Does Your Partner Know Your On The Board

[kitkatty]

I have a question? How many people that are writing on these boards know that their partner or friend is on here? I know that I told my lover and he got very excited knowing that I am looking into every aspect of sexual techniques, etc.

[shygirl13]

Inlove,

It is interesting that you brought this up. I was going to post a question familiar. I have not told my husband that I have found this site. I ho however want to tell him and plan on telling him. I am just not sure how to tel him. I do not want him to think that our sex life is not good or that i an not satisfied. I am very happy but I would like to keep it great for the rest of our lives. So my question is, for those of you who have told the SO, how did you do it? Was your SO upset? Thanks for the help.

S

[roni]

my bf knows. at first i was afraid to tell him cause he is the insecure one when it comes to sex and was afraid he would think he is not pleasing me like i want. which he isn't at the moment. but this gives me a chance to bring up subject on the topics here and discus them with him and try to get him to open up some more,,,it works too! just not as fast as i would like.

[cdwaldorf]

I found this site through a parenting board and I told my husband when I received the free toy. He was more than excited and it doesn't bother him (thanks to Mikayla's articles) that I am here.

[thurisas]

My wife amazed me when she told me she was on this site. I was amazed that she was even interested in the type of exploration that we enjoy today. Needless to say, I'm the luckiest guy alive. I can't imagine most other guys not feeling the same once they've actually checked the site out and see what sort of advice is offered here.

Thurisas.

[Tyger]

Yes, my husband knows that I am on here. At first he was apalled that I admitted to what we tried in the bedroom. But, like I told him, only a few of my friends actually had the nerve to come on here, and only a couple of them have even met him, so, it's not like the whole world knows who I am, and who he is. LMAO

[kitkatty]

The more I have been thinking about this, the thought if you have not told your SO is that you have been reading articles and learning new techniques, you would think that your SO would appreciate you taking the time to look things up to make your sex life a little spicier. I know my SO loves it when I tell him about what I have read here.

[HornToad]

My beautiful Wife not only knows that I pop in now and then on this board, she has found the favorite link on our server and poped in herself! At least her BJ's have improved 100% thanks to her reading Mikayla's article on How to deep throat. THANK YOU MIKAYLA! It IS so wonderful that she is willing to try and improve our sex life, (me too). It is making a huge diffrence in our marriage. I hope she reads all of the articles of intrest to her, and points out the ones I need to read! I only wish there were sites like this available when I was younger, and much dumber. I sure could have used the great advise / wisdom of all of you around here.

I am surprised that it seems that there are not too many gentlemen around here though! I really enjoy seeing the feminine point of view in many of the threads. It helps my level of understanding. I hope more people find this great board! (Sorry I could not get the spell checker to work! This HornToad could never spell!)

HornToad

[Mikayla1]

My beautiful Wife not only knows that I pop in now and then on this board, she has found the favorite link on our server and poped in herself! At least her BJ's have improved 100% thanks to her reading Mikayla's article on How to deep throat. THANK YOU MIKAYLA! It IS so wonderful that she is willing to try and improve our sex life, (me too). It is making a huge diffrence in our marriage. I hope she reads all of the articles of intrest to her, and points out the ones I need to read! I only wish there were sites like this available when I was younger, and much dumber. I sure could have used the great advise / wisdom of all of you around here.

I am surprised that it seems that there are not too many gentlemen around here though! I really enjoy seeing the feminine point of view in many of the threads. It helps my level of understanding. I hope more people find this great board! (Sorry I could not get the spell checker to work! This HornToad could never spell!)

HornToad

YOU ARE VERY WELCOME - I am pleased I could be of assistance!

Of course my hubby knows I am on this site - he posts here too! I also told him right away that I was on here - cause we are an equal partnership, and I do not like to keep things from him.

[ToyQueen]

I do not have a partner per se, but the only man I have been intimate with lately knows that I am on here. We talk about the things I read. It makes for some interesting IM conversations!!

[Valntyn]

Seeing as my husband AND my best friend who got me here have BOTH already posted, I'd have to answer, yes, they know.

[girlyart]

My Hubby has no clue!! My dirty secret!!

girlyart

[ShyBear]

My guy does not know I am on here...yet. Maybe down the road, once I see we are doing well in our relationship, I will let him into my world here. He knows that I have toys, and that I read articles pertaining to sex and so forth but no clue that I discuss the intimate details of our relationship. I am not ready for him to know...

[jesso]

My SO knows and loves it! He's involved in quite a few other forums and hasn't made his way over here yet. I do as well have a few friends I've introduced to this site on the board now.

[Kirk]

I mentioned it to my wife shortly after I found TT, but she told me that she could care less what a bunch of perverts and sex addicts talked about even though I explained to her that I was here only to learn new things and give her bigger and better orgasms. She is content and happy with our relationship and isn't too keen on getting out of her comfort zone.

[joey9817]

I am in a tough situation.....My wife is very wierd when it comes to anything she thinks is pornographic...and she would see this as that due to stories and such. She was molested in some ways as a child and that gived her some hangups that she wont let go of. Our sex life is good and has really been improving,,it has its ups and downs at times of course, but here lately she is really opening up in the sex dept....

We have been together for close to 16 years...we got together at a very early age..her 15 and me close to 17 and had our first child close to a year later. But one of our biggest issues over the years has been porn....I love it and am very comfortable with it...she on the other hand gets very uptight and emotional about it............

we have some good sex sessions..and she loves when I do down on her...but she is a little put off by going down on me...I have only climaxed once in my life from oral sex. the last few years I have gained weight and I feel like my stomach turns her off when she is going down on me..that could just be an insecurity of mine though..she just does not find anything attractive about a penis...I can see her viewpoint there! lol But she has really started to open back up in the last few months..she started shaving it all....more frequent toy play, and its not rare for her to orgasm at least twice during sex be it from oral or penatration.

I got off topic a bit there..but yea..she does not know.

[paula2]

My boyfriend just looked at the screen while I was commenting on toy size... I honestly felt a little busted, but why, I already told him I was on here. He made a joke about me cheating on him, and said he wouldn't care if I was telling some guy I want to "slob his knob"... But I dont want to be out here being out there with a bunch of guys... Im really here because I want tips -lots of tips -on how to be a better lover. I love him, and we have the best sex ive ever had in my life. I want more! And I want to make him feels as good as he makes me feel. I hope he doesn't take this all the wrong way, I just want to be "all that"... Sexy AND monogomous. I dont want him to be jealous, I think he wont.

[Kinky Twinkie]

My boyfriend just looked at the screen while I was commenting on toy size... I honestly felt a little busted, but why, I already told him I was on here. He made a joke about me cheating on him, and said he wouldn't care if I was telling some guy I want to "slob his knob"... But I dont want to be out here being out there with a bunch of guys... Im really here because I want tips -lots of tips -on how to be a better lover. I love him, and we have the best sex ive ever had in my life. I want more! And I want to make him feels as good as he makes me feel. I hope he doesn't take this all the wrong way, I just want to be "all that"... Sexy AND monogomous. I dont want him to be jealous, I think he wont.

I with you on having it be all it can be, my wife knows I get on regulary. I tell her of some of the conversations and topics but she has yet to get on. She looked over my shoulder once or twice but that is all. I was hoping she would get on but not yet happened, I keep suggesting she should explore it. But it just as well, if she saw half of what I have posted she would whip my ass in a not so pleasurable way

Glenn

[uninhibitedmama]

My husband knows, not sure if he has read what I have posted here but he does on another forum. It ha sdone nothing but improve our sex life so he is happy!

[foryoureyesonly]

My DH definitely knows I'm on here and posting. However, I will say he doesn't know that I have changed my id. I did this because I have shared this site with my adult children and I'm just not ready for them to be able to identify exactly who I am. He also gets on and reads the articles, but, as yet, hasn't posted. I can't really see him sharing on here because it just isn't his thing to speak out publicly about sex. I can't tell you how much this site has improved our sexual relationship. After 22 years, we were definitely in a rut and in the last year and a half this has COMPLETELY turned around. He is very receptive to the info that he reads and also to me sharing what I have learned. I will second the thanks to Mikayla and add Mikayla's Man, Howard, Tyger and the many others that take the time to share, encourage, teach, and, on occasion, call us on the bullshit we have spent a lifetime believing. It's uplifting to know that there are many others out there that have the same insecurities, fears and misconceptions and not one of us is alone in this crazy thing we call love.

[Estarti]

He doesn't know I'm on this site specifically, because I browse a LOT of sex-ed resources and forums. He certainly doesn't mind... as I started getting better and more comfortable with sex he remarked "you are learning a lot," haha.

[sailorzelda]

Well, none of my friends know I'm on this site... My lover knows that I've purchased toys, but I can't remember if I told him from where...

Mostly, I feel like I need a place to discuss sex with someone who isn't him; does that sound weird? It's not at all that we don't communicate; we talk about sex (and everything else) all the time, but I like to get perspectives other than his, sometimes. My friends don't really talk much about sex; a few of them are too shy, and one of them seems actually uncomfortable with the subject altogether. So I like having this wonderful forum as my own little personal outlet...

[pappyld04]

Maybe it's just me but I fail to see the excuses for not telling them. I hide nothing from my partner. This site is more of an educational forum than a sex forum. Just because 99% of the posts are about sex doesn't mean anything. There are always people who have questions and should have a proper amount of experienced people to lead them down the proper path. Since they say that curiosity killed the cat wouldn't it also hold true that a lack of curiosity could kill a person? With all the STDs, inexperience, and the problems that arise in relationships there is nothing better than a place that you can go to and see that someone has either been there and has the solution or may not have been there but can give you some ideas on how to fix a problem.

[gemini26]

Well, seeing that a good friend of mine WORKS for TT and turned me on to it (pun somewhat intended)... I gotta say yes and yes. My man sees me on the site regularly and I have no hangups of telling him what I'm reading when he looks at me and says "Whatcha doin?" And quite frankly, I wish he was on here - but I can just keep on relaying the tips for now... I also tell my close friends about the site when the subject of toys come up... but now that it's mentioned, I need to start talking about the articles and forum more than just toys!

[pappyld04]

KirK: Your wife is just wrong on this. Sex is an important part of a relationship, and she has no right to ignor you desire to learn more. She needs to be learning with you. Judging those of us on thei forum without even reading our advice is insulting at the very least, and just plain stupid on her part at worst.

If you can't get her to change her mind, then get the both of you to a marriage counselor. She is on thin ice, and doesn't even realize the lake is thawing!

Best of wishes.

Howard

I think you should reconsider your answer here. Not only does she have EVERY right to choose what she does in her life, she also has every right to choose what she considers educational. Not one part of this question said anything about marriage trouble. His wife is probably one of those ladies that were brought up by a family that were very strict and closed minded in their views about sex. There are also women who have been abused who would never want to be here either. Counseling seems to be a general answer nowadays for every problem in the world. I personally disagree. There are too meny things that go far beyond a textbook. I have met many counselors who aren't smart enough to lead a child to a bathroom. Much less help someone with a real life problem. These educated idiots have no real life experience that would even be applicable. I have a college educated friend from your part of the world, who worked at NASA, who misspells at least half af anything he writes. The quality of education is seriously in need of reviewing at least. Another man I know graduated High School and he can neither read nor write.