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Communication is the key to getting the big O. Tell him what feels good and experiment on trying different techniques. The articals that are found under the sex education are worth reading. This will be a great start and give you wonderful ideas on different techniques. Take one night and just experiment with your own body. Become familiar with what areas feel good when stimulated, how much pressure, speed, or anything you can think of. In order to teach someone else you need to know for yourself. It is unfair to fake an orgasm to your boyfriend. He will never be able to please you unless you are open and honest with him.

I have never had a threesome but when I read "I feel sick and I don't know what to do" there was an immediate warning sign that flashed in my head. You need to tell your bf that you are not interested in having a threesome with his ex. Be honest but do not every do anything that is physically making you sick. You will totally regret it.

I have been through a similiar experience. I just had my baby (around 3wks) and I noticed that my body and my mind was only focusing on having sex with my husband. I even noticed that my orgasms were more intense and easier to have. My mind would run wild during the day (I stay home with 3 children) about what I would do with my husband. He would walk in the door and I would jump him before the door was closed. I would also try to hit him up again that night. It was bad and I my husband did everything he could to keep up with me but I was beginning to feel overwhelmed. I know that after I had my baby that I became so much more aware of my body. I also was a little insecure b/c I didn't thing of myself as a attractive women anymore. I was now a mother and I think sex validated the fact that I was not just a mother. I knew that once I started thinking about other men that it was out of control. I was determined to not let this rule my mind and body. Don't get me wrong I love thinking of sex and my husband but there are appropriate times and places and I did not want to be over consumed by sex. It has been a hard process but I can now easily turn it off and on like a switch. It has really been a gift b/c there is not this long four play to get my engine going (unless that is what we want). Our love life is the best it has every been and it keeps getting better. I hope this helps.

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I think most people tend to have this "it is never going to happen to me" complex. When I was younger (at one point) we all think that we are invisable. STD's, AIDS, and unwanted pregnancies are issues that happen to other people. I am suprised that I made it out of my teens without any of these issues. For the porn issue I honestly believe that there is no self control (that seems like a ironic statement) and they are so wrapped up in the moment that they loose all ability to think rationally. That is just my opinion.

I don't have a quick fix but there are several things that has helped increase my libido. First thing is that I fantasize about my husband all day. I usually pick out a great sexual encounter and I remember everything about it ex. the flirting during the day, the certain smells, the feelings of pleasure........ This helps keep my mind on sex. I also had to come to love my body. I have had three kids and lets face it I did not feel like a sexual being. I felt more like a nurse maid. I had to embrace my curves and my sexuality. I had to find myself sexy and attractive. Yes I am a mother but I am also a wife. My advice would be to stop fixating on how much sex you are NOT having. When you and your wife get together than just make it a wonderful experience and just relax and have fun with it. I can imagine their is a lot of pressure for each one of you to perform and that can cause a lot of anxiety and sexual frustration. Make your goal to please your wife (and sometimes that may not be sex) like a massage, a romatic bubble bath, cleaning of the house. This is usually the areas that will leave deposits and will lead to her wanting to "please you". I hope this helps.

The look of this toy gave me the creeps. I liked the idea of the toy but I would have a hard time getting pass the child toy look.

My husband and I have been opening up to each other and our sexaul experiences have been amazing. I am sooooo excited for you. Get ready for a new and exciting sex life and you will experience a whole new level of intimacy.

There is a section called threesomes. Please read this section first before you taken any further action. There are stories where married couples have had positive and negative experiences. Read the negative experiences and really think through this before you act. I personally would not recommend doing this.

I am assuming that you ask this question b/c living in the wonderf state of Arkansas that the older generations still do not accept interracial dating. For me it is not a problem and it never will be. I remember growing up and it was a silent rule that I was to never bring home anyone but a "white" boyfriend. I could never understand this rule b/c my father is not white (he is native american). I never allowed myself to look at any other color than white b/c I feared my parents reaction. So silly and I am ashamed to admit that I followed this ignorant rule. However, I am proud to say that this rule will never apply to my children.

I love to have my g-spot stimulated with fingers. I do have some toys that are specifically for the g-spot and those work well to. Don't be afraid to have open communication with your boyfriend. The diagram and artical that Tyger gave you is perfect for finding your g-spot. Relax and have fun.

Kegals works well and I also would have him stimulate your G-spot and have a couple of orgasms before you start having sex. I have noticed when I have several orgasms my G-spot is super sensitive and I can actually have an orgasm during sex. This may help you acclumate to his penis size.

I am wanting to buy some non-piercing clit jewerly. I have found some that I really like but it is expensive. It is about $75 and it covers the whole vagina. I am wanting to seduce my husband and I get turned on by looking at this jewerly. My question is has anyone every bought this jewerly and is it worth it? Also is this something that would turn my husband on?

My sister stayed in a relationship like this one for 10yrs. By the time she left her self-esteem was in the crapper and she thought she was unattractive. Her husband was way involved in porn and he had erection problems as well. He constantly blamed my sister for his problem and refused to get help. In the 10 yrs of being together he never once had an orgasm. He was also secretly sending e-mails and always fantasying about other women. My sister was never enough for him. I say this b/c I don't want you to waste another minute with a man that blames you for his erection problems and makes you question your self worth. Please understand if he is not willing to get looked at then you need to go. It took my sister years to realize that the problem was with her ex-husband and not her.

I have 3 babies (ages 8 months to 3 yrs) and there have been several times where sleep seemed more important than sex. I also realized that anytime I was put on birth control pill that my sex drive was non existent. I try several different kinds to see if one worked better than the other and unfortunately for me I could not find one. My husband and I have decided that I will never take a form of birth control every again. That has been the best decision we have every made. I also had post partum depression and there are usually several more clues besides loss of intimacy that can help determine if your wife suffers from ppd. I would encourage your wife to be open with her OBGYN. She is there to help find answers.

Okay I have had 3 pregnancies and the only thing that helped with the all day sickness was chewing on Big Red cinnamon gum. I had stock in that company b/c I made sure I had several packs on hand. I did have to brush my teeth several times a day b/c of all the sugar in the gum (the sugarless kind did not work). However, I always had a low sex drive when I got pregnant so the gum helped the nausea but not my drive. Hope this helps!!

I have to agree with Mike. I am not comfortable in hearing anyone have sex and that includes my family. I really do want my parents and grandparents to have a great sex life and it gives me hope for the future but I believe that intimacy is to be shared between two people.

Thanks mikayla for the input. I really didn't think you could use a whip for pleasure. I am into bondage but I do not like pain. I am excited to use a whip and to actually have an orgasm with it. I know what will be in my next order:) Thanks

Welcome!!!!! I just wanted to give you some encouragement. I just had my 3rd baby in Nov and our sex life has become on a schedule and boring. My husdband was not open to doing a lot (I say not open but it was more of not knowing how). I found this website and I have been initiating more "adult play" and focusing on just pleasuring him. In return he has opened up and we are having so much fun exploring each other. There needs to be a security that you enjoy each other. I was terrified that my husband would find my body unattractive (b/c of giving birth to the 3 babies in 3 years) but he loves my curves:) My husband has actually got on the tootimid website and purchased fun toys for us. It may take some work on your part in the beginning but it is worth the time invested. I have learned not to be timid in the bedroom and I feel secure enough to tell my husband what I want him to try and what I like. Good luck!

I am somewhat new here (around 4 months). This site was actually refered to me by a message board b/c of the free toys. I thought what a good way to build up a small collection and to see what I like. I have been married for 6 years (together 9) and we have 3 children. I have thought about the use of toys but I thought my husband would not approve. Boy was I wrong. The articles on this site have really helped us and we now have an exciting sex life!!! Thanks to all who write articles, toy reviews. and answer questions on the forum. My husband has never been so happy and most importantly I have never been so happy in our sex life(I used to view sex as a chore and not as adult play). This site is all over our message board now!!!!!!! Oh and I live in Arkansas and I have been here all my life:) Thanks again!

I would love for my husband to not be so uptight just relax and enjoy himself. He can be afraid to try new things and I am ready to move forward in our sex life:)

Sorry tyger! I am not about to have my period and I should not be pregnant. We did jump right in b/c we where in the shower. The cramping was very uncomfortable and almost to the point of unbearable. I couldn't walk fast b/c of the pressure in my lower abdomen. I am doing better today but I didn't know what I did. I would hate to keep experience this everytime.

This has become a favorite position for me b/c I can have amazing g spot orgasms with this position. I have done this 3 times in the last 24 hours and I started having some painful cramping. The cramping lasting for a long time and I finally had to get a heating pad. I do love rough play but this has never happened before and I was curious as to what happened. I love this position but I don't want to cramp like that again. What did I do wrong?

If you want to retrain your brain, then work it like any other muscle. Don't stop when you reach climax once. That is just the beginning. Yes, your nerves will be on fire, and your brain may be telling you that you are feeling pain, when you touch yourself after having an orgasm. But touch yourself anyway, Or have your SO gently caress you. Breathe deep and exhale deep and slowly- not little short gasps- and you should find reaching orgasms easier. Keep having as many orgasms as you can stand, and then seal the deal with a few more. The more you train your brain to enjoy your own sexuality, the easier it will be to reach orgasm , and the faster you will experience orgasms during intercourse. Thank you Howard for writing this. I have struggled to have several O b/c basically it hurts. I don't see how I can keep going and ignore the pain. Do you have any suggestions? Oh and I will read the artical you mentioned b/c I honestly don't think I can O with nipple stimulation or any other place besides the clit. MJF945 I have the same problem in that it takes me a good half hour to O with constant stimulation. I have just started to relax and enjoy the play and not thing about the big O and this has helped.