The Nerve Of Ppl!

[angelkisses98]

ok..i am VERY insulted AND offended...i have never had a problem with anyone on this board being offensive or inappropriate to me in any way...until tonight..i am posting this PM i received, but i am not posting who i received this from.

i cannot believe, the nerve that this person had, to come in, PM me, insult me, my husband, and the sanction of our HAPPY marriage. this is stepping WAY over the line IMO.

THE PM I RECEIVED!!

im glad to see you here...i have posted pics in the mens section if ur interested...

let me know if ur interested in chatting...and yes i did see u r married...but masturbating is a great way to make friends and relax...

i hope u enjoy ur time here today

bye for now...

[angelkisses98]

nope, not a newbie

[flutterbie]

I got one similar to that...

[sun_flower969]

I did too awhile ago, same dude I am certain. The thing is I hate to say it. Some of the girls on this site have probably indulged him in the past and he is lonely, looking for someone, anyone to indulge him again. He's testing the waters, fishing if you will, seeing who will bite... Is this appropriate for his forum? I dunno. I simply told him I wasn't interested, that I was married, thanks anyway and that was it.

[mystofpric]

Love, unfortunately it only takes one person to bite. However I'd report it. It was unsolicited and inapporpriate. I'm sorry hun. The downside of the arguement is that some of us (and I'm not saying you) happily flirt and get raunchy and this could lead people to believe inapporpriate things. However, as long as it is consentual then no bigs, but you clearly don't want anything to do with it so report him.

[mailahn97]

I would report him as he is inappropriate in his conduct through that and the one time I met up with him in the room. No one should have to deal with that. For one he does it without ever speaking to you. It isn't like he chatted with you in chat and then did it. He just picked you out and sent a message. That is bull. Yes we flirt, but with people we have gotten to know....big difference.

[synirr]

nope, not a newbie

That changes things. I was going to say just ignore it, but...

[mystofpric]

I would report him as he is inappropriate in his conduct through that and the one time I met up with him in the room. No one should have to deal with that. For one he does it without ever speaking to you. It isn't like he chatted with you in chat and then did it. He just picked you out and sent a message. That is bull. Yes we flirt, but with people we have gotten to know....big difference.

Oh I agree and please don't think i was condeming anyone (i'm just as guilty). but to an outsider (i have no idea who this person is) it could be taken badly, though we do try to stop and see where the new person sits with things.

[mailahn97]

Oh I agree and please don't think i was condeming anyone (i'm just as guilty). but to an outsider (i have no idea who this person is) it could be taken badly, though we do try to stop and see where the new person sits with things.

Oh sweetie I was not attacking you in any way. I was just saying why sometimes people may see us flirting and such.

[sass]

I think this is a case of there being a time and place for everything, but not everything having a time or place.

Yes, we flirt. I as much, or more, than anyone. (Duh, right?) But, there is a difference between flirting and saying, in effect, "I know you are married but let's fuck" to a stranger. What AK posted as the pm is rather direct and goes past flirting, IMO.

But, I know what my Suz is saying. When we are in chat, sometimes we get a little crazy. If I was being flirty in chat and got the pm posted here, I would understand, say no thanks and move on. If I had never so much as said "hi" and got that pm from a stranger - I would be upset. I do not know the details, only those involved do.

I hope this makes sense.

[mystofpric]

Shorty- No worries I was just trying to clarify.

Ms- make prefect sense to me but I'm one of the voices in your head......

[Mikayla1]

I am sorry that this happened to you. What you can do (or anyone can do) if they get this sort of PM is to block that person from Pming you. If you look at your message center you hit [block] next to their name and they can no longer PM you. This way, they are notified that you do not want to have this sort of talk. Unfortunately, even established members sometimes start to think this is a hook up site....and for some people it is OK in PMs to talk like this.

Again, sorry for that....it will be taken care of. If anyone else has similar issues, please feel free to report it to me or any other moderatore. One of us will be glad to take care of it.

[12GAUGE]

Shorty- No worries I was just trying to clarify.

Ms- make prefect sense to me but I'm one of the voices in your head......

U GOT VOICES TOO??

[sass]

U GOT VOICES TOO??

Lord yes, and mine even have names!

[jhard]

ok..i am VERY insulted AND offended...i have never had a problem with anyone on this board being offensive or inappropriate to me in any way...until tonight..i am posting this PM i received, but i am not posting who i received this from.

i cannot believe, the nerve that this person had, to come in, PM me, insult me, my husband, and the sanction of our HAPPY marriage. this is stepping WAY over the line IMO.

THE PM I RECEIVED!!

im glad to see you here...i have posted pics in the mens section if ur interested...

let me know if ur interested in chatting...and yes i did see u r married...but masturbating is a great way to make friends and relax...

i hope u enjoy ur time here today

bye for now...

Now ladies, when some guy posts a picture of his big hard cock in the photo's section he gets a choir full of approval from a bunch of you. Surprise, but the kind of guy who posts that picture may well contact you for a little "dirty talk". Now, I am not condemning nor approving, but I am saying what do you expect? It is the same guy and I don't think it makes him an asshole at all. Angelkisses, men are visual creatures, your picture there on the side probably sent his mind way off into fantasy land. I would suggest if you are not interested in his offer tell him why and say thanks but no thanks. Personally, if one of the fine ladies on this site would pass me such an offer I would feel flattered. Makes me a slut I suppose.

I think I can garauntee you one thing, seeing his private message to you splatered here publicly probably made him erase everthing to do with TT that he had on his computer. I don't care what someone writes me in a PM, IT WILL NEVER BE POSTED PUBLICLY.

Just my 2 cents worth.

j

[mailahn97]

Now ladies, when some guy posts a picture of his big hard cock in the photo's section he gets a choir full of approval from a bunch of you. Surprise, but the kind of guy who posts that picture may well contact you for a little "dirty talk". Now, I am not condemning nor approving, but I am saying what do you expect? It is the same guy and I don't think it makes him an asshole at all. Angelkisses, men are visual creatures, your picture there on the side probably sent his mind way off into fantasy land. I would suggest if you are not interested in his offer tell him why and say thanks but no thanks. Personally, if one of the fine ladies on this site would pass me such an offer I would feel flattered. Makes me a slut I suppose.

I think I can garauntee you one thing, seeing his private message to you splatered here publicly probably made him erase everthing to do with TT that he had on his computer. I don't care what someone writes me in a PM, IT WILL NEVER BE POSTED PUBLICLY.

Just my 2 cents worth.

j

The problem is this. This person is sending the almost exact same pm to quite a bit of members. I do not have a picture like that with mine, yet I receive it as well. He was randomly selecting people to send it to in hopes someone would jump at it. He was totally out of line and continued it in the room as well. He started to question me until I backed him off real quick.

I doubt he will erase everything he was still around and doing it as I got his pm after that message after this was posted. I wouldn't post an appropriate pm publicly. I am glad she did this as then we found out he is making his way around to other women. If it wasn't put out there than we would have thought this was a single incident.

[angelkisses98]

Now ladies, when some guy posts a picture of his big hard cock in the photo's section he gets a choir full of approval from a bunch of you. Surprise, but the kind of guy who posts that picture may well contact you for a little "dirty talk". Now, I am not condemning nor approving, but I am saying what do you expect? It is the same guy and I don't think it makes him an asshole at all. Angelkisses, men are visual creatures, your picture there on the side probably sent his mind way off into fantasy land. I would suggest if you are not interested in his offer tell him why and say thanks but no thanks. Personally, if one of the fine ladies on this site would pass me such an offer I would feel flattered. Makes me a slut I suppose.

I think I can garauntee you one thing, seeing his private message to you splatered here publicly probably made him erase everthing to do with TT that he had on his computer. I don't care what someone writes me in a PM, IT WILL NEVER BE POSTED PUBLICLY.

Just my 2 cents worth.

j

ok so because of my avatar i was just asking for this PM??? you can go and look at the responses to every single man who has posted a picture of his penis...and NEVER ONCE have i commented! nor will i ever.

after i received the PM i ignored it, only to be followed into chat by this person, and was solicited there...when i told him flat out not interested, he then moved on to shortstuff. and from other conversations we have had in chat, there have been several women complaining about his behavior.

now, i purposely did NOT post his identity...in the PM, this person introduced himself..i left that part out, so no one would attack him. i just wanted to get the message across that this behavior is not appropriate towards most ppl here.

the fact that i did NOT post his identity and within 20 min. of posting it, i received 3 PM's from different women stating that have have received the SAME or close to the same PM and asked if it was this one particular person...all 3 women named the same man. and i have received more since, all naming the same person.

[jhard]

ok so because of my avatar i was just asking for this PM??? you can go and look at the responses to every single man who has posted a picture of his penis...and NEVER ONCE have i commented! nor will i ever.

after i received the PM i ignored it, only to be followed into chat by this person, and was solicited there...when i told him flat out not interested, he then moved on to shortstuff. and from other conversations we have had in chat, there have been several women complaining about his behavior.

now, i purposely did NOT post his identity...in the PM, this person introduced himself..i left that part out, so no one would attack him. i just wanted to get the message across that this behavior is not appropriate towards most ppl here.

the fact that i did NOT post his identity and within 20 min. of posting it, i received 3 PM's from different women stating that have have received the SAME or close to the same PM and asked if it was this one particular person...all 3 women named the same man. and i have received more since, all naming the same person.

OK ladies, I understand. Angelkisses, I did not check to see whether or not you responded to some of those penis pictures, I have read some of the responses (none in particular) and can see where a fellow would be encouraged to feel he was welcome to make further enquiries. I am not saying you made any of those responses. So, yeah, if he picked you and others out of the blue, I would say that is odd. If I had behaved as he did, I would be ashamed and apologize.

By the way, your avatar is very nice.

jhard (backin' out whilst the backin' is still good)

[angelkisses98]

OK ladies, I understand. Angelkisses, I did not check to see whether or not you responded to some of those penis pictures, I have read some of the responses (none in particular) and can see where a fellow would be encouraged to feel he was welcome to make further enquiries. I am not saying you made any of those responses. So, yeah, if he picked you and others out of the blue, I would say that is odd. If I had behaved as he did, I would be ashamed and apologize.

By the way, your avatar is very nice.

jhard (backin' out whilst the backin' is still good)

jhard, i get what your are saying about the responses some ppl give, and yes it could make a man or woman to make further advances.

and yes, my avatar is nice isn't she? not me though...hehee

no hard feelings at all...

[ladylove]

I'm happy to say I have never had any such pms. If I have, I would have been scared away, no doubt. I also think here on this forum, this situation is bound to happen. I also don't think TT would encourage any one solicited in this way. You may want to think about reporting such behavior, to make yourself feel proactive and in control of the situation.

I am so sorry you had to be subjected to such ugly behavior!

Don't hold the action of one against the rest.....

[sass]

I'm happy to say I have never had any such pms. If I have, I would have been scared away, no doubt. I also think here on this forum, this situation is bound to happen. I also don't think TT would encourage any one solicited in this way. You may want to think about reporting such behavior, to make yourself feel proactive and in control of the situation.

I am so sorry you had to be subjected to such ugly behavior!

Don't hold the action of one against the rest.....

I agree. I have found great friends on here - male and female. No one has ever tried to take things to a level that I wasn't comfortable with.

[mystofpric]

I have in the past gotten requests that I found inapporpriate, bt unlike whomever ( i have no experience with this guy) AK is talking about the guy left me alone. Now I am one of the people who post replys (sometimes not always) to the male nude photos, but i do not think that this gives anyone the right to harrass me for anythin. If he sent her a message, which she rebuffed, then he followed her into the chat and was rebuffed again only to try it on someone else, i consider i harrassment.

I think that we need to reword the nature of this site, it is not a sex site. It is a sex education site, and like any educational site it sells educational material. Sure it sounds like a stretch but thinking of it that way definitely makes it seem less apporpriate huh? Further the posting of nude photos should be seen as a step in one's sexual development, as should any comments left. The comments on the photos are CLEARLY solicited, or the photos wouldn't be posted. A PM based off some random collection of posts plus a profile is NOT solicited.

[Mikayla1]

The long and short of it is this: even though I think of TT as a sex education site - so not a porn site - it does sell sex toys, people do post naked pictures (or sexy pictures), we talk about things that are and can be very arousing to people who read it - so....it follows that some may come here to hook up. This guy was obviously throwing in many fishing lines to see who would bite....he did it in a PM so that is something the receivers could control by Blocking him

Do I think it is right? Well, in the world of sexual gratification and solicitation, that PM was tame compared to some I have gotten. The side note about the 'masturbation pic' made me sort of go 'ewwww' but that picture was masturbation worthly and I am sure many more people have done that just not told the person they have done it. I have had many a man tell me that my pictures, posts or stories are 'masturbation inspiration.' That is their business.

I think that we should keep in mind that there will always be those people trying to get cyber sex or phone sex or whatever. There are MANY on this site who are receptive to that. So, with that said, I think that it is up to us to handle this unsolicited PMs.....that is us taking control of what we do or do not want to deal with.

[pappyld04]

I hope you took care of this AK! This behaviour is what makes the rest of us look bad!

[12GAUGE]

The long and short of it is this: even though I think of TT as a sex education site - so not a porn site - it does sell sex toys, people do post naked pictures (or sexy pictures), we talk about things that are and can be very arousing to people who read it - so....it follows that some may come here to hook up. This guy was obviously throwing in many fishing lines to see who would bite....he did it in a PM so that is something the receivers could control by Blocking him

Do I think it is right? Well, in the world of sexual gratification and solicitation, that PM was tame compared to some I have gotten. The side note about the 'masturbation pic' made me sort of go 'ewwww' but that picture was masturbation worthly and I am sure many more people have done that just not told the person they have done it. I have had many a man tell me that my pictures, posts or stories are 'masturbation inspiration.' That is their business.

I think that we should keep in mind that there will always be those people trying to get cyber sex or phone sex or whatever. There are MANY on this site who are receptive to that. So, with that said, I think that it is up to us to handle this unsolicited PMs.....that is us taking control of what we do or do not want to deal with.

Wow....this is wayyy too much for me.