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My wife gives the best blowjobs in the world... well.... almost.... she wont .... never.... ever.... ever let me cum on her face !!

I dont care about the swallowing... I really dont.... but I just want to be able to ... once in awhile... cum on her face.... not even all the time.... but sometimes... i just want a blowjob... not just a precursor to sex....

she just wont do it... she doenst think its degrading.... she doesnt know if it tastes bad.... cause she never does it.... she just thinks its 'gross'.... kinda like sushi... she doesnt like the it looks... so it must not be good !!?!?!?!?

how do i get her to get beyond this...

what can i do... trust me... i have done everything... even begging....

help

J

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As a woman I don't know lots of women (with the exception of pornos including amatuer) who do that. Personally, I don't have a problem with it but you have to think, what if it gets in your eyes? lol. Everyone has their turn-on's and their turn-offs as well. You think she gives a wonderful blow job right? Some things need to be left within the "fantasy" realm of things and for her maybe this is one of them. It sounds like this is really bothering you a lot. Lighten up a little. Try other things. Like will she let you come on her chest or her stomach? If not, DON'T feel upset. Fantasy is a wonderful thing. And in my opinion she's doesn't think you or your cumm is nasty, cumm on the face just isn't her style and that is fine. Like IHA said, you CANNOT force someone to do something they don't want to do. Don't take it personal. It's who she is and what she is comfortable with. She is your wife and I am sure she has at times done things for your pleasure...My advice is to respect her feelings on this because if Sex, even oral, becomes a touchy subject for the two of you....there could be a whole lot less "touching" in the future. It's good that you share your fantasies with her....but as I mentioned before....Some things are better left in the same way they come....this fantasy being one of them.

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I personally am like your wife in this, on my face no thanks all set.

You seem quite upset by this. Have you asked to cum on her chest?

What is it about this act that makes you want it so badly? Once you

figure out why you really want it, mabye you could talk to her again

and explain. take nymph's advice try making a trade. good luck!!

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I can't say I blame her on this. I don't like anything that I can't control on my face. It just makes me nervous. And, I don't like it when a man cums on me anyway. Maybe on the belly or chest, but I still don't overly care for it much.

Maybe a trade-off night is in order, if this is something you want to do. Like, you do something for her that you don't particularly seem overly interested in usually, and she lets you cum on her face?

A couple of clarifying questions, if you please? Why is this so important to you? Is this just a fantasy, or something you've experienced before, and liked?

If she doesn't like the looks of it, and has never tried it, she should be willing to try it at least once. That way, she can absolutely, 100% tell you that she does NOT like it. Kinda like a kid saying they don't like lima beans when they never tried it. You can't say you don't like something, for sure, until you've tried it. A great lover is one that is not only willing to please, but to be pleased too. They should also be willing to try new things, just to say they have, and to give their lover pleasure.

Best wishes to you both!

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I'm with Tyger and Froggy on this one. I struggle with anything wet on my face if I don't have control over it. I don't even like shower water on my face. Apparently this stems, for me, from a near drowning when I was young. I don't remember it, but it left me with a fear of water.

Perhaps your wife is dealing with something similar, and doesn't know it.

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YEAH..

its mostly just fantasy, and mostly cause i have never done it before..... ive never even had a swallower....

she lets me cum on her belly and her chest....

but i really, ust want that pornstar blowjob ya know...

just cause.... i have never had it.....

so, just looking for some advice, or some tips to try to help the situation.

also, i am not looking to forcer her... i would never do that !! i just was wondering if there were anyone out there who had a similar situation...

ya know.. kinda like sushi.... how can you say you dont like it... if youve never tried it ?? know what i mean...

what can i do to at least have her try it.... then... if its still no.... then ill let it be....

catch my drift ????

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YEAH..

its mostly just fantasy, and mostly cause i have never done it before..... ive never even had a swallower....

she lets me cum on her belly and her chest....

but i really, ust want that pornstar blowjob ya know...

just cause.... i have never had it.....

so, just looking for some advice, or some tips to try to help the situation.

also, i am not looking to forcer her... i would never do that !! i just was wondering if there were anyone out there who had a similar situation...

ya know.. kinda like sushi.... how can you say you dont like it... if youve never tried it ?? know what i mean...

what can i do to at least have her try it.... then... if its still no.... then ill let it be....

catch my drift ????

Do what you've done here. Talk to her. Tell her EXACTLY what you have told us in this last post. If I were your wife and you could be this honest and open with me, I would be willing to try it at least once. Still, you do need to give her some time to adjust to the idea of it if she is willing. (Meaning don't expect it within seconds of discussion should she agree.) I think we all want sex at some time or another like they have in the movies...It's passioniate, erotic, thrilling, exciting, almost perfect in a sense-but that's the thing. It's a movie. These people get paid to be good and look good, and to let people cumm on their faces. So IF she should agree to this, don't expect it to be like you see in the porns, although you may be surprised IMO...(It could be the most thrilling moment of your oral sex life). Anyhow, wish I knew more to tell ya but I don't. If she doesn't want it, then it is my opinion that you should accept that and let it rest where it originated, in your fantasies. As you can see, she is not the only woman in the world who feels that way. To each his/her own.

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Don't push. Bring it up in a conversation and adult manner. Give all the information you've given here to her. After that, let her make her own decision. Pushing her, even verbally and even in a way YOU might think isn't pushing, will make it less likely to happen. Talking to her is key, though, for it plants the seeds in her mind that you might like this and at some point in time when she's feeling a bit more adventurous she just may surprise you.

Thurisas.

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As everyone has said, don't be overtly pushy about it, but definitely do talk to her about it. The more comfortable you get discussing any of these sexual issues with each other the better the chances for new exploration will be. Try to expose her to more even by getting her to read some of these posts or articles...the more she is exposed to different ideas from more people it might help her open up. And remember, time sometimes is on your side...what a person cannot fathom today may all of a sudden seem really intriguing down the road....(and then again, unfortunately, some people are just so closed off that they will just never advance to a point that will ever really be trully passionate, this I know :( ) just don't let any resentment build up here or you might stifle the whole process. Good Luck!

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Hold on a minute.....Didn't you start out by saying she is the best and gives the best BJ's? You're already way ahead of the game dude! This is just a little glitch in the road that you should be able to overcome whether she agrees to it or not. If she has been as responsive to you as you say, she will probably eventually agree to give it a go at least once, but I bet you find it was not that big of a deal after all. LOL!

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I know the thread has probably died by now but I'm going to post anyways...

hey your more ahead than most so be happy for what you got. everybody has one thing they won't do... and somethings you just know you don't/won't like, it's like instinctive..........

I feel the same way as your wife. i don't like it when anything is squirted on my face, especially not cum. he can cum anywhere else but not on my face. i love it on my stomach and chest and i swallow it for him when he cums in my mouth even though i really hate the taste.... just try to get it from her point of view...

tell her what you posted earlier and just ask her to give it a try. if she says no respect that. don't push it because then she'll just get pissed and won't ever do it. if she sees that you are respecting her wishes she might do it as an reward or something......

or offer a trade. if she want you to do something then say you will only if she lets you cum on her face..... or something me and my boyfriend do, we trade "do anythings" where I'll do something or make him do something and in return I'll give him a "do anything" and he can make me do anything he want or he can do anything he wants to me. (how else would he get all those pictures?) offer her a "do anything" in return or if she really wants you to do something make her give you a "do anything"

the number one thing is just don't push it.

(oh and don't do the whole "if you loved me you would let me" thing. I hate when my boyfriend does that to me and it just makes me more pissed and then I don't want to do anything. (and she might turn right around and go "if you loved me you wouldn't try to pressure me into doing anything I didn't want to" and if that happens- you lose.))

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I'm totally with Howard on this one. Why relationships on any level are one sided has been bothering me here lately. As long as no one is getting hurt, why not want to make each other happy. Shoot even if I'm giving head to a guy and we're out for the night and he cums on my face, I just re-apply make up! Would rather be giving head than be worried about how pretty I am. Pretty has been lonely too many times!

Those are just my thoughts.

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how do you let a guy cum on your face anyways? just stare at it, or turn your face to the side? i mean sometimes it doesnt even squirt high enough.

:-/

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how do you let a guy cum on your face anyways? just stare at it, or turn your face to the side? i mean sometimes it doesnt even squirt high enough.

:-/

Usually when finishing a blow job the man will pull out of your mouth and spray your face.

My husband comes pretty forcefully and it will usually hit my face or my breasts.

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just depends on the fun we're having. mostly i just open my mouth and they want to cum in that general direction and most of the time, they like to just cum on my cheeks. some men like slapping their cocks lightly on a woman's face. It's more of an attractive visual they're looking for more than anything dumb like - "let's see how much i can cum all over her face." you know what i mean?

later,

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I always swallow, and can't remember a time when my DH has opted to cum ON me instead of IN me.

However, I would be fine with him cumming anywhere on my body within the right circumstances. I mean, getting it all through my hair when we have a sneaky one somewhere is no good. But during one of our home sessions, why not? ;)

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I swallow, but i really don't like it on my face, I don't like a man to cum on me period tho

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Talk openly about it with her. That's about it. If she's not willing to do it, you're just going to have to use that image for "fuel for when you're bar-b-queing alone".

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I realize this thread is kind of old, but...eh, oh well. She may just not be into it. There's been some good advice in here, and hopefully that helps you, but the idea of someone cumming on my face makes me gag, and maybe that's a similar issue for her.

Also, she may be concerned that you're going to get it in her hair. It may sound silly, but it isn't. If it dried there, it would probably be harder to get out than bubblegum.

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Well, personally I don't think it's fair to demand that of her. I don't like semen on my skin (it makes one break out) and it is in fact, degrading, it's in essence an act of humiliation.

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Well, personally I don't think it's fair to demand that of her. I don't like semen on my skin (it makes one break out) and it is in fact, degrading, it's in essence an act of humiliation.

I TOTALLY, 100% disagree with this statement! It is not degrading for a man to share the essence of his excitement, his lust, his total climatic end with you! It is only degrading if the entire act is degrading, or if he is doing it against your will.

I think some women are very misinformed about this because of the porn movies where men circle jerk on a woman's face, or the fact that many women think porn is degrading.

The fact is, it is subjective to personal opinion. If YOU feel degraded because your man cums on your face - then YOU feel that way. There are many other women (myself included) that love to see the physical result of his excitement for me. While I will not say that having cum on my face is something I want ALL the time, I definitely find it hot. In NO WAY is my hubby degrading me or do I ever feel humiliated by it. Why would I?

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Some women view it as a turn on because it's humiliating. It's undoubtedly an act of dominance, and as I prefer to be the dominant party in my relationships I find the idea of being dominated by a partner uncomfortable.

If it didn't make me break out, however, I would allow my partner to come on my face/breasts (hypothetically if he wanted to) provided he licked up every last drop... seeing a guy taste himself is a huge turn on.

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As a person who is very much into Domination and submission, I would again disagree that it is a form of domination. It COULD be a form of domination, if the purpose is to do something that your partner doesn't like, or to play out the idea that you are 'marking your territory' - which is how many women perceive it.

As I said in my previous post, I like it because it is a physical representation of my husband's excitement and climax. I do not find it arousing because it is humiliating. I do not play that way when it comes to ejaculation. I, in fact, simply like to see him cum.

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