Members Tamuril Posted October 5, 2006 Members Report Share Posted October 5, 2006 I guess I just want to know that there's someone else out there right now that knows how I feel.My boyfriend and I were sooo happy together, but he's been shipped off to Kuwait and it's been months since I've seen him and i don't even get to talk to him that much. *cries*feeling alone AND sex-less really sucks....Is there anyone here that can relate? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted October 5, 2006 Report Share Posted October 5, 2006 Well, I can....kinda....My husband just got a job working on an onshore oilrig, but he has to be there a week at a time. So he's here one week, and gone the next.It's hard being away from the one you love. I hope you can find things to occupy your mind, so you don't dwell on it as much.*HUGS* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members strobelite69 Posted October 6, 2006 Members Report Share Posted October 6, 2006 I kinda can too - my boyfriend and I live an hour and a half away and we have extremely busy schedules. I never know when the next time it is that I'll see him. It's extremely difficult being away from someone you love and care about.My thoughts are with you and your boyfriend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chickenmom Posted October 6, 2006 Members Report Share Posted October 6, 2006 I have a friend whose hubby in in Iraq. She keeps herself really busy: school full time, work part time, errands for people, getting my children to spend the weekend with her, etc. It helps her not think of him as much. They also each have webcams, so that when he can get online, they can see each other. That seems to help. Her hubby is scheduled to be away for a year. She said to me yesterday that it's been xxx days already, and he's coming in January for 2 weeks. After that it's only xxx days until he's home. Breaking down the time frame keeps it manageable in her mind.Keep the faith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Members telecom69 Posted October 7, 2006 Members Report Share Posted October 7, 2006 I have a sister who I love very much, and her husband has been in Afghanistan for six months. I feel her pain while talking to her about missing her husband. Its all the worse since he is in special forces and lots of things are not talked about or where he is. He is in combat often to, so that makes it worse for my sister knowing he could be killed or wounded at any time. So far he hasn't had a scratch. She has gone back to work part time to help time pass, and is also taking a class a couple of nights a week. Their 16 yr old son is a very talented football player in high school, so she enjoys all his games and such. She tells me her quiet time alone is the worst, because her mind rambles. Out family tries to support her as best we can and none of us live by her, so lots of email and IM chatting helps get her by. I think he has a couple of months left before he comes home. No matter what any of us think of Iraq, Afghanistan is the frontline on terrorism and we're very proud of his service.Keep your faith, as you're not alone.Telecom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members clewing Posted October 7, 2006 Members Report Share Posted October 7, 2006 I guess I just want to know that there's someone else out there right now that knows how I feel.My boyfriend and I were sooo happy together, but he's been shipped off to Kuwait and it's been months since I've seen him and i don't even get to talk to him that much. *cries*feeling alone AND sex-less really sucks....Is there anyone here that can relate?I am not going through it now, but my husband is retired military and we had plenty of separations--any where from a couple weeks to a year. The positive aspect of this is it is part of what kept our relationship alive these 31 years. The reunions were always fantastic, and everytime we were back together, especially after a lengthy separation, it was like being newlyweds all over again. I especially remember when I first got to Italy. He had been there three months without me. There was something about that country (we always joked it was all the grape leaves they vineyards burned so often) that made us incredibly horny all the time. Anyway, there have been good suggestions in the answers to your post about staying busy. But filling the loneliness, to say nothing of the lack of sex, is more difficult. This was back before the soldiers had access to e-mail, but we would write X-rated letters to each other. I have kept everyone of those letters and used to worry about what would happen if something happened to both of us and our kids found them. Now I don't worry and not just because they are older. I think if they took the time to read them, they would see the love and passion we have always had for each other and be happy and proud for us. If you can find a support group it would be helpful, or just one or two women who are going through the same thing you are, to be able to talk. If I can be of any help, please PM me. I'll be glad to listen and lend and ear and a shoulder. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jinx23 Posted May 20, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 20, 2007 Hi Tamirul,It really sucks that your boyfriend is so far away. My boyfriend is gone to Iceland for the summer so I know how you feel a little. I am not sure if your boyfriend has frequent access to email but one thing I found that was fun was to send short video clips to my boyfriend (no, not sexy ones like some of you are thinking although that would be fun except others might see them). It's just nice to send him a little clip of myself saying hi and telling him that I miss him and just chatting for a minute of two. Also since I've started reading posts on this forum I've been collecting ideas to try out when he gets home! Hopefully I'll be able to try them out when he gets home without feeling like a cheezy porn actress Cheers,Jinx23 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members shytigress09 Posted May 20, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 20, 2007 I completely understand... my bf is in england while I'm in the states. We do talk on instant messengers a lot though so that helps. But I do feel really lonely and so annoyed when I see happy couples wandering around together. Well maybe not annoyed but that kind of jealousy that you either want to cuss at someone or cry but you're not really sure which... maybe that's just me...~Tiger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chris'sgirl Posted May 20, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 20, 2007 Thankfully he hasn't been gone like that in a couple of years, but my DH has been gone for 6 mos at a time, a couple of times. It sucks, I know.I just think if you can keep up w/ the emails, maybe even snail mail, and care packages, it would help both of you. They looove care packages. The first time he was gone that long, I worked and went to the gym. I lost weight, too. I also lived close to my parents. The second time I worked and had a brand new baby to care for. That time was actually 8 months. Also, do a search on boards "military spouces" or "military girlfriends" and you'll find someplace to connect w/ others that are going through the same as you.The no sex thing sucks, too. Back then I would never have considered toys. I just suffered Hang in there. You're not alone so check out those boards. Plus, you always have tootimid boardsETA: I just realized the OP was written back in OCT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jim's Girl Posted July 16, 2007 Members Report Share Posted July 16, 2007 I can totally relate.My wonderful fiance is 2000 miles away, and not one second goes by that I don't wish he were here or I was there. I miss him so much. We talk every day on the phone, and through emails. I'm going to see him soon, and the anticipation and excitement grows every day. I can't wait to hold him again. If all I got to do was just hold his hand, or just be in the same room with him, I'd be happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members krisleightate Posted July 16, 2007 Members Report Share Posted July 16, 2007 Well I can relate, my common law husband works off shore he is gone for two weeks at a time. I cant give you any advice tho because I have my own issues about him being gone. You have to find your own balace while he is away Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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