teach my kids about sex, believe me, I plan to teach them EVERYTHING, Sex, babies, STDS, safe sex practices and the ramifications it can bring to ANY relationship.

Stuff that porn DOESN'T teach.

[chickenmom]

I wouldn't. Kids and teens don't have the mental capacity to understand and process what's really happening. Exposing children to those types until they are adults puts them at risk for soooo many things. We are their parents, not their friends.

[nosleepnmesa]

Well I am going to fill you in on a little more. My children and I have a open door policy, they want to talk about sex I am okay with that maybe I am just a little more casual with my teens then most. Like I said in my original post is that I allow my teen to read playboy, and we talk about it. Playboy sure doesn't show much but what a naked women!

I wish they would put sex ed back in the schools. I know when I was a child I took the course. I do believe that the parent should also attend the class, with their child. That way the parent can discuss things with them while they watch the movie. I know when I was a child sex ed wasn't until I was 15 which is about the time children hit puberty. Not anymore though heck my 9year old girl as already hit it.

I do believe though that teens are going to get their hands on worse material from their friends. Exsample, I was cleaning my sons room one day, this is before he got his hands on our porn, I found a video and a girlie mag that was HIGHLY provocation. Well instead of flipping out which I know alot of parents this day in age would do I set them on his dresser, in view so he knew that I have found them. When he came home he didn't say anything about them to me, he did go to my husband and said I see mom found something, you think I should go talk to her. My husband of course said yes.

My son came to me and we talked, his friend had given it to him. I talked with his friend and his friends parents and we both agreed that if they were that curious then they should have come to us. Well nothing really came of the situtation, my teen gets my husband's playboy when he is done with it, and yes my teen watched the video from playboy which was in EXTREMELY GOOD taste and had more nudity then anything else. Maybe I am wrong in alot of peoples eyes to have such a open door policy with my children, but I rather they come to me and talk and ask questions then to learn it from their friends. My teens know about STDs and alot of other information. I have always answered their questions honestly, and when they have asked me if I have ever been in a FFM situtation I answer them honestly. Let me remind you though I am not talking about a 13year old I am talking about a 16year old but if for any reason at all my 9year old daughter came to me and asked me about sex or anything else. I wouldn't beat around the bush or anything else I would be straight up honest with her.

I am sure I am gonna catch a little grief about it from some people on here, which is okay with me. I am a opened minded parent and I would expect my children to come to me with anything, they all know we can talk about sex, and they can ask questions and know they are going to get information from me or my husband with nothing hidden or anything else.

I also believe that society has put alot of bad on this subject, I believe that it is a parents job to protect their children, I also do believe that you can be a parent and a friend to your child at the same time depending on the situtation. I will always be the parent but when my child needs a friend to turn to and someone that will listen as a friend and not a parent I am here for that also.

[promiscuouseuphoria]

You know, it's funny. The conversation about not wanting to expose children to alternative lifestyels, and all. One of my closest friends told me hew knew he was gay at age 12. He didn't need "exposure". He just knew. Similarly, I think most preteens will know if they're getting excited over people of their own sex, or of the opposite sex. I don't think keeping them sheltered does them any favors - in this case, it just signals them out during a tumultuous time, and as Howard pointed out, they'll hear it all from friends/media/etc anyway.

My children are still far too young for porn, or the sex talk, or anything else along those lines. However, when that time comes, I see myself taking Katprr's approach. I'd rather them get it from me first than the rest of the world. And that includes letting my son flip through my partner's old Playboy issues rather than downloading hardcore porn at a friend's house.

[Valntyn]

My hope, when my husband and I do have children, is that we'll also have the 'open door' policy, where if our children have ANY questions, sex-related or not, they'll feel comfortable coming to us to ask/talk about things.

I remember growing up, sex was NOT something my (single) mom talked with me about. Everything I heard, I heard from my friends -- tell me how accurate THAT was! I also remember being 17, the only remaining virgin of our circle of friends, and still not knowing what certain things were. I don't want my kids to still be confused and unsure of themselves when they're in their 30s like I am now. I remember, when my husband and I were still in that newly-dating phase and I met his parents. They were so open and blunt it was scary, but refreshing! And I'll never blush as much as I did the day they made the joke about running out of Altoids... and then asking them to explain it to me, cuz I didn't understand!!

My husband and I each month get and enjoy Playboy, too. When they're at an appropriate age, I'd much rather have our future children looking through those and asking us questions than getting in trouble at an early age because they didn't know any better. Just my two cents.

[whiskeywoman]

Howard,

I was simply trying to point out that the school system rearely teaches the actual biology class that I attended when I was in Highschool.

Yes, I know homosexuality and trans sexuals and beastiality still occur.

And Yes, I know my kids will be exposed to it at some point in their life.

I just don't think kids should be exposed to it in 5th grade!

They are still trying to figure out who they are, why confuse them more by saying "you might be gay"

Some households still frown upon people being gay, and the kids are the ones who are punished for it, being told that they are nasty or wrong, or sinning and such for even THINKING they are gay or like a member of the same sex.

I'm sorry, but, I want to try and teach my children that if they are going to sleep with someone, then they should be prepared for the physical aspects as well as the emotional, and that they should at least care about the person they are sleeping with.

I also want them to learn about the various types of STDS and use of condoms and dental dams, and general safe sex practices.

The last thing ANY parent wants is for a son or daughter to come home at 14 or 15 and say "Mom I'm in trouble"

The sex ed class I refused to let my son attened, did not teach the dangers of unprotected sex or why.

I think the open door policy is great, I really do, and sometimes it works for some folks, and other times it dosn't.

I just don't agree with having total strangers tell my kids that its ok to wear one of their sisters dresses an use moms makeup, and go to school like that.

Pre teens and teens should be more concerned about that big math test on friday, rather than worrying about if they are gay or if they have an STD, or if they are gonna be parents.

If my kids feel comfortable enough to come up to me and want to ask questions about sex, fine, but I won't force them to do so, and I won't encourage them to find a partner and have sex by allowing them access to porn.

Yes, I plan on having "THE TALK" but only when the time is right, and as parents, we all kinda have a radar that goes off when that time comes.

It is bad enough right now that my daughter wants to constantly lick her sisters crotch, I don't want to encourage her.

[sam7970]

If I ever decide to have children, I will definitely have an open relationship with my children. Meaning that they can come to ME (or their father) and ask questions about ANYTHING including sex. I think that a lots of parents need to get rid of the 'I am the parent, you are the child; You don't ask question, you do as I say; And no talking about sex in this household' mentality. This is the 21st century, and kids are bombarded with sexual images and refrences everywhere they turn these days. It is a parent's responsibility to teach their children morals, teach them about self respect, how to think for themselves, and about sex.

There is NOTHING wrong with teaching sex ed in schools. From my experience, a lot of kids don't pay attention to what is taught in those classes anyway. Its just like when they teach kids about drugs in school. Right after classes are over they go light up a cigarette, weed, meth, or do some other kind of drug; they don't pay attention or care. Same thing with sex, they are too busy listening to what their friends have to say about sex. A lot of girls that I went to school with were pregnant before high school graduation or got pregnant a couple months after graduation, and I sat through the same sex ed class that they did where the teacher taught us all about condoms and STDs. Now, don't get me wrong, not every kid ignores the teacher. For those students who do pay attention in class, they get very informative and useful information. BUT, it is not the school system's job to teach your children about sex, that should start at home. So that when they do teach it in school, what they are learning is supplemental to what their PARENTS taught them, NOT their friends or other sources.

I see things this way, if parents teach their children morals and self respect, they won't have to worry about who, when, or where their children pick up info about sex. Because their children will know wrong from right, and hopefully if they have questions they will come to you for answers.

It is never too early to talk to your children about sex. A lot of people think that kids are stupid, or that they are angels, or that they are just not ready for the sex talk, I'll wait till my son/daughter asks ME questions. To tell you the truth, if you are waiting till your kids come to you for info, you have passed the point of when you should have sat your kid down and have the SEX talk, NOT the 'birds and the bees' talk. If they are asking questions, they have already gotten info from friends and other sources.

By 8 yrs. old I was VERY curious about boys, my body, and sex. I didn't get the sex talk until I was about 12 or 13, and the "if you ever get pregnant, I will kill you" speech (and no, I don't think they were joking when they gave me that speech .) My little brother got the 'birds and bees' talk when he was in Pre-K, cause his "girlfriend" used to kiss him on the lips everyday when he was leaving school. My little sister also got the 'birds and bees' talk around the same age, and every couple of years or so, my parents or I have another talk with them. They are now 12 and 16, and they know MOST of the basics about the male and female body, how babies are made, STDs, homosexuals, transexuals, transvestites, and about sex. I have not broached the subject of masturbation, cause I don't know how, and don't know if I should. I was hoping they could figure out that bit by themselves. Back to the subject; my sister (16 yrs old) tells me jokes about sex, and listens to songs about strippers and blowjobs, and she reads the men's magazines that I order, but she has no interest in boyfriends or having sex. And believe me, she is very educated in the subject of sex, some of the things that come out of her mouth shocks me sometimes. My brother (12 yrs old) comes to me to help him fill out those worksheets that he gets in health class with all the female reproductive parts and sex organs like the uterus, fallopian tubes, vulva, clitorus, and anus. Yes, I take them both to rated R movies, and I speak very frank about sex in my home.

If parents spoke more to their children about sex, most would not have to worry about their children having sex too soon, teenage pregnancies, or STDS. Just because you talk to a child about sex, let them ready about sex, watch a Playboy video about sex, or even if they come across hard core porn on the internet, does not mean that they will want to run out and try it.

So, Katprr, if I have children I hope that I will be as open and confident as you when it comes to educating them about sex. You are doing a great job.

[nosleepnmesa]

Howard I totally agree with you! My daugher is 9 and has been menstruating for about 6months now. We had a talk before she actually had her period so she really wasn't surprised to much about the signs and stuff. When she did finally start she came to me and said mom that horney feeling you tried to explain to me I think I am feeling it. Needless to say we had another long talk about it. I never thought in a million years that my daughter would have this at nine. As far as the breast development Oh MY I am gonna be jealous my daughter at 9 is already wearing a size B cup almost a C. Thank goodness she hasn't had any problems with others nor has she been teased or asked questions by her friends nor others at school.

Maybe I am just to open with my children on alot of issues, but I know when I was growing up my parents NEVER had a talk with me about anything at all, the school nurse gave me alot of information and my friends. I have to say though I sure wasn't expecting to have to have this type of talk with my nine year old so early. Like I have said before my children and I have a OPEN DOOR policy, we have talked about everything from sex to mastrubation. YEs although I HIGHLY agree nine is a little to young but what do you do when your nine year old is having these feeling and sensations but to talk to her.

Children that start young are losing alot of their I feel childhood, it is alot of responsibility to take on at such a young age.

[VALERIE]

I WOULD NEVER BUY OR GIVE MY CHILDREN, ANY TYPE OF SEXUAL MAGAZINE NOT TOO MENTION LET THEM WATCH A MOVIE. KIDS HORMONES DON'T SEEM TO NEED HELP BEING WORKED UP. I BELIEVE ITS A PARENTS JOB TO TALK TO THEIRE CHILDREN ABOUT SEX & SAFE SEX, ALSO ABOUT MAGS & MOVIES, BUT THEY DON'T NEED YOU TO POINT TO THE DIRECTION TO FIND THOUGHS THINGS. CHILDREN WILL FIND THEM IF THEY ARE THAT INTERESTED. NO NEED TO GIVE A LITTLE PUSH. ONE THING SOME TIMES LEADS TO ANOTHER. GETTING TURNED ON BY THESE THINGS IS NORMAL, & BEING AN ADULT YOU CAN SATIFY YOUR NEED. CHILDREN SHOULD BE TRYING TO CONTROL THOUGHS FEELINGS. PARENTS SHOULD HELP THE CONTROL & UNDERSTAND SEX & SEXUAL NEEDS.

[Draven]

i will say only one thing and it about covers everything in life for kids. it starts at home!!!! as a parent it is up to you to be involved in yer kids lives. you can't not leave it up to that the schools or the coaches or anyone one in there lives, but you. they learn from what they see everyday. so in those words again its is up to you to be involved in thier lives, and is up to the parent to make that decision. beacuse they know that kid better then anyone.

[sexynshyrissa]

My opinion is the more you hide stuff from your kids the more they will want to find it. If you let porn and sexual items infront of them they will not be as likely to be fucking the next door neighbor with out protection therefore creating more demon spawn (children of young parents)

Ris

[ambrelyn]

My parents were always very open with me. I could aske them any question I wanted. I saw a porn when I was about 10 because they let me watch it. My mother bought me a playgirl when I was about 13 or 14. They explained all the good and bad aspects of sex. All the std's and pregnancy and how if I decided I wanted to have sex that they would see to it that I had birth control of some kind. They answered any questions, even as silly as: how do boys run with that between their legs if it hurts so much to be hit there. That was a young question. I knew more about sex than any of my friends. It didn't make me want to rush out and try it. There was no mystery there. I wasn't curious about it so I was ok with waiting until I felt ready and masturbating in the mean time. I didn't have sex until I met my fiancee last year, and I was 24. I think it's best to take away the mystery and curiosity of it all. By all means, warn your kids of all the pitfalls they may encounter, but don't shelter them so that they don't know what they're doing or what should or shouldn't happen when they decide to have sex. Explaining to them, or showing them about sex doesn't automatically mean they're gonna wanna run right out and try it. It didn't for me or my brother. That's my experience anyway. We can't change the world we live in, realistically, and sex is everywhere. I would rather my kids learn about things like this in the safe environment of their own home, rather than out there somewhere with their friends or worse.

[Mikayla1]

Boy have I missed a GREAT topic!

While everyone has made some interesting points and it is really fun to read every parents separate point of view, now I will tell you mine.

First, Howard, I am not sure if a child is 9 or 10 before they start "having trouble with erections" my son is almost 5 and gets erections, dry humps things, plays with himself, etc. I have already told him that touching himself is normal and healthy, as long as he does it in private. Keep in mind, I am open sexually, but he has not seen me nor my hubby doing anything sexual - so I do not think that it waits until 9 or 10 anymore.

Second, I too have subscriptions to Penthouse and Playboy. I would NOT hand it over to my son. I expect him to "find" it on his own. Handing it over to him seems "indecent" in some way - IN MY MIND - so please take no disrespect if you would do this personally (anyone who reads this). To me, giving my child porn is like rushing him ahead or not being the parent I want to be. I too want an open door policy - but I don't want to be the "cool mom" who smokes dope with her kids, drinks with them, or gives them porn just because she wants to make sure they have all those experiences WITH HER. I want to be the Mom who balances the cool with the appropriate parental measures.

Therefore, to me - having my son find my porn stash like I did, then letting him keep taking it - and being "cool" with him then looking at it if he is at an appropriate age, is where I would stand on this. I would NOT just give it to him any more than I would hire him a stripper or get him a hooker to welcome him into his teenage years (not that there is a real comparison here!)

I think that Whiskey is doing what many parents don't take the time to do - find out what is being taught in our schools. Now, would I necessarily keep my son out of sex ed? That I am not sure of - he is only 5 - we will have to see what they are teaching when he gets there! I do think that when you are a parent - you do what you think is good for your kids - and I think everyone who has answered here has or will be doing that. No one does something that intentionally hurts their child. So some parents have different views - we have to accept that and just say "I wouldn't do that with my child!" If you are one of those people who looks for validation for every decision you make with your children, then you need to wise up cause you are doubting yourself and they will sense that!

Be strong in your convictions to make the right choice and you will - that is the best motherly advice I ever got - from my Mom and boy did she make mistakes with me.

Mikayla

[whiskeywoman]

You know, ever since I answered this post, it has been nagging at the back of mind.

So I slept on it, and thought some more about why it bothered me so much.

I came up with the answer, the reason I didn't want to send my son to sex ed, I don't want a complete stranger telling my kids what is acceptable for them to do in my family.

No, I am not biased, but as a parent, I do have to look out for my childrens well being, and yes that includes family members as well.

I have relatives that are very much Catholic, and some are racists.

While I myself am not a racist and try and teach my kids that racism is wrong and pointless, can you imagine the hell that would break loose if one of my girls brought over a female lover or a transvestite lover, beause their sex ed class said this stuff is alright?!

Yes, I admit it, I previewed the materials they were going to teach,

I wanted to know what my son was going to be exposed to, and I objected to it.

I frequently visit the kid's school and talk with the teachers about their progress and any problems that may be seen at school and not at home and if there is anything I can do to help to correct the problem.

I'm sorry, I just think that I should know what my children are being taught in school.

I also read the girl's journals, I bought them so that if they were unable to articulate what they wanted to tell me in words, they could write a letter to me, so I could still communicate with them.

At times is is a useful little tool, so I know what they think are issues, and how they see I handled things and perhaps change things up a bit the next time.

I also can read from them that very soon it will be time to have "THE TALK"

I don't subscribe to Hustler or Playboy or any other adult magazine.

I don't have any adult videos, unless you count the 100 plus horror movies I own as adult.

I just don't get into that kind of stuff.

What works for one family, may not always work for another.

This whole parent thing is so unfair, they didn't give me any batteries for their remote controls so I can turn the volume down or off, so I can't use it to make them slow down or redo anything, and what's worse, they forgot to give me the owners manual!

I can't return them, and I can't trade them in on newer models.

This sucks! LOL

[nosleepnmesa]

Whiskeywomsn, I agree they should have gave us all remotes for our children and the dam owners manual. when we got pregnant. I understand were you are coming from and you are correct in saying that every family and situtation is different. It is true to that parents are reponsible for teaching their children about sex education in the best way they can.

Also I started this post because curiousity was getting the best of me and I wanted to see what other adults thought about this issue. I know that not alot of people have the open door policy, also every family is different and has different believes. Although my children and I talk about everything and anything you gave me an idea I think I am going to buy my kids journals, even thoug they tell me everything all the time since, I know I will catch a little grief on this comment from someone I am sure, am not only their parent but their friend when they need one.

The journal thing is a wonderful idea.

[Tyger]

My hope, when my husband and I do have children, is that we'll also have the 'open door' policy, where if our children have ANY questions, sex-related or not, they'll feel comfortable coming to us to ask/talk about things.

I remember growing up, sex was NOT something my (single) mom talked with me about. Everything I heard, I heard from my friends -- tell me how accurate THAT was! I also remember being 17, the only remaining virgin of our circle of friends, and still not knowing what certain things were. I don't want my kids to still be confused and unsure of themselves when they're in their 30s like I am now. I remember, when my husband and I were still in that newly-dating phase and I met his parents. They were so open and blunt it was scary, but refreshing! And I'll never blush as much as I did the day they made the joke about running out of Altoids... and then asking them to explain it to me, cuz I didn't understand!!

My husband and I each month get and enjoy Playboy, too. When they're at an appropriate age, I'd much rather have our future children looking through those and asking us questions than getting in trouble at an early age because they didn't know any better. Just my two cents.

Yes, you were quite fun to shock at times!! Though I met you right after your *deflowering*.

I hope to have an open-door policy with my daughter. I think that the double-standard of it's ok for boys to know and do it, but not girls, is still high today as it was in years past. My husband suffers from that too. This we will come to many an arguement over. I forsee it. I want a much more comfortable relationship with her, and I want her to feel COMFORTABLE coming to me with anything! But, I also want her to understand fully, that there are consequences to any sort of action. Some can be deadly.

If you've read all of my posts, you will remember that I have Genital Herpes. I want my daughter to know this when she is older. So that she will know that ANYONE can get something like that. There's no certian LOOK to someone that has an STD. I hope to be a bit more of an example, and a positive role model for her. I love my mother, but she was a poor educator in the sex department for me (which is kinda funny, considering she was a teacher! )

I think it's in HOW it is handled, spoken of, encouraged/discouraged.

My *also single* mother didn't tell me a THING about sex! I took a sex ed class in the 5th grade, and each year after that, and the courses got progressively more mature. In the 5th grade, it was basically, learning your own sexes genitals and what they did. That was it. In high school, I opted to take "Family Courses", and there was a full semister on sexual education. I found it very informative (got an A+ on the male genitals~still a virgin even ), and allowed me to understand and learn a lot of stuff I was a bit too shy to ask out loud!

[Tyger]

My hope, when my husband and I do have children, is that we'll also have the 'open door' policy, where if our children have ANY questions, sex-related or not, they'll feel comfortable coming to us to ask/talk about things.

I remember growing up, sex was NOT something my (single) mom talked with me about. Everything I heard, I heard from my friends -- tell me how accurate THAT was! I also remember being 17, the only remaining virgin of our circle of friends, and still not knowing what certain things were. I don't want my kids to still be confused and unsure of themselves when they're in their 30s like I am now. I remember, when my husband and I were still in that newly-dating phase and I met his parents. They were so open and blunt it was scary, but refreshing! And I'll never blush as much as I did the day they made the joke about running out of Altoids... and then asking them to explain it to me, cuz I didn't understand!!

My husband and I each month get and enjoy Playboy, too. When they're at an appropriate age, I'd much rather have our future children looking through those and asking us questions than getting in trouble at an early age because they didn't know any better. Just my two cents.

Yes, you were quite fun to shock at times!! Though I met you right after your *deflowering*.

I hope to have an open-door policy with my daughter. I think that the double-standard of it's ok for boys to know and do it, but not girls, is still high today as it was in years past. My husband suffers from that too. This we will come to many an arguement over. I forsee it. I want a much more comfortable relationship with her, and I want her to feel COMFORTABLE coming to me with anything! But, I also want her to understand fully, that there are consequences to any sort of action. Some can be deadly.

If you've read all of my posts, you will remember that I have Genital Herpes. I want my daughter to know this when she is older. So that she will know that ANYONE can get something like that. There's no certian LOOK to someone that has an STD. I hope to be a bit more of an example, and a positive role model for her. I love my mother, but she was a poor educator in the sex department for me (which is kinda funny, considering she was a teacher! )

I think it's in HOW it is handled, spoken of, encouraged/discouraged.

My *also single* mother didn't tell me a THING about sex! I took a sex ed class in the 5th grade, and each year after that, and the courses got progressively more mature. In the 5th grade, it was basically, learning your own sexes genitals and what they did. That was it. In high school, I opted to take "Family Courses", and there was a full semister on sexual education. I found it very informative (got an A+ on the male genitals~still a virgin even ), and allowed me to understand and learn a lot of stuff I was a bit too shy to ask out loud!

[mustang1]

Playboy is very tame when compaired to what kids see on TV and other publications. I would have no problem with my 17 yr old son reading it. Hustler is another matter! Overall I would not mind him seeing "Playboy" mags, they are done very tastefull,,Porno movies will have to wait untill he is 18 and wants to buy them. I dont think I should give someone that stuff. If I want one, I buy it, no one gives it to me. If me and the wife want one together we buy it.

[smariette]

I kind of laughed when I read that teens don’t have the mental capacity to understand porn.. Here’s the way I see it. I’m 20 yeras old, and it wasn’t too long ago that I was myself a teen! My parents always had an open door policy, but they did not talk to me about sex until I was a teen, no school taught me about sex, I learned about it in first grade from other kids. So, it’s going to happen, regardless of your efforts, what you as parents should (in my opinions) do is simply be there for them for their questions and to inform them of the truths, and realty of pregnancy, STD’s, protection, and the like. They do not need your help tabout the basics, they will figure that out on their own!!!

You cannot hide your children from society. They will encounter ghomosexualtiy whether you want them to or not.

And so, I come down to my bottom line, yes. I believe that kids should be able to see porn, especially like in this circumstanc where you are giving the kid playboys. A 16-year-old boy has so much built up sexual tension, if he has no means to release it, he will divert that tension into some other way like aggression. Also, he is going to find porn hisself, and like you said, probably more hardcore porn which you won’t even know what he is watching! Maybe abusive porn, or things that will get in his head that is acceptable, when it really isn’t something you’d want your child to be viewing. The kid is 16. I think giving him playboys is just fine. In 2 years, he will be legal to do it hisself, and how much more mature really is he going to get in those 2 years??

Sorry if I am offending anybody, but I am just speaking ofrom experience. Iwas that age only 4 short years ago, so it is still very fresh in my mind!!