Tyger Posted May 4, 2008 Report Share Posted May 4, 2008 LMAO I love the squirt bottle idea....like a bad puppy!! NO!! *squirt squirt*As far as "being raped", well, when you're engaging in bondage play, this is with a lover you uber-TRUST. Hopefully, all your lovers you trust, since you're sharing your body with them. Bondage takes a deeper kind of trust. One that says that the DOM will absolutely STOP when the safe word is uttered. If not, the play doesn't happen again, cuz the SUB NEEEEEEDS to feel a high level of trust to allow this to happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted May 4, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2008 Reading all of these replies has made me curious, too. But I understand the need for trust and that can take a long time to build to a level where you are secure doing this. I think I'll hold off and just keep reading the replies..they are really kind of stimulating! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted May 4, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2008 We decided on popsicle. We're not heavily into this area of play, just some tie up fun. And yes you have to have trust in your partner. It's foremost. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members masquedxangel Posted May 8, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 8, 2008 Penguin. =)The sad thing is I've yet to have teh secks, but I already know I'm into bondage and I chose my safeword about a year ago for when I need it. xDDDD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eminatic Posted May 10, 2008 Report Share Posted May 10, 2008 you never know...before i had sex i THOUGHT i knew what i was into...and WOW was i way off! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members krisleightate Posted July 29, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 29, 2008 My safe word has always been Daisy .... I know I have a flower thing. But normally I am in situations that call for hand signals. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members elise Posted November 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 "No means no!!"Actually, it doesn't, in bondage play.Bondage, and sex in bondage, can only work if you absolutely trust your partner. It works both ways. The concept of a safeword or signal is introduced so the sub can play the role of resistance to the hilt. In bondage, "no" means YES!!! The thrill of playing out a force fantasy (I like that term better than 'rape' fantasy) is in no small part the DOM forcing his will on his partner, and the sub resisting, struggling against the DOM and her bonds, the protesting that she doesn't want it. We have always used the same safeword: my HB's name. For whatever reason we've never used each other's names in our sex life, except when something is wrong. It gets each other's attention immediately, we stop, we correct the problem, and we move on. In our bondage sex, I am almost always gagged (I absolutely love being gagged), so obviously a safeword doesn't work. We use the same safe-signal as Tyger... I extend my middle fingers (if he can see my hands, depends on what position we're using) or I hum "shave and a haircut... two bits". The beauty of it is I haven't had to use our safeword or signal in years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Neuroticax Posted November 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 "No means no!!"Actually, it doesn't, in bondage play.Bondage, and sex in bondage, can only work if you absolutely trust your partner. It works both ways. The concept of a safeword or signal is introduced so the sub can play the role of resistance to the hilt. In bondage, "no" means YES!!! The thrill of playing out a force fantasy (I like that term better than 'rape' fantasy) is in no small part the DOM forcing his will on his partner, and the sub resisting, struggling against the DOM and her bonds, the protesting that she doesn't want it.I don't think I've ever said no during play.. I'm enjoying myself too much. lol I'm pretty lucky with my boyfriend knowing my sounds. Like my "This hurts stop" ow and my "Oh shit keep going" ow. Overall there really isn't a time where he's stopped because of pain unless my period is being expected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shariana Posted November 13, 2008 Members Report Share Posted November 13, 2008 My SO and I just decided on pumpernickel the other day so we are allll set for a night of light bondage when I get to see him next! xD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bazil323 Posted November 28, 2008 Members Report Share Posted November 28, 2008 Lol, I haven't actually tried bondage yet, though I do want to. I've mentioned it to hubby, but the time never really feels right. So, we haven't decided on anything yet.I did have to add that this is one thing I didn't learn from TT. I learned it from the Kushiel series by Jacqueline Carey. Fantastic, btw. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted November 29, 2008 Members Report Share Posted November 29, 2008 Lol, I haven't actually tried bondage yet, though I do want to. I've mentioned it to hubby, but the time never really feels right. So, we haven't decided on anything yet.I did have to add that this is one thing I didn't learn from TT. I learned it from the Kushiel series by Jacqueline Carey. Fantastic, btw.Oh a fellow fan!!! I love her books, she's writing again ya know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members shdowulf39 Posted March 23, 2009 Members Report Share Posted March 23, 2009 I have been involved in the D's lifestyle for over 8 years now.Not really interested in it full time,but I do like my play sessions.I will NOT inter into a play session without a safe word or jesture.That is for her protection!If and when that word is used all play stops immediately.Then we discuss why she felt she had to use her safe word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members shoupja Posted March 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted March 25, 2009 What do you do if they don't listen to the safe word?That's really not that difficult: YOU DUMP THE GUY! NO does NOT MEAN NO in bondage, but the safe word does. ALWAYS AND EVERYTIME! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sam7970 Posted April 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Oh a fellow fan!!! I love her books, she's writing again ya know!I absolutely love Jacqueline Carey's Kushiel series. I hope she comes out with some more books soon. Addictive reading Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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