Interracial Relationships

[Mike_d]

Hey, I just wanted to see what everyones opinion was on the subject of interracial relations? I have a niece who is mixed white/black and is the cutest little girl. I have no issue with it, and I was the only white guy my wife ever dated. I find women of all ethnicities attractive and would not hesitate to date a woman from another race. Nor would I have an issue with my son dating a different race. How do you others feel? Is it okay to date say, asians, but not hispanics or blacks? Or do you feel like race should stick to race?

[Mikayla1]

Talk about a hot button topic!!!!

I do not have a problem with interracial relationships at all. I think people are people and that love comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. I also do not have issues with gay or lesbian couples either!

Nice question Mike, but I am not sure if anyone who has a dissenting opinion will actually answer this!

[CGEM]

In my opinion, the race does NOT matter. Not a least bit. Why should it?

[Mike_d]

you might be right Mikayla, I notice that I am the only person who posted on the Body type issue. I wonder if people just think they will sound shallow if they say, I want a SO with a six-pack stomach, perfect smile and porn-star technique. Maybe it's just that there are not enough honest people on here who will say I think this and this is why. My partents would have freaked if I had brought home a black girlfriend, honestly. We are true deep-fried southerners. Would it have stopped me? no. I flirted with a few girls I was friends with, but it never went anywhere. Yesterday at IL's family reunion, many of the family members are black, we had a great time and there are no issues. I hope this is a good sign for the world my son will be an adult in.

[Tyger]

Living here in Texas, inter-racial relationships happens frequently. For them to be truly successful, the couple has to overcome cultural differences, as well as racial peer pressure.

Personally, I have no issues with it. I am as white can be. My hubby, one of the "good ole boys" would/will freak out of our daughter happens to bring home someone of black or hispanic origin. Yet, he has dated a full-blooded Native American in his single days....

However, I DO have some friends of mixed race. A couple of them are Mexican girls (one is half Mexican and half black but looks Mexican). In each case, they've found that their black husband's friends of the female persuation, have an issue with a black man dating and/or marrying someone out of "their race". And they get really nasty about it, from what my friends have told me.

I have gone out on a couple of dates with both a Mexican-American and a black guy from the Carribean. Both were very nice, but our personalities didn't mesh.

I do remember when I was a kid, growing up in Maine, and my mother pointing out a little baby that was a mix. Her Momma was white and blonde, the father was black. She acted like it was such a terrible thing to do. Not mean, or insulting, she was actually saying that she felt bad for the child cuz other kids would probably pick on her. Well, maybe back in the late 70's & early 80's, that was done, I really don't know. But that experience stuck with me, but not in a bad way. I just remember thinking to my 8 yr old self "what's wrong with that?" And I hope to pass that along to my daughter as well.

[Valntyn]

I tend to agree with Mikayla on this, in that I doubt you'll get anyone who'll reply to openly agreeing that "like race should stick to race."

To me, skin is skin. People are people. If I don't like someone, it's because they act like idiots, not because of their skin type, sexual preference or weight.

I will admit that I find darker-toned skin amazingly attractive, though.

[thurisas]

I agree with the others here. Skin is skin, but I will say that I also tend to feel sorry for interracial couples for the simple fact that we still live in a society where some people judge others based off of skin color. That being said, I find many asian women quite striking but that is because of how different they look from myself.

[Tyger]

Thurasis: I agree. Some "other races" are amazingly attractive IMO.

For me, I LOVE the sight of a muscular black man~bald even. The darker skin color just enhances the rippling muscles. And, for some reason, I think that a black man has a more smoother skull, making a bald head extremely sexy (I usually LOVE hair).

[jesso]

True true true, you all have alot of good points.

Living in San Diego, we see ALOT of interracial couples/kids/families. Mexico is a stone's throw. I think I forget sometimes how mixed California is in general. It's really not a big deal here. But my family has alot of good ole boys from the midwest in it too. So I understand not everyone is exposed to the same levels of diversities. While we all hope to aspire to not seeing color, it's still unfortunately a heated topic in many cultures. I think most of the turmoil has to do with acceptance, specifically family acceptance.

Bullworth (Warren Beaty film) had it right - We just got to keep on fucking everyone till there's no colors left.

j

[shytigress09]

I'm in one so of course I'm all for them! We have gotten some negative reactions though.

[newvixen]

I am currently involved with someone from a different race. Although neither of us sees the other in that way, it is something that we encounter often. I have currently moved away from my friends and family for just that reason. My father is one of those good ole' boys from the south. That being said, he was very displeased with me when i introduced him to Mike. For as long as I remember he has always preached race with race. I honestly, never gave it much thought until I met Mike.

Even now I don't see the difference in our skin. I see the wonderful man he is. I see the man who loves me unconditionally and fulfills all of my wants, needs and desires. If I had been asked I probably would have described my ideal man as some one who looks like Vin Diesel. Mike is nothing like that. He is my height, thin and a full head of hair. LOL. I wouldn't trade him for anyone not even Vin.

I live in a small midwestern town and suprisingly find the people here to be more accepting of us than when I lived in the city. When we are out together we occassionally still get stares and comments but we have discussed it and decided that if people truly love us and want us to be happy then they will accept us becuase we love each other and make each other happy.

Although alot of people may not own up to it, because they are trying to be politically correct, there are still alot of people who do not feel that people from different cultures, races or backgrounds should mix. I say true love is a rare and beautiful thing and whenever you are lucky enough to find it you should grab it with both hands. But that's just my opinion.

Vix

[DirtiestMindedVirgin]

I personally agree, love is love, skin is skin...it shouldn't matter.

I also know that if I ever bring home a guy that isn't relatively white, I better love him more than my family because I WILL have to choose. I knew my parents would be upset, but last Thanksgiving I was shocked to find out that my siblings all have the same opinion!

So I wouldn't shy away from a black guy because of my personal feelings, but I have to admit I'd probably let my family's prejudice get in the way of any kind of relationship.

[Kinky Twinkie]

I was lookg through the old messages and noticed everyone was discussing skin color, but there alot more to the topic then skin color.

I married a filipino, and we have clashed on differences we had due to our up bringing. For example, her family has been here for several years. Her immediate family came over about 13 years ago and her aunts and uncles and cousins way before that but she is new to the western culture having only beenhere about three years.

Coming from a third world country you don't have the appliances for example that you do here, so it sort of funny watching her try to use a blender until she sticks a spoon in there then it not very funny anymore. One of my faverite incidents was when she moved to out of mom and dads after living there for about a year and we went shopping at the supermarket. We bought ice cream and when I was ready for some I couldnt find it until I decided to peek in the pantry. Thank goodness it was still frozen.

Misunderstandings in language and it's interpretation is always an issue, you'll be fighting alot over nothing or what might not be nothing to you is important to him/her.

Clothing, sex, cooking, priorities on what is more important, money, family, religous views are always a every day discussion and topic s that need to be worked out.

Anyone have any stories to reveal in these areas?

Glenn

[ae_stowers]

I was lookg through the old messages and noticed everyone was discussing skin color, but there alot more to the topic then skin color.

I married a filipino, and we have clashed on differences we had due to our up bringing. For example, her family has been here for several years. Her immediate family came over about 13 years ago and her aunts and uncles and cousins way before that but she is new to the western culture having only beenhere about three years.

Coming from a third world country you don't have the appliances for example that you do here, so it sort of funny watching her try to use a blender until she sticks a spoon in there then it not very funny anymore. One of my faverite incidents was when she moved to out of mom and dads after living there for about a year and we went shopping at the supermarket. We bought ice cream and when I was ready for some I couldnt find it until I decided to peek in the pantry. Thank goodness it was still frozen.

Misunderstandings in language and it's interpretation is always an issue, you'll be fighting alot over nothing or what might not be nothing to you is important to him/her.

Clothing, sex, cooking, priorities on what is more important, money, family, religous views are always a every day discussion and topic s that need to be worked out.

Anyone have any stories to reveal in these areas?

Glenn

I come from a white family... My family is not rascist at all. But before I got the sex talk I got the blue jays fly with blues jays robins fly with robins but they are all still birds. I still remember the look on my dads face while he was talking about it... Anyway now that I am older I dont think that I could be with a different "race" I literally look at a black man like I would a woman I can say that they are beautiful but I am not attracted to them. Does that make me a bad person? I dont think so because how can you be mad at some one for not being attracted to another person! On the other had people that are in interracial relationships always have the most beautiful children!

[ShyBear]

There is nothing at all wrong with interracial relationships. I have dated Blacks, Puerto Ricans, Italians, and am currently dating a man from another country that I won't mention right now...but he is not English born American...and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!!!! My Mother raised us to be indifferent to such matters and to see beyond the outside of a person to the inside...I have always done that. BUT...for me to mention to her that I am dating, engaged to or marrying one of these guys, I hear...why can't you date a white guy....And I have to tell her...What does it matter...you taught us it didn't...then I hear why can't you date an American...And I have to tell her...MOM!!! HELLO!!!! He is an American!!! Well, I mean someone born here....Ummm, HE was born here!!!! It all gets very frustrating with her!!!! and most times I have to explain to her, if the guy is indeed white skinned, whether his nationality is or not that he is most likely whiter than she is....My mom is almost a 1/4 Native American....Yeah...one to talk right! Well, needless to say...no one else in my family feels this way and I do not allow it to color how I feel about anyone. I still look at people from the inside as far as race and nationality are concerned...I do not allow that to color my judgement...it does not matter to me in the least. As long as that person can make my kids happy and make me happy...that is all that matters to me....It should be all that matters to anyone...It is completely ridiculous that people allow a tiny little thing like skin color or place of origin to color there opinions of people...Just ridiculous....I am going to stop on that note or else I might keep going and say things I shouldn't...lol.

ShyBear...not so shy on this subject of course!!!LOL!

[Mike_d]

why not mention the nation of his family? Even if he is middle eastern, if you clam up about it, what is so different than a girl from the 50's and 60's dating a black guy and getting flack from her parents and therefore keeping the secret? I have several european american friends who are dating guys from Afghanistan, Iran and other places from the middle east. Don't ever feel that you cannot mention where your SO is from. If you truly care about them, why cover up part of what makes him or her who they are?

[ShyBear]

I am not ashamed of where he is from...don't misunderstand...please...where he is from is fabulous and beautiful!!!! I just don't mention it because he is on my computer sometimes and I don't want him to stumble onto the forums here and realize I have been talking about him...I have given enough detail of our relationship in other posts that he could possibly figure it out anyway but if I mention here where he is from...lol. It would be a dead give away...I would like to avoid any possible relationship troubles I would not be able to fix with help from the forum...

I am protecting my identity from him...not his from you...lol...does that make sense? If you want to know you can PM and I will tell you..lol

ShyBear

[Tyger]

Always post whatever you feel comfortable with. And, yes, it makes perfect sense.

[krisleightate]

My family is very anti interracial relationships. Weither friends or more than friends. They just don't get it. While I see nothing wrong with it, infact I have met some very very very HOT men and women of other races, if I were to date one my family would disown me

[cdwaldorf]

I am assuming that you ask this question b/c living in the wonderf state of Arkansas that the older generations still do not accept interracial dating. For me it is not a problem and it never will be. I remember growing up and it was a silent rule that I was to never bring home anyone but a "white" boyfriend. I could never understand this rule b/c my father is not white (he is native american). I never allowed myself to look at any other color than white b/c I feared my parents reaction. So silly and I am ashamed to admit that I followed this ignorant rule. However, I am proud to say that this rule will never apply to my children.

[Deveninny]

Now here's a kicker! My parents have always told me to date within my "own kind" and in doing so...I've never dated a sheep, a cow or a monkey.

Reason they stated that, they interpreted the Bible in saying that it tells you to stay within your "own kind"....which I understand to mean, no bestiality!

Just my 2 cents on the matter....

Keith

[Mike_d]

those Bible references were for the Jews to marry inside the convenant. There were told to not marry Gentiles. So in a way, they were seeing the passage correctly, but it applied more religously than geneticly IMO.

Are there any skin colors or tones that make you go ga-ga? I love fair women with light complextions, light hair, but I also find a lady with caramel colored skin super hot. Eva mendez or Jessica Alba are both nice.

Is that better Professor?

[Mikayla1]

those bible references were for the jews to marry inside the convenant. There were told to not marry gentiles. So in a way, they were seeing the passage correctly, but it applied more religously than geneticly IMO.

I am sorry, but this is a personal pet-peeve of mine - so Mike - I HONESTLY mean no disrespect.....

When you talk about the Bible - please, please, please CAPITALIZE the word! The same goes when talking about nationalities or races, such as Jewish people - so write Jews, not jews.

It is just a matter of respect and recognition. The same goes for Gentiles and any other "race" or "nationality."

[bumblebee]

Now here's a kicker! My parents have always told me to date within my "own kind" and in doing so...I've never dated a sheep, a cow or a monkey.

Reason they stated that, they interpreted the Bible in saying that it tells you to stay within your "own kind"....which I understand to mean, no bestiality!

Just my 2 cents on the matter....

Keith

And your parents are right IMO! There is a reason why dogs and rabbits don't mate! There is also different colors and cultures for a reason.

[Deveninny]

And your parents are right IMO! There is a reason why dogs and rabbits don't mate! There is also different colors and cultures for a reason.

That being the case with dogs and cats, that would mean only Collies should only be bred with Collies...and so on.

That statement makes no sense to me. So your saying a Italian man should not be with a French woman....really? Colors are adapted to certain cultures and geographics. A white person is much more likely to burn and have serious skin issues in Africa and a African person has a definate disadvantage to the climates of the North-Eastern US.

Keith