Review Team sass Posted July 22, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 I thought of this question when in the ask/answer a question thread and decided it could make an interesting thread on its own. (Seems like forever since I have had a good question!)When you and your partner are having sexual relations, however you want to define that, what percentage of the time do you have an orgasm but not your partner and what percentage of the time does your partner but not you?For hubby and I, I would say about 20% of the time only one of us does, and it is pretty equally split between the two of us. There are times when I give him oral and he cums, I swallow, and things are done. There are times he gets going on me with toys and/or oral and I cum and we are done. That is how it usually happens that only one of gets there but there have been a couple of times that penetration was involved, again maybe once or twice where I got and O and he didn't, and visa versa.So how about you? Do you both, always, 100% of the time, orgasm? Is one of you better at giving than receiving? Or is it about equal? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 I thought of this question when in the ask/answer a question thread and decided it could make an interesting thread on its own. (Seems like forever since I have had a good question!)When you and your partner are having sexual relations, however you want to define that, what percentage of the time do you have an orgasm but not your partner and what percentage of the time does your partner but not you?For hubby and I, I would say about 20% of the time only one of us does, and it is pretty equally split between the two of us. There are times when I give him oral and he cums, I swallow, and things are done. There are times he gets going on me with toys and/or oral and I cum and we are done. That is how it usually happens that only one of gets there but there have been a couple of times that penetration was involved, again maybe once or twice where I got and O and he didn't, and visa versa.So how about you? Do you both, always, 100% of the time, orgasm? Is one of you better at giving than receiving? Or is it about equal?great question, I really have to think about this before I answer..... It's a tuff one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted July 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 In the past... (I'll say before TT ) I would say that me having an orgasm during sex was a 50/50 chance and not ever during penetration.Now I cannot say that during any session more recently that only one of us has finished. Unless it is something like, I gave him oral and then got tired but even then sometimes I orgasm just doing that alone... but that is just me and I am odd! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted July 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 OK, don't be haters......I always orgasm. I always have at least 3 orgasms. My hubby always orgasms.I honestly can not think of a time during sex in the last 15 years that I have not had an orgasm. I attribute this to my knowledge of my own body, my ability to be in connection with it, and my husband's ability to do what is needed to 'get me there.'I can not think of a time during sex when my hubby did not orgasm (minus the ED times, and then he would orgasm during oral, maybe just not sex) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members leslieanne Posted July 23, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 23, 2009 Like Mikayla I always orgasm - it's not always during intercourse, but it always happens. Lucky for me my SO loves to see me orgasm and he'll do whatever to make sure it happens (toys, oral, fingers, intercourse) and almost always multiple times. With such a giving partner I'd be very remiss to not provide the same for him - that said there has probably been 1/2 dozen times in the 3 yrs we've been together when he hasn't orgasmed - always related to him being extremely stressed and fatigued - and boy do we have a good time trying!! Not a bad track record given our ages (54 and 57). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted July 23, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 23, 2009 Same for me I always have and he loved making it happen multiple times as well. For him I would say most times he has. He would get a kick out of me and try to count them as it can happen very easily for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 I always make sure my wife has an orgasm one way or another . I haven't had one maybe once or twice in all the years we've been married due to too many drinks . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 Me always.... lucky me Him about 95% of the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RikaLovesDie Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 I still struggle a lot with orgasms. I've only really been sexually active for about 3 years now and I was slow to pick up on a lot of things.Now I'd say I orgasm 60% of the time, which is an immense improvement for me. The hubby has only missed out maybe 3 times during the two years we've been together. But in those cases I didn't come either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 I still struggle a lot with orgasms. I've only really been sexually active for about 3 years now and I was slow to pick up on a lot of things.Now I'd say I orgasm 60% of the time, which is an immense improvement for me. The hubby has only missed out maybe 3 times during the two years we've been together. But in those cases I didn't come either.I want to tell you, I was much worse! For many years I couldn't even orgasm during intercourse! We would try to get me there during foreplay but it was about a 50/50 chance. It takes a woman awhile to figure things out! Especially with all the taboos and hangups that are instilled in us as little girls... (my situation, not trying to assume yours...)Someone said that something like 90% of orgasm for women is psychological! It has a lot to do with mood setting stress etc... Trying your absolute best to relax beforehand is extremely helpful! That and focusing your attention on him, how aroused he is and the feelings you are feeling makes things move pretty smoothly!Let us know if you have specific questions we are here to help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 I agree up til about a little less than 2 years ago. I never had an orgasm. Then I found the right person to help me explore and learn a lot. Then whammo not only was I having orgasm's every time but found out I was a squirter as well. I agree with the mental thing as I realized when I just let things go and not worried it was much easier. I was so hung up that it caused me nothing but grief. My was from an abusive ex and a lot of self esteem issues. Thankfully the partner I found was patient and understanding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members shdowulf39 Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 glad you found yourself.my SO also was with an abusive jerk!don't think it affected her as much as you.she was just with guys all her life that didn't care about anyone but themselves.now I am having a great time showing her how much fun 2 people can have sexually.slowly but surely she is comming out of her shell,and I am going to be the recipient of some great sex in the future,as she learns to relax and try new things.as for the guys lke you and she had.....well lets just say round all them up put them on an island and nuke them!hate guys like that!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted July 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2009 glad you found yourself.my SO also was with an abusive jerk!don't think it affected her as much as you.she was just with guys all her life that didn't care about anyone but themselves.now I am having a great time showing her how much fun 2 people can have sexually.slowly but surely she is comming out of her shell,and I am going to be the recipient of some great sex in the future,as she learns to relax and try new things.as for the guys lke you and she had.....well lets just say round all them up put them on an island and nuke them!hate guys like that!!!!!AMEN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TopCat Posted July 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 "Good girls don't do that" . No telling how many relationships that has killed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted July 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 "Good girls don't do that" . No telling how many relationships that has killed.Don't get me started!! SO TRUE! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted August 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted August 5, 2009 I agree up til about a little less than 2 years ago. I never had an orgasm. Then I found the right person to help me explore and learn a lot. Then whammo not only was I having orgasm's every time but found out I was a squirter as well. I agree with the mental thing as I realized when I just let things go and not worried it was much easier. I was so hung up that it caused me nothing but grief. My was from an abusive ex and a lot of self esteem issues. Thankfully the partner I found was patient and understanding.You waited a long time for for your first orgasm, I hope your making up for lost time? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eminatic Posted August 10, 2009 Report Share Posted August 10, 2009 wow....i've NEVER had an orgasm during sex. i've also never had one without a clit vibrator, and i've never even had one with someone else in the room. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted August 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted August 10, 2009 Me always.... lucky me Him about 95% of the time.I should say, My DH won't let sessions ended until...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Craftylady Posted August 10, 2009 Members Report Share Posted August 10, 2009 So how about you? Do you both, always, 100% of the time, orgasm? Is one of you better at giving than receiving? Or is it about equal?Both, yes, 100% of the time. Or at least let me say I can't recall the last time one of us "missed". And I'd have to say we're about equal with giving and receiving, too. Reading back over some of the replies, I guess I should be counting my blessings Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cupcake522 Posted August 11, 2009 Members Report Share Posted August 11, 2009 I am one of the lucky ones. I have at least 2 each time the most i have had in one sesion would prob be around 6. honest i swear! my dh is very attentive to me and always makes sure iam pleased b4 he is. and we have sex at least 5 times a wk some times more, some days it will be 3 or more times a day. need less to say i am usally walking around w/ a smile on my face. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie kns2 Posted August 11, 2009 Newbie Report Share Posted August 11, 2009 until I met my fiance, I had never orgasmed! but, he gave me my first. I've only had sex twice where the guy did not finish, and that was only when we were on a round #2. lately, he's been so good, he's been giving me full-body AND multiple orgasms. yet another reason I plan on this being a permanent relationship! Now we're both 100%, though he usually can give me more than I give him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members HisAngel Posted August 11, 2009 Members Report Share Posted August 11, 2009 Me 99% him 100%I love my sex life now and I love my partner even morex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted August 12, 2009 Members Report Share Posted August 12, 2009 I am one of the lucky ones. I have at least 2 each time the most i have had in one sesion would prob be around 6. honest i swear! my dh is very attentive to me and always makes sure iam pleased b4 he is. and we have sex at least 5 times a wk some times more, some days it will be 3 or more times a day. need less to say i am usally walking around w/ a smile on my face. lol5X a week, 3X or more each day....... I'm officially jealous! Not even on my honeymoon 3X a Day ***** Do you think he's notice the difference if we blindfolded him, and gave you a break? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted September 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted September 4, 2009 5X a week, 3X or more each day....... I'm officially jealous! Not even on my honeymoon 3X a Day ***** Do you think he's notice the difference if we blindfolded him, and gave you a break? Oh, LL, you naughty, naughty girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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